{"id":19261,"date":"2021-05-02T07:29:52","date_gmt":"2021-05-02T07:29:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19261"},"modified":"2022-03-17T01:26:54","modified_gmt":"2022-03-17T01:26:54","slug":"porque-e-que-os-homens-precisam-de-espaco-numa-relacao-e-como-lidar-com-isso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-os-homens-precisam-de-espaco-numa-relacao-e-como-lidar-com-isso\/","title":{"rendered":"Porque \u00e9 que os homens precisam de espa\u00e7o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e como lidar com isso"},"content":{"rendered":"

When your significant other says he needs some space, or he starts to distance himself to make some, you dread the worst. You fear that \u201cspace\u201d means he\u2019s had enough of your relationship and wants out. You fear that all he wants is para acabar consigo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Mas, por vezes, a \u00fanica raz\u00e3o pela qual os homens precisam de espa\u00e7o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e pela qual os homens se afastam em primeiro lugar \u00e9 porque precisam de uma oportunidade para criar algum espa\u00e7o para si pr\u00f3prios enquanto continuam a estar com outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s perfectly normal. Two people in a relationship need to hold on to their individuality and their own life that they have outside of the relationship, not only the one they\u2019re creating together.<\/p>\n

It may sound abstract, but granting space and freedom \u2013 aka spending time apart in a relationship \u2013 pulls you closer.<\/p>\n

A desvantagem de precisar de espa\u00e7o \u00e9 que os homens e as mulheres t\u00eam uma perce\u00e7\u00e3o diferente desse espa\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

Women have a hard time accepting it and that\u2019s why when men say they need space. On the other hand, women assume the worst and go into this state of confusion and sadness, while the men had no intention of making them feel that way.<\/p>\n

To make things a bit more clear, let\u2019s look at the possible reasons why men say they need space.<\/p>\n

Not only that: here are also the ways to deal with it- successful ways that will increase your chances of saving your relationship and creating an even firmer bond. So, let\u2019s get started!<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que os homens pedem espa\u00e7o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

H\u00e1 mais do que uma raz\u00e3o para os homens precisarem de espa\u00e7o. Alguns pedem-no porque precisam dele para resolver as coisas, alguns s\u00e3o evitadores<\/a> que t\u00eam medo de se apegar demasiado, enquanto que, em alguns casos, o seu comportamento carente \u00e9 a raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Either way, the most important thing for you to understand is that this is perfectly normal. Just because your partner wants some time and space for himself- it doesn’t mean he wants out of the relationship.<\/p>\n

It’s natural that we all want some privacy and that’s all he’s asking for. But let’s check every possible reason why guys need space, to make things a bit clearer for everyone out there wondering.<\/p>\n

Apego<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/a>Algumas mulheres tornam-se pegajosas<\/a> without even being aware of it. It\u2019s like a natural reflex.<\/p>\n

This kind of behavior is nothing uncommon. It’s natural for you to be as close as possible to your loved ones.<\/p>\n

You feel for this guy and now you want to spend every second of your free time with him. You just can’t get enough of him and you’re not realizing that you’re actually suffocating him.<\/p>\n

Ou as suas fontes de apego voltam a as suas inseguran\u00e7as<\/a>. Isto tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 algo que muitas mulheres fazem.<\/p>\n

When a relationship starts feeling a bit more serious, they hold onto their partner more tightly because they\u2019re scared of things not working out.<\/p>\n

Assim, sufocam involuntariamente a rela\u00e7\u00e3o, ficando obcecados e analisando excessivamente todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es, insistindo em estar em contacto constante (especialmente atrav\u00e9s de mensagens de texto), passando o m\u00e1ximo de tempo poss\u00edvel com o parceiro e n\u00e3o lhe dando espa\u00e7o para respirar.<\/p>\n

Infelizmente, na maioria dos casos, obt\u00eam o resultado oposto: acabam por perseguir o gajo<\/a>. If you are guilty of this, let me tell you a little secret: your man will get tired of you if you’re available 24\/7.<\/p>\n

Besides, the harsh truth could be that he feels trapped and caged. Without even being aware of that, you’re taking away his freedom.<\/p>\n

You’re trying to wipe off the life he had before you- like his only role in life is to be your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Eu sei que isto \u00e9 dif\u00edcil de engolir, mas se se pergunta porque \u00e9 que os homens precisam de espa\u00e7o, o seu apego pode ser a resposta.<\/p>\n

O que fazer?<\/h4>\n

A coisa mais importante a fazer aqui \u00e9 ser capaz de admitir para si mesmo que \u00e9s pegajoso<\/a> e ver o que pode fazer para o ultrapassar<\/a>. Os seus receios s\u00e3o provavelmente infundados e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de colocar esse tipo de press\u00e3o no seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Por isso, se for esse o caso e ele disser que precisa de espa\u00e7o, d\u00ea-lhe esse espa\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

Ocupe a sua mente consigo mesma, trabalhe em algo que a apaixone. Concentre-se nas suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades e no seu pr\u00f3prio bem-estar, em vez de ficar obcecada com ele.<\/p>\n

Create; discover; don\u2019t let your feelings and fears be what ruins your relationship. Because if space is really the only thing he needs, your relationship will prosper \u2013 there\u2019s no doubt about it.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, isto ir\u00e1 <\/a>d\u00ea-lhe uma oportunidade de sentir a sua falta<\/a>. You’ll show him that you’re perfectly fine without him and that will make him realize he can lose you any time. <\/a><\/p>\n

As coisas est\u00e3o a andar demasiado depressa<\/h3>\n

\"homemA principal raz\u00e3o pela qual um homem teme o compromisso \u00e9 o facto de acreditar que, se as coisas forem mais s\u00e9rias, perder\u00e1 a sua liberdade.<\/p>\n

They all have that one friend or a few of them who \u201cstopped being themselves\u201d after being in a committed relationship \u2013 they never have time to hang out, they don\u2019t do things they like, and their girlfriend calls every few minutes to check-in.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want to share their fate, so ele afasta-se<\/a> e procura um espa\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

O que fazer?<\/h4>\n

The worst thing to do here is to not grant him that space. In that case, you’ll just show him that his fears are reasonable.<\/p>\n

Do the opposite. Show him that you won’t do anything to cancel his independence.<\/p>\n

Incentive-o a sair com os amigos, apoie-o quando ele tiver um novo objetivo, dar-lhe algum tempo para si pr\u00f3prio<\/a> when he asks, don\u2019t text him often.<\/p>\n

Confie nele. Se lhe der espa\u00e7o, ele vir\u00e1 ter consigo a seu tempo; s\u00f3 precisa de se sentir livre para fazer as coisas de que gosta.<\/p>\n

Compreender os homens \u00e9 pensar no que eles querem e no que precisam.<\/p>\n

E o que eles querem e precisam \u00e9 de um espa\u00e7o emocional que os ajude a lidar com os seus sentimentos e com os problemas que possam estar a enfrentar no final do dia.<\/p>\n

And if you don\u2019t make sure to give your man that, he\u2019ll pull back. And when a man pulls back, it means hiding in his \u201cman cave\u201d and ignorar todas as suas mensagens de texto<\/a> e outras coisas do g\u00e9nero.<\/p>\n

Now, I know it\u2019s hard to stay indifferent to your feelings and I know it might sound counterintuitive to you, but it\u2019s of crucial importance that you stop holding him back and rather start encouraging him to be himself. Remember that he needs space!<\/p>\n

He has to feel that a relationship doesn\u2019t equate to putting chains on somebody.<\/p>\n

By giving him enough room, you will make him miss you when you aren\u2019t around. (Trust me, it\u2019s one of the best bits of relationship advice I\u2019ve ever received!)<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 5 coisas a fazer quando ele se afasta<\/a><\/p>\n

Ele precisa de tempo para lidar com os seus pr\u00f3prios problemas<\/h3>\n

\"homemQuando os homens est\u00e3o stressados, sobrecarregados de trabalho, tristes ou, de um modo geral, se sentem mal, procuram a solid\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ll create some distance. That \u201crule\u201d applies to all men on earth and all types of relationships \u2013 high school romances, serious relationships, almost relationships, you name it.<\/p>\n

And no, it won\u2019t be because they lost all their feelings for you or have any intention of hurting you. The only reason why men need space and why they pull back is because they are programmed that way.<\/p>\n

The main culprit for misunderstanding here is gender differences. While a woman would immediately talk to somebody and pour her heart out in a bad situation, a man does the opposite: he withdraws and excludes everyone around him. He doesn\u2019t want to talk about it or even deal with it.<\/p>\n

O que fazer?<\/h4>\n

Try to understand where he\u2019s coming from. Don\u2019t try and force things out of him.<\/p>\n

Observe-o, pois talvez j\u00e1 saiba porque \u00e9 que ele est\u00e1 a agir de forma estranha e distante de repente.<\/p>\n

The main reason he doesn\u2019t come to talk to you openly about his problems is that he doesn\u2019t want to appear weak in your eyes. Give him as much space and time as he needs to come around and talk to you because, trust me, that\u2019s exactly what your guy needs!<\/p>\n

Keep in mind that it probably has nothing to do with you or anything concerning your love life, he\u2019s just dealing with his own issues in his own way.<\/p>\n

And once you give him some space, he\u2019ll feel the need to talk to you the next day, the day after that, or in a few days for sure.<\/p>\n

Mal-entendidos ou problemas na rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

\"casalThe same behavioral pattern as to when he has his own issues to deal with will arise when a relationship goes through some problems or obstacles. Instead of talking about it, he\u2019ll stay silent and mudar o seu comportamento<\/a>.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t say that he feels like you don\u2019t understand him or that something is not working right, because these aren\u2019t \u201cmanly\u201d things to say.<\/p>\n

O que fazer?<\/h4>\n

The only solution he\u2019ll see is to take a step back and figure out where everything is heading.<\/p>\n

This is the time when you have to speak up. If you are under the impression that things aren\u2019t right between you, you have to find a way to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Ask him what the problem might be. Ask him why he no longer tells you \u201cI love you\u201d or why he no longer texts first, or whatever the case may be. And whatever he tells you, don\u2019t overreact or go into defense mode.<\/p>\n

Conseguir\u00e1 muito mais se ouvir e tentar ver as coisas da perspetiva dele.<\/p>\n

If you can understand him, then you can find a solution and work on the problem, and avoid making even bigger ones by ignoring them and sweeping them under the rug. They are bound to come out \u2013 it\u2019s just a matter of time.<\/p>\n

Whatever his reason for needing space might be, you have to remember that 95% of the time it doesn\u2019t have anything to do with you and everything to do with him.<\/p>\n

Os homens e as mulheres t\u00eam uma estrutura diferente e t\u00eam formas diferentes de lidar com determinadas situa\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why they hit rough patches and at times fail to communicate that easily.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Ser\u00e1 que ele precisa de espa\u00e7o ou j\u00e1 acabou? (7 maneiras de saber)<\/a><\/p>\n

Questionamento a rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><\/h3>\n

\"retratoI’ll be honest with you here: even though, in most cases, asking for some room is not a red flag, sometimes it really can be alarming.<\/p>\n

Todos os especialistas em rela\u00e7\u00f5es lhe dir\u00e3o o mesmo: \u00e9 poss\u00edvel que o seu namorado queira passar algum tempo sozinho porque est\u00e1 realmente \u00e0 procura de uma oportunidade para refletir sobre a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

I’m not talking about the issues you two might have here only. Instead, I’m telling you he wants to take a break from you so he can figure out whether you’re the one or not.<\/p>\n

Este cen\u00e1rio \u00e9 mais prov\u00e1vel de acontecer quando a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o chega a uma certa encruzilhada.<\/p>\n

It can happen after a few months of your new relationship. You guys are done with casual dating, you have been together for a couple of months and it’s time to see where things are going.<\/p>\n

Tornar-se-\u00e1 exclusivo? \u00c9 uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria<\/a>? Or you’re not cut for each other and it’s best to split ways.<\/p>\n

You might be sure that you want the guy next to you as your boyfriend but hey, that doesn’t make him so certain.<\/p>\n

Sei que esta constata\u00e7\u00e3o ir\u00e1 provavelmente arruinar a sua autoestima, mas algumas pessoas precisam de mais tempo para se decidirem.<\/p>\n

O mesmo se passa com as rela\u00e7\u00f5es duradouras. Depois de tantos anos juntos, ele pergunta-se se ele quer mesmo passar o resto da sua vida contigo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I’m not saying that you’re necessarily pressionando-o a casar-se<\/a>. It’s just that he wants to think things through. Are you his happily ever after or not?<\/p>\n

O que fazer?<\/h4>\n

As much as these sorts of things can kill your self-esteem and make you question your own worth, please don’t look at everything so negatively. Let’s be realistic. Turn off your heart for just a moment and realize that you’re actually dealing with a mature man here.<\/p>\n

He probably didn’t choose the best way to deal with his dilemmas but hey, don’t we all have them? This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It’s just that he’s aware that sometimes love isn’t enough. He wants to think about your future together and about whether you’re compatible or not.<\/p>\n

Also, he wants to see if he can live without you. Well, if your man wants space- that’ exactly what he’ll get.<\/p>\n

Trust me, before you know it, he’ll start missing you like hell. Don’t chase after him, no matter what.<\/p>\n

Tens de satisfazer os seus desejos. Deixa-o ver como a vida dele seria terr\u00edvel sem ti.<\/p>\n

Medo de compromisso<\/b><\/h3>\n

\"umE se o seu homem estiver realmente apaixonado por si, mas tiver dificuldade em demonstr\u00e1-lo? E se ele estiver com medo do quanto ele gosta de ti<\/a>?<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o, n\u00e3o se trata apenas de uma treta que os rapazes dizem \u00e0s raparigas para terem o que querem - \u00e0s vezes \u00e9 mesmo verdade.<\/p>\n

Como v\u00eaem, este o homem tem fobia de compromissos<\/a>. But he isn’t actually scared of letting a girl in- he’s scared of heartbreak.<\/p>\n

Ao mesmo tempo, ele sabe que a \u00fanica forma segura de evitar ser magoado \u00e9 n\u00e3o se apegar demasiado emocionalmente.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, he didn’t count on loving you this much. Now that he’s become aware of his emotions, he wants to distance himself.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, he is too much in love with you to leave you just like that. So he finds a compromise: he still wants you in his life but doesn’t want to become emotionally dependent on you.<\/p>\n

I know what you must be thinking: you love this guy and he loves you back. So why can’t you just have a healthy relationship without all of this drama?<\/p>\n

Well, wouldn’t life be easier that way? Sadly, sometimes you run into obstacles, and here is one of them.<\/p>\n

O que fazer?<\/h4>\n

You’re dealing with a man who was emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel<\/a> at\u00e9 te conhecer. Parab\u00e9ns por teres derrubado as paredes dele, sem sequer o tentares fazer.<\/p>\n

What he has to understand is that you won’t break his heart. Don’t pressure him into anything he doesn’t feel ready for.<\/p>\n

But at the same time, make sure he knows he’s safe around you. Find a way to show him that you’re trustworthy and that you won’t use his vulnerabilities against him.<\/p>\n

Once your guy sees a best friend in you and once he realizes he can get emotionally naked in front of you- he’s all yours.<\/p>\n

Um caminho para a rutura<\/h3>\n

\"umThis one is the toughest. It’s something you’ve feared the most: your BF is \u00e0 procura de uma forma de acabar com a rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> convosco.<\/p>\n

He doesn’t have the courage to really do it. Instead, he tells you he wants to fazer uma pausa<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Of course, he doesn’t give you a valid reason for his change of heart. He just tells you that he wants to focus on his own needs and his own well-being for a while and that your relationship is taking too much of his energy and time.<\/p>\n

Before you know it, your best friend sees him with another girl. Of course, he doesn’t post anything about his new relationship on social media because he is hiding the real truth from you.<\/p>\n

Why? Well, besides being a coward, this man is also keeping you as his backup plan. He doesn’t want to technically dump you so he can come back if nothing else works out.<\/p>\n

In the meantime, he’ll be living a life of a bachelor. How convenient, isn’t it?<\/p>\n

O que fazer?<\/h4>\n

O primeiro passo \u00e9 ter a certeza das inten\u00e7\u00f5es dele. Lembre-se que esta nem sempre \u00e9 a resposta \u00e0 quest\u00e3o de saber porque \u00e9 que os homens precisam de espa\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

Once you confirm your doubts and realize that this is just an excuse for a breakup, don’t give him space only- largar este gajo <\/a>O MAIS DEPRESSA POSS\u00cdVEL!<\/p>\n

Beat him in his own game and show him that he can’t play with you the way he wants.<\/p>\n

Tell him that you’re the one who’s been craving space for some time now but you didn’t want to break his heart. You’re so happy he needs space because that’s exactly what you want too.<\/p>\n

I know this might be difficult to pull off but trust me- it’s the way to give him a taste of his own medicine. This man will eat himself alive once he sees how everything backfired on him.<\/p>\n

Dar espa\u00e7o a um homem funciona?<\/h2>\n

\"umaGiving him space is not always easy but sometimes, it’s the best thing you can do for your relationship. In fact, taking a break from your relationship can broaden both of your perspectives.<\/p>\n

First of all, it will give you a chance to see whether you want to live without each other. It will make you realize which one is true: “Distance makes the heart fonder” or “Out of sight, out of mind”.<\/p>\n

Of course, you don’t have to stop seeing each other completely for this arrangement to work. You can just reduce the number of your dates, phone calls, or texts.<\/p>\n

Or you can pretend that you’re in a long-distance relationship for a while- until you both figure things out.<\/p>\n

Os homens voltam depois de precisarem de espa\u00e7o?<\/h2>\n

\"umYour man is the one who asked for space but ironically, he’ll start to miss you once you grant his wishes. Deixa-o ir<\/a> and see what happens- it’s likely that he’ll come back sooner than you expect him to.<\/p>\n

But even if he doesn’t, it’s just proof that he never deserved you in the first place. You know what they say: Se gosta de algo<\/i>, deixar andar<\/i>. If it comes back to you, it’s yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.<\/i><\/p>\n

Considera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\n

The most common reason why men need space is because they are just wired that way and it\u2019s in their nature.<\/p>\n

He will need some actual space for himself, but that doesn\u2019t have to be something awful.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll still be around and attentive, but maybe the intensity will be reduced, which is quite normal when relationships get a bit more serious.<\/p>\n

Poder\u00e1 perder a quantidade de tempo que passam juntos, mas a qualidade ser\u00e1 muito maior.<\/p>\n

Algum espa\u00e7o para respirar d\u00e1-vos a oportunidade de sentirem a falta um do outro, e novos interesses e actividades que fa\u00e7am no vosso tempo a s\u00f3s tornar\u00e3o os vossos t\u00f3picos de conversa mais amplos e interessantes.<\/p>\n

Por isso, se pensarmos bem, dar espa\u00e7o um ao outro pode ser exatamente aquilo de que sempre precis\u00e1mos.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Ser\u00e1 que o assustei? (6 maneiras de saber com certeza)<\/a><\/p>\n

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