{"id":20331,"date":"2018-06-29T08:34:19","date_gmt":"2018-06-29T08:34:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20331"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:38:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:38:06","slug":"uma-carta-ao-meu-marido-merdoso-esta-e-a-tua-chamada-de-atencao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-ao-meu-marido-merdoso-esta-e-a-tua-chamada-de-atencao\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta para o meu marido de merda: Esta \u00e9 a tua chamada para despertar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ao meu \"querido\" marido,<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Eu sei que te achas o m\u00e1ximo. Sei que pensas que por trabalhares no duro, levares os mi\u00fados \u00e0 escola, pagares as contas e dormires comigo de vez em quando, isso faz de ti um \u00f3timo marido<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m sorry to burst your bubble but you are not! You are far from a perfect husband and I am here today to tell you that out loud.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to pretend that everything is okay just because we have a roof over our heads and because you can afford for us whatever we need.<\/p>\n

It is true \u2014you can afford nice trips, expensive cars for both of us and some extra money for having a good time when we want it.<\/p>\n

Mas deixem-me perguntar-vos uma coisa: \u00e9 s\u00f3 isso que t\u00eam para oferecer?<\/strong> <\/em>Do you think that you will be happy if we have money? You see, money is there just to make life easier but it didn\u2019t make anyone happy.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

As pessoas com dinheiro ficam doentes, as pessoas com dinheiro morrem, as pessoas com dinheiro ficam desiludidas.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t think that providing material things will make you perfect in my eyes because it won\u2019t. It is great that you are a hard worker, it is great that you are a good father but think about me a little bit.<\/p>\n

You are probably confused now and you can\u2019t recover from the shock because of the things I am saying, right?<\/strong><\/em> Bem, deixem-me ajudar-vos a compreender melhor esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Deixaste de ser o marido perfeito<\/a> o dia em que me negligenciaste a mim e aos nossos filhos e ficaste em casa a ver televis\u00e3o enquanto n\u00f3s fomos a um piquenique de domingo.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n

The kids wanted to spend some time with you so much because you work all day and sometimes even at night and there are times when they don\u2019t even see you for a couple of days.<\/p>\n

O nosso filho queria que jogasses futebol com ele, queria mostrar-te o quanto tinha melhorado nesse jogo.<\/p>\n

\"rapazinho<\/p>\n

Ele queria que o pai se orgulhasse dele. A nossa filha queria contar-lhe sobre as aulas de ballet em que se inscreveu recentemente.<\/p>\n

Sabes, ela queria mostrar-te o vestido novo que tinha comprado s\u00f3 para lhe dizeres que ela era linda. E eu? Eu s\u00f3 queria o meu marido por perto.<\/p>\n

I wanted a hug, a kiss and one \u2018I love you\u2019 from your mouth. But none of us got anything that we wanted.<\/p>\n

Preferia ter ficado em casa a ver um jogo de futebol muito importante, porque s\u00f3 acontece uma vez por ano.<\/p>\n

Well, you know what? That day happens only once a year and you won\u2019t be able to bring the past back.<\/p>\n

Deixaste de ser o marido perfeito quando me deixaste a tomar conta de dois filhos pequenos.<\/strong><\/em> You said that someone had to work and you didn\u2019t even sleep with me while they were babies.<\/p>\n

You slept in another room because you didn\u2019t want them to wake you up during the night, so you could be fresh for work the next morning.<\/p>\n

\"beb\u00e9<\/p>\n

And on the other hand, I was all alone with two small babies crying all night long, trying to find out what was happening with them and why they wouldn\u2019t stop crying.<\/p>\n

E de manh\u00e3, quando eles adormeciam, eu fazia o pequeno-almo\u00e7o para ti, mesmo que Eu era uma confus\u00e3o total<\/a>. Mas precisavas de tomar o pequeno-almo\u00e7o e eu era a \u00fanica que tratava de tudo.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, cansado e com sono, preparava algo para ti e dava-te um beijo, desejando-te um bom dia de trabalho.<\/p>\n

Mas sabes que mais? Nunca me beijaste dessa forma para me dizeres que sou uma mulher fant\u00e1stica e que tens muita sorte em me ter na tua vida.<\/p>\n

O vosso dia de trabalho durava 8 horas, enquanto o meu durava 24 horas, sem pausas. E isso \u00e9 algo que nunca poder\u00e1s compreender.<\/p>\n

Deixaste de ser o marido perfeito quando me deixaste a tratar de todos os problemas.<\/strong> <\/em>Era eu que tratava dos teus problemas familiares e dos meus problemas familiares enquanto tu estavas demasiado stressado para tratar de qualquer coisa.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Pensaste que o facto de estares a trabalhar era suficiente para eu n\u00e3o te pedir ajuda. Mas a verdade \u00e9 que eu precisava de ajuda.<\/p>\n

I really did. But the one who was supposed to give me some help and support didn\u2019t give it to me. And that is something that I won\u2019t forget.<\/p>\n

So, the next time that I tell you that I need you to be with me, to be the shoulder I can rely on, don\u2019t try to buy me with money.<\/strong> <\/em>I don\u2019t want expensive gifts, just spoil me with understanding.<\/p>\n

Ponha-se no meu lugar e ver\u00e1 que tamb\u00e9m trabalho todo o dia mas ningu\u00e9m me paga nada.<\/p>\n

You will see that I am also stressed out because I can\u2019t get back to my old shape while you are surrounded by beautiful women every day. You will see that I have dark thoughts and that I cry sometimes.<\/p>\n

But crying is not the worst part. The worst part is not having a hand that will wipe your tears away. The worst part is living with someone who can\u2019t understand you.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O pior \u00e9 que pensas que sou todo-poderoso. Mas se olhares um pouco mais fundo nos meus olhos, ver\u00e1s que ainda sou uma menina assustada, \u00e0 espera que algu\u00e9m a ajude a carregar este fardo.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t be surprised by all that I had to say. I had to get that off my chest for a long time and I wanted you to know it because I don\u2019t want to sacrifice like this anymore. Not without your help.<\/p>\n

I was always there to give my unconditional love, support and friendship to you and I expect the same in return. So, if you won\u2019t be there for me like you used to, then I don\u2019t need you.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t need a roommate. I need a friend. I don\u2019t need someone who will just come home, eat, sleep and leave. I want someone who will be a part of the whole process. I need a husband!<\/p>\n

So, my dear husband, this is your wake-up call. If you can\u2019t handle all that life puts in front of us, then leave. But for God\u2019s sake, don\u2019t be a shitty husband!<\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

To my \u2018dear\u2019 husband, I know that you think you are great. I know that you think by working hard, taking the kids to school, paying bills and sleeping with me from time to time makes you a great husband. Well, I\u2019m sorry to burst your bubble but you are not! You are far from…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":97403,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20331","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/A-Letter-To-My-Shitty-Husband-This-Is-Your-Wake-Up-Call.jpg",800,531,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","parent":29651,"count":207,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29653,"category_count":207,"category_description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","cat_name":"letters","category_nicename":"letters","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20331","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20331"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20331\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/97403"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20331"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20331"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20331"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}