{"id":19444,"date":"2020-07-04T11:43:31","date_gmt":"2020-07-04T11:43:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19444"},"modified":"2022-03-15T00:39:17","modified_gmt":"2022-03-15T00:39:17","slug":"como-resolver-uma-relacao-unilateral-7-formas-eficazes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-resolver-uma-relacao-unilateral-7-formas-eficazes\/","title":{"rendered":"Como resolver uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o unilateral? (7 maneiras eficazes)"},"content":{"rendered":"

You know what\u2019s the worst feeling in the world? Giving your heart, body, and mind into the relationship and not getting anything back. Being all in for somebody who is just halfway there or not there at all.<\/p>\n

Wasting your time wondering where you stand and if they still care for you. Being somebody’s option while they are your priority.<\/p>\n

One-sidedness can really be exhausting. You feel like you are hitting a brick wall by trying to keep your relationship going and you are not getting anything in return. It\u2019s frustrating, painful and you have to do something about it.<\/p>\n

I know a lot of people would advise to simply end the relationship and move on with your life. At times, that\u2019s all you can do. <\/em><\/p>\n

Mas se ainda acha que h\u00e1 uma hip\u00f3tese de salvar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, acabar com ela deve ser o \u00faltimo item da sua lista. H\u00e1 coisas que podem ajud\u00e1-lo a colocar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o de novo no caminho certo.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, como resolver uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o unilateral?<\/strong><\/em>
\nFor starters, it\u2019s important to determine the signs of a one-sided relationship. When you get to the cause, it\u2019s easier to fix the problem.<\/p>\n

Toda a iniciativa parte de si<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u00c9s tu que normalmente mandas mensagens ou telefonas primeiro. O \u00faltimo encontro que tiveram foi ideia vossa.<\/p>\n

Foi voc\u00ea que sugeriu e organizou a vossa \u00faltima atividade e \u00e9 voc\u00ea que faz a maior parte dos planos, enquanto ele n\u00e3o est\u00e1 disposto a mexer um dedo. Continua a fazer planos s\u00f3 para poderem passar algum tempo a s\u00f3s, mas ele parece n\u00e3o perceber nada.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just that he does not plan. There are simpler things at stake, too. Making a phone call or texting just to check on you wouldn\u2019t cross his mind.<\/p>\n

Sure he responds when you text, but it\u2019s never right away. It always takes him a few hours or in worse cases, days.<\/p>\n

No fundo, quando se trata de qualquer coisa na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, voc\u00ea \u00e9 o iniciador e ele \u00e9 apenas um participante passivo.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s em baixo na lista de prioridades dele<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Tem a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de que tudo e todos v\u00eam antes de si.<\/p>\n

Embora largasse tudo para estar com ele, apercebe-se que ele s\u00f3 passa tempo consigo quando n\u00e3o tem nada mais interessante para fazer.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s ok that he spends his time pursuing his interests or sair com amigos<\/a>, but what\u2019s not ok is canceling plans last minute to make that happen.<\/p>\n

Ele devia cumprir as suas promessas e vir quando disse que viria. Ele est\u00e1 a mago\u00e1-la e voc\u00ea est\u00e1 a deixar que ele a trate como uma op\u00e7\u00e3o, enquanto ele \u00e9 a sua prioridade.<\/p>\n

Ele \u00e9 completamente ego\u00edsta<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

He can talk about something that happened to him for hours, but he can\u2019t spare a minute to listen to what you have to say. He never asks you how you are doing or how your day went.<\/p>\n

When you speak, he uses the phrase: \u201cYou never told me that\u201d way too often because he wasn’t really paying attention and he forgot all about it.<\/p>\n

His needs come first and he likes things being that way. He is used to you being at his beck and call and he’s taking you for granted.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t care what you feel like doing because he always insists on you doing what he wants. His selfishness can also extend to the bedroom and he will consider his pleasure only, not doing anything to satisfy you.<\/p>\n

Sente a necessidade de justificar os seus actos perante os seus amigos e familiares<\/h2>\n

\"A<\/p>\n

Nunca aparece onde \u00e9 suposto aparecer ou, se aparece, est\u00e1 sempre atrasado.<\/p>\n

Sente-se embara\u00e7ado e sozinho em reuni\u00f5es familiares ou encontros com amigos.<\/p>\n

You are always a phone call away when he needs you and you don\u2019t even know if he is going to pick up when you call him.<\/p>\n

Your loved ones often warn you that he is not treating you right and that you shouldn\u2019t allow it.<\/p>\n

But you keep justifying him and his actions by saying things like: \u201che is just having a tough time right now, he is stressed, overworked, underslept\u201d and the list goes on.<\/p>\n

Mas pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio: Est\u00e1 a justific\u00e1-lo a eles ou a si pr\u00f3pria? Talvez esteja apenas com medo de enfrentar o facto de estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o unilateral.<\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9s o \u00fanico a pedir desculpa<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Quando voc\u00eas os dois discutem, \u00e9s sempre tu que tens de ir ter com ele e resolver as coisas.<\/p>\n

Ele nunca \u00e9 o culpado e nunca vir\u00e1 ter consigo para pedir desculpa e assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you are the one who ends up apologizing for everything, for the things you have and haven\u2019t done.<\/p>\n

Ele distorce sempre a situa\u00e7\u00e3o para se beneficiar a si pr\u00f3prio. Diz que algo no seu comportamento o levou a agir assim, que o provocou e que, por isso, toda esta agita\u00e7\u00e3o foi culpa sua.<\/p>\n

Se ele a manipula desta forma, \u00e9 porque a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 unilateral.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t even bother to communicate<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t remember when was the last time you had an open and honest conversation because he never has time for that.<\/p>\n

Se quisermos falar sobre algum assunto, ele responde rapidamente e faz o poss\u00edvel para evitar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If he doesn\u2019t like what you have to say, he won\u2019t hesitate to give you the silent treatment.<\/p>\n

Ele pode ignorar as suas mensagens e telefonemas durante dias e depois telefonar-lhe do nada, agindo como se nada tivesse acontecido e ignorando completamente tudo o que tem para dizer.<\/p>\n

As suas palavras s\u00e3o vazias<\/h2>\n

\"casal <\/p>\n

Quando lhe disser que acredita que tudo vem do seu lado, que sente que \u00e9 a \u00fanica a investir e a esfor\u00e7ar-se, que se sente negligenciada, subvalorizada, n\u00e3o amada e que n\u00e3o lhe d\u00e3o valor, ele vai mostrar-se surpreendido e sem no\u00e7\u00e3o de tudo o que acabou de dizer.<\/p>\n

Algumas das coisas que ele pode dizer \u00e9 que est\u00e1 tudo bem, que n\u00e3o tem nada com que se preocupar ou que est\u00e1 a exagerar.<\/p>\n

As outras coisas ser\u00e3o que ele n\u00e3o fazia ideia de que te sentias assim e que far\u00e1 tudo para melhorar as coisas e para te tratar melhor.<\/p>\n

However, he will stay as he is and do nothing because he is really unaware of the problem or doesn\u2019t care enough to make an effort and make things work.<\/p>\n

Now that we have seen some of the most common signs, the question still remains, \u201cHow to fix a one-sided relationship?\u201d Well, you need to know that it won\u2019t be easy but there are some effective ways that can help you:<\/strong><\/p>\n

O seu parceiro tem de estar disposto a trabalhar na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

A unilateralidade foi o que vos meteu nesta confus\u00e3o, para come\u00e7ar. Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00f3 pode mudar para melhor se ambos estiverem dispostos a reconhecer que t\u00eam um problema.<\/p>\n

Se continuar a ser o \u00fanico a investir e a lutar pela sobreviv\u00eancia da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, isso n\u00e3o o levar\u00e1 a lado nenhum.<\/p>\n

Ambos t\u00eam de estar dispostos a fazer as mudan\u00e7as necess\u00e1rias, a esfor\u00e7ar-se e a investir igualmente na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. As rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o vias de dois sentidos e exigem reciprocidade.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why to leave the one-sidedness, you have to talk openly to your partner, make sure that you are on the same page and that you are both willing to do what it takes for things to work out.<\/p>\n

Seja direto quando fala com o seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

After you established that you both want your love to survive and this is just a bad patch\u2014not a bad relationship\u2014you have to keep talking.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t beat around the bush. Be open and honest. Tell him everything that\u2019s bothering you and make him see that everything is coming from you and he is not an active participant in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Diga-lhe como se sente e o que acha que deve fazer para efetuar as mudan\u00e7as necess\u00e1rias. O mais importante aqui \u00e9 que a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o seja feita nos dois sentidos.<\/p>\n

Ou\u00e7a o que ele tem para dizer. Talvez haja coisas que esteja a fazer que o estejam a magoar. Mantenha uma mente e um cora\u00e7\u00e3o abertos.<\/p>\n

Lembrem-se: se ambos estiverem envolvidos, se gostarem um do outro, se realmente se ouvirem, este \u00e9 apenas um per\u00edodo dif\u00edcil que ir\u00e3o ultrapassar juntos.<\/p>\n

Certificar-se de que h\u00e1 ac\u00e7\u00f5es e n\u00e3o apenas palavras<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Depois de falar sobre o assunto com o seu parceiro, tem de verificar se ele est\u00e1 a cumprir o que prometeu.<\/p>\n

Chegaram a um acordo em que ambos est\u00e3o metidos nesta confus\u00e3o e concordaram em dar o vosso melhor e trabalhar efetivamente na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

His efforts have to match yours, otherwise it\u2019s all in vain.<\/p>\n

If you see that things are not working, talk to him again and explain why you have no other choice but to leave. You have done your part and he couldn\u2019t stick to his, so he has really left you no other choice.<\/p>\n

Se ele se importasse, continuaria a fazer um esfor\u00e7o para continuar na sua vida, tudo o resto s\u00e3o desculpas, especialmente nesta altura.<\/p>\n

Falem com os vossos verdadeiros amigos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sometimes you need someone outside the relationship to hear you out. You need a true friend with whom to unwind and tell everything that\u2019s bothering you.<\/p>\n

Estes amigos podem oferecer novas perspectivas ou novos conhecimentos sobre a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 o mesmo que algu\u00e9m se intrometer na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Trata-se de uma esp\u00e9cie de terapia.<\/p>\n

You have the chance to unwind and you have an opportunity to see your relationship through somebody else’s eyes.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we are too close to see things clearly and our friend\u2019s words can make us come to some new conclusions and some new courses of action that can turn the one-sided relationship into a balanced and healthy one.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 importante lembrar que os nossos amigos s\u00f3 nos podem dar conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a> e, embora possa ser bom, tamb\u00e9m pode ser totalmente errado.<\/p>\n

Por isso, ou\u00e7a com aten\u00e7\u00e3o o que o seu amigo tem a dizer, mas seja ele a tomar a decis\u00e3o final.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t discard counseling so easily<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Muitas pessoas temem o aconselhamento porque t\u00eam medo de admitir que podem precisar de ajuda externa.<\/p>\n

But not finding help is the worst thing you can do when all of your other attempts at saving your relationship aren’t working.<\/p>\n

A consulta de aconselhamento pode ser muito positiva, especialmente se forem casados e\/ou tiverem filhos juntos.<\/p>\n

Os conselheiros relacionais t\u00eam o conhecimento e a experi\u00eancia, pelo que n\u00e3o s\u00f3 pode aprender muito com eles, como tamb\u00e9m o podem orientar na dire\u00e7\u00e3o certa.<\/p>\n

They are strangers and it\u2019s a lot easier talking to strangers and letting everything out in the open than it is talking to someone you know.<\/p>\n

If you can manage to persuade your partner to go to counseling, you\u2019ve already made progress because you see he is willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship last.<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a-o sentir a sua falta, concentrando-se em si<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Por mais estranho que possa parecer, a melhor forma de fazer com que as coisas voltem a funcionar \u00e9 redirecionar o foco da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o para si pr\u00f3prio. Distancie-se um pouco e d\u00ea \u00e0 sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o algum tempo para respirar.<\/p>\n

Envolver-se em novas actividades. Encontrar novos interesses para perseguir. Socializar mais.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not running away from your relationship problems. It\u2019s actually solving them in a quiet way.<\/p>\n

Se fores a \u00fanica a fazer planos, a telefonar e a estar demasiado dispon\u00edvel quando ele telefona, vais acabar com esse padr\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Ao dar alguns passos para tr\u00e1s, permitir\u00e1 que ele d\u00ea alguns passos em frente, ou melhor, em dire\u00e7\u00e3o a si.<\/p>\n

Se ele quiser v\u00ea-la, ter\u00e1 de fazer um esfor\u00e7o. Se ele quiser falar consigo, ter\u00e1 de ser ele a telefonar.<\/p>\n

Ele habituou-se a que seja voc\u00ea a tomar a iniciativa. D\u00ea-lhe espa\u00e7o para ser ele a ir atr\u00e1s de si, para variar.<\/p>\n

Take a risk – It\u2019s all or nothing!<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The thing is, when you are in a one-sided relationship, you are already alone. So by leaving, you to have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Sometimes people don\u2019t know what they have until they lose it.<\/p>\n

Gather up all of your courage and walk away from anyone who doesn\u2019t respect you and doesn\u2019t care enough to make you happy.<\/p>\n

If he comes after you, you still have a chance to make things work. Distance made him realize what he had in his hands all along and didn\u2019t know how to appreciate.<\/p>\n

He saw that life without you isn\u2019t the same and he wants to make it up to you.<\/p>\n

However, if he doesn\u2019t come after you when you leave, you to have nothing else left to do. As much as it pains you, you will see soon enough that it was for the best.<\/p>\n

Voc\u00ea j\u00e1 era o \u00fanico lado generoso da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e n\u00e3o perdeu nada. Apenas deu a si pr\u00f3pria a oportunidade de mudar para algo melhor ao deix\u00e1-lo ir.<\/p>\n

Besides the obvious question, \u201cHow to fix a one-sided relationship?\u201d there is one more that is closely intertwined and that\u2019s, \u201cIs your relationship worth fixing?\u201d That\u2019s one more major thing to think about.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, estamos t\u00e3o fixados em consertar coisas que n\u00e3o t\u00eam conserto e s\u00f3 acabamos por nos magoar ainda mais se insistirmos em que as coisas se resolvam.<\/p>\n

Tente ter uma vis\u00e3o clara da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Ponha os seus sentimentos de lado e veja se o seu parceiro vale mais esfor\u00e7o do que aquele que lhe deu.<\/p>\n

Is he a good man? Does he show any signs of toxic behavior? Trust your gut\u2014don\u2019t ignore that inner voice telling you it\u2019s time to walk away from him.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if your partner is a good man that just got lost somewhere along the way and forget about the fact that he has to be the one investing in the relationship too, following some of these steps\u2014especially the first three\u2014will come as a wake-up call to him.<\/p>\n

Ele vai perceber que cometeu um erro e que tem de se esfor\u00e7ar muito para a manter na vida dele. Se ele acordar e come\u00e7ar a fazer coisas que mostrem que a ama e que gosta de si, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 d\u00favida.<\/p>\n

Regardless of the final outcome, the important thing is that you have tried, so you won\u2019t have any regrets in the future.<\/p>\n

If you have done your best to make things work and the other side hasn\u2019t responded, it\u2019s their loss, not yours.<\/p>\n

You will at least know that you aren’t where you are meant to be and you will give yourself another chance.<\/p>\n

Reconstruir\u00e1s a tua vida e come\u00e7ar\u00e1s de novo. Por mais dif\u00edcil que possa parecer, ser\u00e1 ainda mais dif\u00edcil se ficar numa coisa unilateral.<\/p>\n

A rela\u00e7\u00e3o unilateral vai esgot\u00e1-lo emocionalmente, mago\u00e1-lo e esmag\u00e1-lo e, inevitavelmente, acabar\u00e1 num determinado momento.<\/p>\n

Love is worth fighting for, but you can\u2019t be the only one putting up the fight. Relationships are built for two.<\/p>\n

Todas as emo\u00e7\u00f5es, investimentos, esfor\u00e7os e sacrif\u00edcios t\u00eam de ser m\u00fatuos ou n\u00e3o t\u00eam valor.<\/p>\n

A relationship can\u2019t survive without reciprocity and that is the only truth.<\/p>\n

\"Como<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You know what\u2019s the worst feeling in the world? Giving your heart, body, and mind into the relationship and not getting anything back. Being all in for somebody who is just halfway there or not there at all. Wasting your time wondering where you stand and if they still care for you. Being somebody’s option…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":97084,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19444","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/How-to-Fix-A-One-Sided-Relationship-7-Effective-Ways.jpg",800,549,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19444","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19444"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19444\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/97084"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19444"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19444"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19444"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}