{"id":19184,"date":"2019-12-28T13:13:32","date_gmt":"2019-12-28T13:13:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19184"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:41:23","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:41:23","slug":"a-verdade-e-que-ele-nao-esta-emocionalmente-destrocado-e-apenas-um-idiota","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-verdade-e-que-ele-nao-esta-emocionalmente-destrocado-e-apenas-um-idiota\/","title":{"rendered":"A verdade \u00e9 que ele n\u00e3o est\u00e1 emocionalmente abalado - \u00e9 apenas um idiota"},"content":{"rendered":"

A verdade engra\u00e7ada sobre todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es humanas \u00e9 que temos tend\u00eancia para justificar as ac\u00e7\u00f5es das pessoas de quem gostamos profundamente. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Actually, we want to justify to ourself the fact that we love someone who clearly doesn\u2019t deserve our love and who doesn\u2019t deserve a place in our life so we make excuses for that person\u2019s behavior. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

We feel humiliated and foolish for caring for someone we know is not good for us and maybe is not even a good person in general but our heart refuses to accept this notion and constantly tries to see what lies behind this person\u2019s behavior toward us.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

It\u2019s the same with you and this one guy in your life. From the moment you met him, he made some things clear. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ele deixou claro que n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma pessoa que esteja disposta a comprometer-se e que possa dar-te o <\/span>o amor que mereces<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Mesmo que ele provavelmente nunca lhe tenha dito algo assim em voz alta, ele demonstrou-o atrav\u00e9s das suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

And ever since you met him, he has done nothing but cause you pain. You suffered a lot because of him and the way he\u2019s been treating you but even all of that didn\u2019t chase you away from him. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

S<\/span>o it\u2019s evident you have something that keeps you around this guy.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

\u00c9 claro que \u00e9 evidente que tem sentimentos profundos por ele. Ama-o e faria tudo para que ele a amasse tamb\u00e9m. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

But somehow, that isn\u2019t happening, despite all of your efforts.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Embora este homem seja um idiota para si a maior parte do tempo, sempre que quer sair desta situa\u00e7\u00e3o, ele faz algo para a fazer repensar a sua decis\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

He does something which makes you give him another chance, even though he clearly doesn\u2019t deserve it. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ele d\u00e1-te um pouco do seu amor e aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span>\u2014<\/span>apenas o suficiente para te manter por perto. E isto \u00e9 algo a que nos agarramos durante meses.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

After a lot of thought, you\u2019ve reached a conclusion. You\u2019ve come to think that this man is actually <\/b>emocionalmente afetado<\/b> <\/a>e quebrado e que esta \u00e9 a causa de todos os seus problemas. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

\u00c9 esta a causa do seu comportamento para consigo e \u00e9 isto que fez dele o homem que \u00e9 hoje. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

This is why he doesn\u2019t want to commit and why he doesn\u2019t want to open up to you or show you his life. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

Porque \u00e9 \u00f3bvio que ele j\u00e1 foi magoado no passado e n\u00e3o est\u00e1 disposto a permitir que isso volte a acontecer.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

\u00c9 algo que nos faz pensar que ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 t\u00e3o mau como parece e \u00e9 algo que nos faz justificar o seu comportamento para connosco. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

You simply assume that this guy needs your love to change, that he needs your guidance and support through life and that you can\u2019t leave him hanging. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

V\u00ea-se a si pr\u00f3pria como uma super-mulher cuja tarefa \u00e9 salvar este homem e curar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Bem, detesto ter de ser eu a dizer-lhe isto, mas \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que este homem n\u00e3o esteja emocionalmente danificado ou quebrado. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

O mais prov\u00e1vel \u00e9 que ele seja apenas um <\/b>homem t\u00f3xico que faz jogos mentais<\/b><\/a> sem qualquer motivo.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

I know you are trying to get to the bottom of his behavior and that you are trying to find the reason for the way he\u2019s been treating you but it\u2019s time to accept that some men do this and there is nothing you can do about it.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

I know this is painful for you to hear but I don\u2019t want you to think that this guy loves you somewhere in the depths of his heart and that you just need to try a little bit harder for this love to come to the surface. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that he is actually running away from his feelings for you because he is scared of their intensity. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that he is petrified that you would hurt him and that this is why he refuses to give himself completely to you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want you to think that there is a vulnerable, little boy, waiting to be loved, hidden inside of this man.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Porque nada disso \u00e9 verdade.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Este homem tem estado simplesmente a servir-se de si, do seu amor e da sua bondade. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ele est\u00e1 a us\u00e1-la para o seu ego, para o sexo ou apenas porque gosta de ser amado por si ou de ter sempre algu\u00e9m para o apoiar.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Seja como for, o objetivo \u00e9 o mesmo<\/span>\u2014<\/span>deixar de o justificar<\/span><\/a> because it\u2019s about time you look the truth in the eyes.<\/span> <\/p>\r\n\r\n

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The funny truth about all human relations is that we have a tendency to justify the actions of the people we care for deeply. Actually, we want to justify to ourself the fact that we love someone who clearly doesn\u2019t deserve our love and who doesn\u2019t deserve a place in our life so we make…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":19185,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19184","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/marcelo-matarazzo-303795-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19184","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19184"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19184\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19185"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19184"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19184"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19184"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}