{"id":20278,"date":"2019-06-28T11:01:11","date_gmt":"2019-06-28T11:01:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20278"},"modified":"2022-01-14T01:19:36","modified_gmt":"2022-01-14T01:19:36","slug":"da-me-esse-amor-da-velha-guarda","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/da-me-esse-amor-da-velha-guarda\/","title":{"rendered":"D\u00ea-me esse amor da velha guarda"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00e3o \u00e9 segredo para ningu\u00e9m que The Notebook \u00e9 o romance preferido de todos os millennials. E, para ser sincero, tamb\u00e9m ningu\u00e9m os pode culpar.<\/p>\n

I think I can speak for most millennial females in today\u2019s society: we want genuine love and partnership but what we want is from a completely different era.<\/p>\n

Uma gera\u00e7\u00e3o em que os homens abriam sempre as portas do carro \u00e0s mulheres. Uma gera\u00e7\u00e3o em que o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00f3 era fiel a um.<\/p>\n

Uma gera\u00e7\u00e3o que sempre encheu o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o de felicidade. Uma gera\u00e7\u00e3o em que, quando ele te olhava nos olhos, podias ver pelo seu olhar estrelado que ele te adorava e venerava completamente.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s very clear to me that the love I want is simply from another generation.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Um amor em que se recebiam cartas escritas \u00e0 m\u00e3o, uma gera\u00e7\u00e3o em que, quando se recebiam flores no trabalho, eram entregues em m\u00e3o pela pessoa amada e n\u00e3o por uma empresa de entregas online.<\/p>\n

Um mundo onde o amor era o poder mais forte que nunca poderia ser tentado por um caso de uma noite. Uma gera\u00e7\u00e3o onde o amor era t\u00e3o certo como as estrelas.<\/p>\n

Pergunto-me muitas vezes se a tecnologia \u00e9 a culpada pelo fracasso de muitas rela\u00e7\u00f5es desta gera\u00e7\u00e3o. Pergunto-me muitas vezes porque \u00e9 que a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o, que costumava ser feita cara a cara, \u00e9 agora feita atr\u00e1s de um ecr\u00e3.<\/p>\n

Receiving hand-written love letters just simply doesn\u2019t exist anymore.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 d\u00favida de que esta gera\u00e7\u00e3o de millennials<\/a> sofrem mais. Sofrer mais porque esta gera\u00e7\u00e3o perdeu a verdadeiro significado do amor<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que aconteceu aos homens que cortejam as mulheres? O que aconteceu aos homens que abordavam as mulheres na rua, as paravam e lhes diziam que estavam lindas?<\/p>\n

Ah, sim, o Tinder aconteceu, juntamente com o Bumble e todos os outros buffets intermin\u00e1veis que as nossas redes sociais t\u00eam para oferecer.<\/p>\n

Despoj\u00e1mo-nos da comunica\u00e7\u00e3o que outrora era feita cara a cara e substitu\u00edmo-la por algumas personagens dos bastidores.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, porque \u00e9 que um homem da gera\u00e7\u00e3o do mil\u00e9nio quereria comprometer-se apenas com um amor verdadeiro quando tem uma infinidade de oportunidades \u00e0 sua disposi\u00e7\u00e3o? Porque \u00e9 que um homem da gera\u00e7\u00e3o do mil\u00e9nio, enquanto caminha pela rua, sente a necessidade de parar uma mulher para lhe dizer que ela \u00e9 bonita?<\/p>\n

Ele pode fazer isso online, com um cat\u00e1logo intermin\u00e1vel de fotografias e biografias por onde escolher. Ele pode fazer v\u00e1rios elogios online com alguns simples cliques e toques no teclado.<\/p>\n

A coragem parece ser muito maior quando nos escondemos atr\u00e1s de um ecr\u00e3.<\/p>\n

I have suffered the consequences of dating millennials and Generation Xers. All too often, these relationships end because they lack that \u2018something\u2019, that \u2018understanding\u2019, that goes along with true love and real gentlemen.<\/p>\n

Estudos demonstraram que os homens t\u00eam mais desejos sexuais<\/a> do que as mulheres. As mulheres t\u00eam mais controlo sobre si pr\u00f3prias.<\/p>\n

Men relish the idea that they genetically have an \u2018animal instinct\u2019 for sex with multiple partners.<\/p>\n

Today\u2019s Internet, with all its trappings, provides men with their \u2018go to spot\u2019 when there are little bumps in the relationship road.<\/p>\n

Rather than stay and work on the relationship, they open their laptop or phone and search numerous websites promoting that \u2018perfect\u2019 woman, that perfect \u2018sexual partner\u2019 with no strings attached.<\/p>\n

Ele pode procurar nesses s\u00edtios como a minha av\u00f3 procurava no cat\u00e1logo da Sears. Ele pode fazer o seu pedido para um jantar e ainda outro pedido para bebidas \u00e0 noite.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest with ourselves, men who are on dating apps are not really looking for love but are rather seeking prey.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In addition to seeking \u2018relationships\u2019 online, today\u2019s generation lack the ability to communicate in real time, face-to-face. How often do you see couples sitting together in a restaurant on their phones and not talking to each other?<\/p>\n

When problems do come up in a relationship, it\u2019s all too easy to hide behind that screen and send a text or email.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Durante um ano vivi com uma pessoa a quem tive de implorar que se abrisse sobre os seus sentimentos, que falasse comigo. Depois de v\u00e1rias tentativas de descobrir onde \u00e9 que ele tinha a cabe\u00e7a, I found out via a text message that we were \u2018over\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por detr\u00e1s desse ecr\u00e3 m\u00e1gico que d\u00e1 aos indiv\u00edduos o poder de serem implac\u00e1veis e cru\u00e9is, that place where cowards don\u2019t have to listen to another\u2019s hurt or anger, they can simply type, click and send.<\/strong> Podem ent\u00e3o apag\u00e1-lo do telem\u00f3vel, do computador port\u00e1til e da sua vida.<\/p>\n

Para muitos homens da gera\u00e7\u00e3o do mil\u00e9nio, o amor foi substitu\u00eddo pelo sexo<\/a>.<\/strong> Parece que o sexo \u00e9 mais importante e \u00e9 o fator de estabiliza\u00e7\u00e3o das rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Sorry male millennials, I\u2019m calling you out!<\/p>\n

A capacidade de fazer sexo loucamente apaixonado, em todas as posi\u00e7\u00f5es imagin\u00e1veis, \u00e9 mais importante do que a compaix\u00e3o e a intimidade intelectual? Longe v\u00e3o os dias em que aprendemos a amar-nos emocional e fisicamente.<\/p>\n

Today\u2019s millennials want a fully charged, fully sexed model.<\/p>\n

I was passed along like a rag doll because I couldn\u2019t perform these crazy acts. I couldn\u2019t believe it. My desires and my feelings did not matter. All that mattered was a few minutes of sex.<\/p>\n

Being a good person, a compassionate person, a loving person, did not matter\u2014what mattered was a few minutes of sex his way.<\/strong> Don\u2019t get me wrong, sex is very important in relationships but it should be something done out of love and should be mutually satisfying and should be something that a couple builds on over time.<\/p>\n

Male millennials, think about this: when you\u2019re sitting in your easy chair, with gray hair, dentures, and you\u2019ve soiled your adult diaper, who is going to change it for you? <\/strong>Vai ser aquela mulher sexy dos seus tempos de juventude ou a mulher que o amou e cuidou de si?<\/p>\n

Men also don\u2019t feel accountable for the pain they create in relationships these days. I\u2019m not sure if giving zero fucks is now encoded into their DNA but when there\u2019s a bump in the road, the quickest and easiest way out is to ghost\u2014literally disappear.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how long you have dated, most millennials are now just adapting to this so-called method. They expect everything to be perfect and the moment it\u2019s not, they walk away silently.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Today, social media determines whether your relationship is worthy or not. How many \u2018likes\u2019 and \u2018shares\u2019 are more important than heartfelt feelings for each other.<\/p>\n

As selfies, que foram melhoradas gra\u00e7as \u00e0s muitas aplica\u00e7\u00f5es dispon\u00edveis, est\u00e3o a inundar a Internet.<\/p>\n

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es reais est\u00e3o a ser substitu\u00eddas por imagens fict\u00edcias de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e expectativas irrealistas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s sad to say but over and over we see ourselves getting wrapped up into a relationship category that we allow social media to define. Honestly, how stupid is that!<\/p>\n

Desde quando \u00e9 que o conceito de estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o precisa da aprova\u00e7\u00e3o de outras pessoas com quem raramente se fala ou sequer se v\u00ea? Eu quase n\u00e3o publicava nas redes sociais, simplesmente porque gostava dos momentos e das fotografias que partilhava com o meu namorado em privado.<\/p>\n

Honestamente, odiava tanto os casais que estavam constantemente a postar sobre as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es, porque esses casais que eram #SoInLove eram os mesmos casais que estavam constantemente a discutir ou esses mesmos casais que estavam constantemente a trair-se um ao outro.<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m deve procurar valida\u00e7\u00e3o nas redes sociais e muito menos basear o sucesso da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o nisso!<\/p>\n

So for now, until the real thing comes along, the only thing I\u2019ll crave is that endearing love from the old school love. Those handwritten love letters, those hand-delivered flowers.<\/p>\n

I’ll wait. I\u2019ll wait because I know I deserve that legendary love story.<\/p>\n

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