{"id":19872,"date":"2020-06-18T10:03:03","date_gmt":"2020-06-18T10:03:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=19872"},"modified":"2021-08-11T14:09:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T14:09:18","slug":"ao-homem-que-me-fez-duvidar-de-mim-proprio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ao-homem-que-me-fez-duvidar-de-mim-proprio\/","title":{"rendered":"Para o homem que me fez duvidar de mim mesmo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Quando se est\u00e1 numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com algu\u00e9m, \u00e9 natural que essa outra pessoa seja o vento mais forte para os nossos ventos.<\/p>\n<p>Esta pessoa deve ser o seu maior apoio e f\u00e3 n\u00famero um. Deve ser a primeira pessoa a empurrar-te para a frente quando te sentes em baixo ou quando est\u00e1s a passar por momentos dif\u00edceis.<\/p>\n<p>E, claro, tu deves agir da mesma forma para com ele.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 natural que os dois sejam parceiros e que se apoiem mutuamente.<\/p>\n<p><b>But you were never like this. I don\u2019t know whether <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/you-are-not-intimidating-he-is-intimidated\/\"><b>foi intimidado<\/b><\/a><b> pela minha for\u00e7a ou simplesmente era inseguro por natureza e queria arrastar-me para o seu n\u00edvel, mas o facto \u00e9 que estava sempre a fazer tudo o que estava ao seu alcance para me menosprezar e diminuir o meu valor.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Claro que, no in\u00edcio, as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es eram subtis.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-105537\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada no sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You weren\u2019t directly insulting me but you would always make sure to imply that you were better than me and that I was beneath you in every possible way.<\/p>\n<p>Mas com o passar do tempo, o facto de me maltratares e me diminu\u00edres em todos os sentidos tornou-se mais frequente, mais direto e menos subtil.<\/p>\n<p>Aproveitou todas as oportunidades poss\u00edveis para me fazer sentir mal comigo pr\u00f3pria e para alimentar as minhas inseguran\u00e7as.<\/p>\n<p>E, com o tempo, come\u00e7ou a insultar-me e a ridicularizar-me tamb\u00e9m \u00e0 frente dos outros.<\/p>\n<p>Quando me conheceste, eu era <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/8-caracteristicas-da-mulher-de-alto-valor\/\"> uma mulher de valor elevado <\/a> who knew her worth and you couldn\u2019t lower my self-confidence.<\/p>\n<p><b>Mas com o passar dos anos, de alguma forma conseguiste entrar na minha cabe\u00e7a e comecei a questionar se tudo o que me dizias era realmente verdade.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-105538\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada no ch\u00e3o\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b>Com o passar dos anos, tornei-me uma rapariga que questionava todos os seus passos, uma rapariga que questionava o seu valor e uma rapariga que, por vezes, at\u00e9 duvidava da sua sanidade mental.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Comecei a duvidar se era suficientemente bonita ou bela, se era suficientemente inteligente e se merecia que estivesses comigo.<\/p>\n<p>Whenever I would put my mind to something, there was your voice in the back of my head, telling me I wouldn\u2019t make it and telling me I should quit.<\/p>\n<p>Comecei a duvidar das minhas capacidades e aptid\u00f5es em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a tudo na vida.<\/p>\n<p>Comecei a duvidar e a questionar a minha carreira, a minha rela\u00e7\u00e3o com as outras pessoas e <b>Acima de tudo, comecei a duvidar da minha rela\u00e7\u00e3o comigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>I started questioning myself about if I was lovable and if I was worthy of anyone\u2019s respect and appreciation.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-105539\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-young-woman-in-deep-minds.jpg\" alt=\"uma jovem triste e com a mente profunda\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-young-woman-in-deep-minds.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-young-woman-in-deep-minds-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-young-woman-in-deep-minds-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-young-woman-in-deep-minds-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/sad-young-woman-in-deep-minds-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>E o pior \u00e9 que comecei a questionar-me se era digna do meu pr\u00f3prio amor e respeito.<\/p>\n<p>I started questioning if I was enough and why I wasn\u2019t enough.<\/p>\n<p>E quando admitia para mim pr\u00f3prio que a culpa era toda tua, come\u00e7ava mesmo a duvidar da minha sanidade mental.<\/p>\n<p>I thought you loved me unconditionally and that it wasn\u2019t possible that you were the one playing mind games with me.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, I would never admit any of these things out loud, not even to myself. I tried to hide the opinions I had about myself but that doesn\u2019t mean I didn\u2019t have them.<\/p>\n<p><b>E tudo isso foi culpa tua. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>I know that because I regained my confidence the moment I left you. Of course, it didn\u2019t happen overnight and it is something still in process but I felt this unexplainable relief the moment I walked away from you.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-105540\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-pier-alone.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada no cais sozinha\" width=\"800\" height=\"530\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-pier-alone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-pier-alone-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-pier-alone-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-pier-alone-150x99.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sim, foi doloroso, mas tamb\u00e9m foi libertador.<\/p>\n<p>Mas n\u00e3o estou a escrever tudo isto porque estou ressentido com tudo o que me fizeste e n\u00e3o o estou a fazer porque quero ou preciso de um pedido de desculpas.<\/p>\n<p><b>I am telling you all of this because I want you to know that you haven\u2019t succeeded. I want you to know that you didn\u2019t manage to kill my spirit and that you didn\u2019t manage to destroy the person I used to be.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Estou a contar-vos tudo isto porque quero que saibam que <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/ano-finalmente-saber-o-suficiente\/\"><b>Eu sou suficientemente bom<\/b><\/a><b>.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Sim, estiveste muito perto de me matar espiritualmente, mas eu ressurgi das cinzas mais forte do que nunca.<\/p>\n<p>E sei o quanto sou valioso. Sei que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 raz\u00e3o para ser inseguro.<\/p>\n<p>Sei que sou digno e estou certo de que tu e mais ningu\u00e9m pode diminuir o meu valor.<\/p>\n<p>Acima de tudo, sei que nunca devia ter duvidado de mim pr\u00f3prio. Em vez disso, tu \u00e9 que devias ter feito isso o tempo todo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-105542\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Doubt-Myself-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Para o homem que me fez duvidar de mim mesmo\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Doubt-Myself-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Doubt-Myself-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Doubt-Myself-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Doubt-Myself-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Doubt-Myself-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you are in a relationship with someone, it is natural for that other person to be the strongest wind to your winds. This person ought to be your biggest support and number one fan. He should be the first one to push you forward when you are feeling low or when you are going&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":105541,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19872","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Doubt-Myself.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. 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