{"id":20041,"date":"2018-06-21T07:41:53","date_gmt":"2018-06-21T07:41:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20041"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:51:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:51:59","slug":"de-um-homem-para-uma-mulher-a-importancia-de-se-amar-a-si-proprio-em-primeiro-lugar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/de-um-homem-para-uma-mulher-a-importancia-de-se-amar-a-si-proprio-em-primeiro-lugar\/","title":{"rendered":"De um homem para uma mulher: A import\u00e2ncia de te amares primeiro a ti pr\u00f3prio"},"content":{"rendered":"

My worst childhood memory includes waking up to the sound of my father’s voice yelling and screaming at my mother, for no apparent reason. I will never forget her tears. They were pouring from her beautiful brown eyes and it seemed like they would never stop.<\/p>\n

The next day everything would be ok. She would put a smile on her face. She would fix us lunch. She would do her best to make him happy, even though the only thing he ever did was make her sad. I couldn\u2019t make sense out of the whole situation playing out in front of my eyes.<\/p>\n

You see, my father wasn\u2019t someone you could call um homem<\/em> in the real sense of that word. He was a worthless jackass whose life\u2019s mission was to make my mother as miserable as he possibly could. He knew how much she cared and he would use it against her.<\/p>\n

For that one time he would treat her right and land the stars from the sky right into her lap, he would ruin it with other ten times he would treat her like crap. There were days when she couldn\u2019t say anything right in his opinion. He would disrespect her, talk down to her and show her in every possible way that she isn\u2019t enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ainda n\u00e3o sei muito bem como \u00e9 que ele conseguiu manipul\u00e1-la t\u00e3o habilmente. Tudo o que ele fez acabou por ser culpa dela. Ele jogava o papel da v\u00edtima<\/a> so accurately that he almost had me going, even though I knew that the things coming out of his mouth couldn\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n

Partiu-me o cora\u00e7\u00e3o v\u00ea-la assim. Ele estava a destru\u00ed-la emocionalmente. Sempre que ele a maltratava, ela perdoava-lhe. Sempre que ela se queria ir embora, ele fazia-se de simp\u00e1tico durante algum tempo e, assim que via que a tinha, voltava a ser o seu eu deplor\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

I begged my mother to leave. I begged her to put herself before him. I knew that she could have a better, more peaceful life without him. But she couldn\u2019t leave. I don\u2019t know if it was love or her fear of being alone and starting over again.<\/p>\n

She only left when it was too late. When the emotional abuse turned to physical. I had mixed feelings about it. I was sorry for her getting hurt, but I was so glad she finally got the courage to go from my father\u2019s claws. We were both better off without him. And years later, when she finally rebuilt her life and learned to love herself, she told me that the only thing she regrets is not leaving sooner.<\/p>\n

My regret is the same. I wish I never had to see her go through that. I wish I never heard that yelling and crying. But there is one positive thing I learned from my father: he taught me how not to treat women and why it\u2019s crucial for them to love themselves first.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

A minha pr\u00f3pria experi\u00eancia levou-me a escrever este artigo e a dar alguns conselhos a todas as mulheres que se mant\u00eam em rela\u00e7\u00f5es erradas, que se contentam com menos do que merecem e que toleram o intoler\u00e1vel. It\u2019s time you pack up your bags and leave.<\/strong> Don\u2019t wait until his abuse turns into physical. Just because he didn\u2019t hit you doesn\u2019t mean he didn\u2019t hurt you with his words and his actions just the same.<\/p>\n

To be in any kind of relationship, it\u2019s important to love yourself first. It\u2019s important to put yourself in the highest position on your list of priorities.<\/strong> Only then will you have a chance for true love. When you are happy and comfortable being on your own, you won\u2019t tolerate someone treating you like you are less.<\/p>\n

Abandonar\u00e1s as rela\u00e7\u00f5es em que te consideram um dado adquirido.<\/strong> You will know that everything you give to somebody else should be reciprocated. That you shouldn\u2019t give your whole self to somebody who isn\u2019t completely in that relationship with you. You will not settle for occasional glimpses of happiness when you knowyou deserve more.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso descobrir o nosso valor e agarrarmo-nos firmemente a esse sentimento.<\/strong> Don\u2019t give anybody but yourself the power to determine your worth. Just because somebody treats you like you are not enough is no reason to start believing it yourself. He is the one who isn\u2019t enough. He is the one who has issues and insecurities and is reflecting them on you. He is the one who is not enough for you. And he shouldn’t be a part of your life.<\/p>\n

Your love shouldn\u2019t be used against you. Your kindness, commitment, and devotion to him shouldn\u2019t be looked upon as weaknesses.<\/strong> Um homem de verdade ficaria mais do que feliz em ter uma mulher assim ao seu lado, mas um marginal s\u00f3 vai usar essas caracter\u00edsticas como uma ferramenta para manipul\u00e1-la e fazer com que voc\u00ea fa\u00e7a as coisas do jeito dele.<\/p>\n

Se se sentir manipulado ou controlado, v\u00e1-se embora sem pensar duas vezes.<\/strong> N\u00e3o \u00e9 isso que se sente quando se est\u00e1 numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel. Quando se est\u00e1 com um homem a s\u00e9rio, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 jogos de culpas nem se faz de v\u00edtima sempre que pode. N\u00e3o vai haver jogos de culpar e fazer-se de v\u00edtima sempre que puder quando estiver com um homem a s\u00e9rio. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 como rebaix\u00e1-la para se sentir superior ou melhor do que voc\u00ea.<\/p>\n

What will be\u2014and what should be\u2014is respect, honesty, trust and love all the way.<\/strong><\/em> When you are with the right man, he will make you feel like the world is yours to conquer. He won\u2019t prey on your fears and insecurities. He will call them irrelevant and urge you to fight through them and achieve more.<\/p>\n

So wait for that man and never settle for anything less. Love yourself enough to walk away from anything that doesn\u2019t make you feel loved, cherished and safe. Be with someone with whom even a rainy day will feel good because you are shining from within.<\/p>\n

First and foremost you have to work on the most important relationship you are in\u2014the one you have with yourself. That relationship will set the tone for all the other ones you are in.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n

por Owen Scott<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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