{"id":20321,"date":"2020-06-29T06:50:59","date_gmt":"2020-06-29T06:50:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20321"},"modified":"2022-02-21T19:04:20","modified_gmt":"2022-02-21T19:04:20","slug":"e-assim-que-se-sente-quando-se-ama-alguem-que-nao-nos-ama-em-troca","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/e-assim-que-se-sente-quando-se-ama-alguem-que-nao-nos-ama-em-troca\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 assim que se sente quem ama algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o nos ama em troca"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Uma das piores coisas que se pode experimentar no que diz respeito ao romance e ao amor \u00e9 gostar de algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o gosta de n\u00f3s.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>I should know because I\u2019ve been through that.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When I first met this guy, he made it very clear that he was emotionally unavailable. I can\u2019t say that he wasn\u2019t honest with me.<\/p>\n<p>Mas, de alguma forma, embora devesse ter fugido dele no momento em que ouvi essas palavras, isso atraiu-me ainda mais para ele.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Eu, tolamente, pensei que eu seria a rapariga que mudaria a sua vis\u00e3o sobre o amor e os encontros<\/strong><strong>. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Pensei que seria eu a convenc\u00ea-lo a come\u00e7ar a acreditar no amor e que o meu amor o ajudaria a mudar de opini\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Comecei a pensar neste tipo como uma esp\u00e9cie de desafio. Pensei que seria eu a pessoa <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/queria-salvar-apenas-puxou-a-escuridao\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">para o salvar<\/a> e o \u00fanico a abrir o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o ao amor.<\/p>\n<p>I have to admit that I didn\u2019t take this guy\u2019s words or actions seriously\u2014I assumed that he was just playing hard to get and that he needed more time to open up to me and to let me in his life.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, ignorei todos os sinais de alerta e todos os avisos que ele me fazia.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Em vez disso, esfor\u00e7ava-me por encontrar algumas pequenas pistas do seu inexistente amor por mim.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong> Continuei a dissecar cada movimento que ele fazia e cada olhar que me lan\u00e7ava, tentando encontrar migalhas do seu afeto e algo a que me pudesse agarrar. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Sempre que o olhava nos olhos, tentava encontrar algum brilho, uma pista ou um sinal que me dissesse que este homem me amava.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91160\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/serious-woman-looking-at-man.jpg\" alt=\"mulher s\u00e9ria a olhar para um homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/serious-woman-looking-at-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/serious-woman-looking-at-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/serious-woman-looking-at-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Somehow, I lost all of my integrity and pride. I had no trouble literally begging for this guy\u2019s love and attention.<\/p>\n<p>E n\u00e3o me custava nada mentir a mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p>Sempre que este tipo me telefonava b\u00eabado, a altas horas da noite, eu confundia-o com uma prova do seu amor.<\/p>\n<p>Sempre que ele me tocava acidentalmente, eu encontrava alguma paix\u00e3o nesse toque, embora na realidade n\u00e3o houvesse nenhuma.<\/p>\n<p>Sim, demorei muito tempo a aceitar isso <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/5-sinais-de-que-nao-ama-mesmo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">this guy didn\u2019t love me<\/a> e que ele nunca me amaria de volta.<\/p>\n<p>Mas acabei por o fazer. Ele e eu pass\u00e1mos anos neste tipo de rela\u00e7\u00e3o antes de eu finalmente perceber algumas coisas.<\/p>\n<p>Na verdade, passei anos a ser dele na minha cabe\u00e7a, enquanto ele levava uma vida pr\u00f3pria, como se eu nunca tivesse existido.<\/p>\n<p><strong>E quando finalmente me apercebi que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/senti-a-tua-falta-ate-perceber-que-nunca-foste-meu\/\">ele nunca seria meu<\/a>Esta constata\u00e7\u00e3o atingiu-me e trouxe-me de volta \u00e0 realidade.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>But it didn\u2019t bring the end of my misery.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tinha um longo caminho a percorrer, lutando contra as minhas inseguran\u00e7as e a minha autoestima. Perguntava-me se haveria algo mais que eu pudesse ter feito para que este homem me amasse.<\/p>\n<p>Why wasn\u2019t I enough for him? Why couldn\u2019t he at least have tried to love me?<\/p>\n<p>E sim, eu odiava-o de certa forma, por nunca me ter amado como eu queria.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91162\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"mulher jovem e triste sentada na cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Mas depois de muita introspe\u00e7\u00e3o, apercebi-me que era melhor que as coisas tivessem corrido desta forma.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Because when I come to think of it, the last thing I wanted was for someone to love me out of pity and because he felt sorry for me. I didn\u2019t want someone to love me just because I loved him.<\/p>\n<p>I finally came to the conclusion that this guy wasn\u2019t to blame for anything. He simply couldn\u2019t force himself to feel something that he couldn\u2019t feel.<\/p>\n<p>E n\u00e3o havia nada de errado nisso. Sim, era doloroso, mas era a realidade.<\/p>\n<p>And I wasn\u2019t to blame for anything either. Yes, for a long time I felt ashamed for all the things I did to make this guy love me and for the effort I\u2019d been putting into something that actually never existed.<\/p>\n<p>Mas agora sei <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/para-o-homem-que-tem-o-meu-coracao\/\">Eu apenas amei um homem com todo o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> e esse amor cegou-me.<\/p>\n<p>E tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o havia nada de errado nisso.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Apercebi-me que algumas pessoas s\u00e3o simplesmente <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/soulmate-simply-not-meant\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">n\u00e3o \u00e9 para ser<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong> Apercebi-me de que alguns amores nunca acontecer\u00e3o, por mais que tentemos que aconte\u00e7am.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>E apercebi-me que tudo isto faz parte da vida.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91158\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/This-Is-How-It-Feels-To-Love-Someone-Who-Doesnt-Love-You-In-Return-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"\u00c9 assim que se sente quem ama algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o nos ama em troca\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/This-Is-How-It-Feels-To-Love-Someone-Who-Doesnt-Love-You-In-Return-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/This-Is-How-It-Feels-To-Love-Someone-Who-Doesnt-Love-You-In-Return-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the worst things that you can experience when it comes to romance and love is caring about someone who doesn\u2019t care about you. I should know because I\u2019ve been through that. When I first met this guy, he made it very clear that he was emotionally unavailable. I can\u2019t say that he wasn\u2019t&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":91168,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20321","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/This-Is-How-It-Feels-To-Love-Someone-Who-Doesnt-Love-You-In-Return.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20321","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20321"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20321\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/91168"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20321"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20321"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20321"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}