{"id":19495,"date":"2018-06-05T09:50:23","date_gmt":"2018-06-05T09:50:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19495"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:05:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:05:16","slug":"medo-e-fe-para-voltar-a-amar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/medo-e-fe-para-voltar-a-amar\/","title":{"rendered":"Medo e f\u00e9 para voltar a amar"},"content":{"rendered":"

When your heart has been broken, it can be scary to love again. When your heart and mind have been abused, it can be so difficult to love again. You can want to love again but something always holds you back. It’s like you escolher sempre o tipo errado<\/a> almost on purpose. It’s like there’s a sabotage button that you’re magnetically attached to. But usually when you look back you were right to push the button! He wasn’t right. He wasn’t the one to truly open your heart to again anyway.<\/p>\n

You think you’re ready because you’ve put yourself out there to date so you must be ready! Right? Maybe, maybe not. Just because your best friend cried for three months after a break-up and seemed to just glide into the next relationship does not mean there is something wrong with you because this hasn’t happened for you. It’s OK to take months or even years to open your heart again. Healing from a bad relationship is a bit like grieving, there is no set time for you to have to be OK!<\/p>\n

As women, we are often deep in discussion with friends about following our women’s intuition, trusting our gut feeling. There’s always that one friend who will insist that you MUST KNOW what your gut is telling you but don’t panic, it\u2019s OK to be completely confused.<\/p>\n

Fear can most definitely play nasty tricks on your mind. It’s like a little devil on your shoulder whispering doubts into your ear and making you ask questions.<\/p>\n

O medo \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m o senhor e mestre do temido pensar demais<\/a>!!!!! We all do it. It’s perfectly normal. You might run through previous conversations over and over, trying to find some hidden meaning you may have missed the previous eighteen times you replayed it in your mind. Maybe it’s reading a text conversation several times. Maybe it’s asking yourself a million questions, never actually answering even one of them before you’re onto the next…<\/p>\n

O medo pode lev\u00e1-lo a agir fora do seu car\u00e1cter! Alguma vez tiveste um sonho em que algu\u00e9m te tenha feito mal? Acordamos na manh\u00e3 seguinte e sentimos emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 pessoa com quem sonh\u00e1mos! Sabes que \u00e9 rid\u00edculo, mas sentes na mesma. Tal como o medo que se sente quando se espera o que parece ser uma vida inteira para receber uma mensagem de texto ou uma chamada daquele tipo.<\/p>\n

Depois ele telefona e tu ris-te para ti mesma, depois, do rid\u00edculo que fizeste. Estava presa na sua pr\u00f3pria mente como uma prisioneira.<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 que um dia conheces algu\u00e9m. Gostas dele. Ele gosta de si. Ele diz-lhe isso. Saem juntos. Mandam mensagens de texto totalmente disparatadas e uma chamada de cinco minutos pode durar trinta e cinco minutos. Anseiam por se voltarem a ver com uma excita\u00e7\u00e3o infantil.<\/p>\n

Ele faz-nos sorrir.<\/p>\n

Ele d\u00e1-vos o maior presente de todos.<\/p>\n

F\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Even with this guy, the little fear devil may come along for a quick visit. Let’s face it, it had been there through every first date you weren’t really wanting or ready to go on. Every time you potentially liked somebody but felt your guard go up when he did something that fed your fear. Every time you hit the sabotage button, it was the fear that made you do it.<\/p>\n

Mas deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa que aprendi. O medo pode ser o nosso pior inimigo. Pode trazer \u00e0 tona as inseguran\u00e7as mais destruidoras da alma e sentimentos de ansiedade.<\/p>\n

O medo tamb\u00e9m pode ser seu amigo.<\/p>\n

Lembra-se da confus\u00e3o intestinal de que falei anteriormente?<\/p>\n

It’s simply a battle between fear and faith.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 assim que o medo pode ser seu amigo. Enquanto o medo e a f\u00e9 lutam e somos apanhados num mundo de confus\u00e3o e sabotagem, permitimos que a f\u00e9 ganhe a guerra.<\/p>\n

If we had continued on and dragged out that potential relationship, hoping he would change or do differently whatever wasn’t feeling right, we would have allowed fear to win! In a lot of cases, probably that fear of being alone.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, somos livres de abrir a porta ao homem que nos d\u00e1 esse dom da f\u00e9. Ele faz-nos sorrir.
\nEle faz-nos rir.<\/p>\n

You don’t need to pretend with him. Being yourself with a guy feels good again. Even when you’re being a total nerd. Or rambling like a lunatic about something that excites you.<\/p>\n

Mesmo quando o medo se tenta insinuar, consegue permitir que a f\u00e9 domine.<\/p>\n

With him, it’s OK to be open. Fear isn’t something to be ashamed of and he gets it when you really open up and share with him.<\/p>\n

You realize you are beginning to have faith and maybe even love again…<\/p>\n

Nothing in this life is guaranteed but if you keep some faith in your heart and soul, it will always win…<\/p>\n

And to quote one of my favorite movies… ‘The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.\u201d<\/p>\n

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