{"id":19767,"date":"2020-06-12T11:16:58","date_gmt":"2020-06-12T11:16:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19767"},"modified":"2021-08-12T06:51:13","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T06:51:13","slug":"por-tua-causa-a-shell-pergunta-se-sempre-porque-e-que-ela-nao-pode-ser-suficiente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/por-tua-causa-a-shell-pergunta-se-sempre-porque-e-que-ela-nao-pode-ser-suficiente\/","title":{"rendered":"Por tua causa, ela vai sempre perguntar-se porque \u00e9 que n\u00e3o conseguiu ser suficiente"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sim, podemos magoar as pessoas ao ponto de elas nunca esquecerem as coisas que lhes dissemos ou fizemos. As coisas que dizemos e fazemos afectam as outras pessoas de formas que nem sequer imaginamos. <\/p>\n<p>Podemos magoar algu\u00e9m de prop\u00f3sito, mas tamb\u00e9m podemos dizer coisas com raiva ou dor que n\u00e3o queremos dizer, e seja como for, essas coisas ficam sempre algures no fundo da nossa mente e v\u00eam assombrar-nos quando menos precisamos. <\/p>\n<p>Someone once said that only those who we love the most have the power to hurt us the most. And when someone you love gives you pain in return, the scars of that love remain for far too long. Sometimes, you might even think you\u2019ve healed and then the past comes and pays you a visit to simply remind you that you should always be on guard. <\/p>\n<p>The things you did to her, the things you said to her and the way you treated the girl who just wanted to love you will always make her question her worth, will forever make her wonder why she couldn\u2019t be enough for you.<\/p>\n<p><b>Comparava-a sempre com os outros.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Apaixonou-se por ela tal como ela era mas, passado algum tempo, come\u00e7ou a querer mais, a querer algo diferente. Ent\u00e3o, em vez de a deixar em paz e encontrar algu\u00e9m que satisfizesse os seus crit\u00e9rios, continuou a pedir-lhe que mudasse. <\/p>\n<p>You kept comparing this already amazing girl and asking her why she couldn\u2019t wear her hair like this girl, or why she couldn\u2019t dress more like that girl, why she couldn\u2019t laugh differently\u2026 You kept saying how everyone else was doing great without ever bothering to give her credit for all the shit she put up with because of you.<\/p>\n<p><b>Continuou a escolh\u00ea-la em vez de outras. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>The moment you two decided to enter into a relationship, she should\u2019ve been put first, always first before anyone else. But instead of making her your priority, you started brushing her off. <\/p>\n<p>Havia sempre algu\u00e9m mais importante do que ela, havia sempre alguma outra coisa que era preciso fazer. Ela era sempre deixada \u00e0 espera ou mesmo dispensada \u00e0 \u00faltima da hora. A rapariga que lhe deu todo o seu tempo merecia mais do que isso.<\/p>\n<p><b>Continuaste a aumentar os defeitos dela. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>N\u00e3o, ela n\u00e3o era perfeita, mas tu tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o eras. O que a tornava t\u00e3o espantosa era o facto de ela tentar realmente ser a melhor vers\u00e3o de si mesma, de querer ser perfeita s\u00f3 para ti. Mas, no momento em que te fartaste dela, come\u00e7aste a falar de todos os seus defeitos e a ignorar todos os lados bons que ela tinha. <\/p>\n<p><b>Tudo o que ela fez foi cuidar de ti, mas tudo o que tu fizeste foi alimentar as inseguran\u00e7as dela.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Ela era tua desde o in\u00edcio. Ela disse-o alto e bom som, mostrou-lhe com as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es que s\u00f3 tinha olhos para si. Comprometeu-se totalmente contigo. Nunca tiveste de te preocupar com a solid\u00e3o, porque mesmo quando todos os outros te abandonavam, ela ficava ao teu lado. <\/p>\n<p>Por outro lado, a rapariga que te deu tudo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/deu-tudo-e-nao-recebeu-nada-em-troca\/\">n\u00e3o recebeu nada em troca<\/a>. Bem, na verdade, isso \u00e9 uma mentira. Ela foi constantemente lembrada de que n\u00e3o era suficientemente boa, aguentou todas as tuas agress\u00f5es emocionais quando n\u00e3o tinhas mais ningu\u00e9m para aliviar a tua raiva. <\/p>\n<p><b>Deixaste a tua assinatura nela. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>You didn\u2019t just sign your name on her skin, you carved it really deep. You constantly reminded her of what was wrong with her until she believed you. Now, even if someone would like to convince her of how pretty she is or how much of an amazing human being she is, she wouldn\u2019t believe it. <\/p>\n<p>She\u2019s gonna recover from the aftermath of your toxic love. She\u2019s gonna move on, that\u2019s for sure. Because you can\u2019t be the best she gets. She deserves more. But there will always be that part of her that will wonder why she couldn\u2019t be enough. <\/p>\n<p>Regardless of the amount of love she receives in life from now on, she\u2019ll always be afraid that at some point she won\u2019t be enough. Scars like this don\u2019t ever fade.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Yes, you can hurt people to the point where they\u2019ll never forget the things you said or did to them. The things you say and do affect other people in ways you can\u2019t even imagine. You might hurt someone on purpose but you may also say things in anger or in pain that you might&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":19768,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19767","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/dmitry-zelinskiy-30959-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19767","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=19767"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19767\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/19768"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=19767"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=19767"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=19767"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}