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<\/p>\nWalking away from someone you love is probably the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do- even though it might not seem that way.<\/p>\n
Quando falamos de rupturas e do fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o, concentramo-nos sempre na pessoa que fica para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n
Toda a gente se preocupa com o que essa pessoa sente e com a sua dor emocional, partindo do princ\u00edpio de que \u00e9 f\u00e1cil afastar-se.<\/p>\n
Deixar algu\u00e9m e acabar com a rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a coisa mais f\u00e1cil que se pode fazer, certo? Bem, nem sempre.<\/p>\n
Everyone assumes that the person who takes this step doesn\u2019t have any emotions and that they don\u2019t feel any pain. Otherwise, they wouldn\u2019t do it, would they?<\/p>\n
Mas a situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 completamente diferente se for <\/b>afastar-se<\/b> de algu\u00e9m que amas<\/b>.<\/p>\n
Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que sabe<\/b> it’s time to move on<\/b>Mesmo que o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o te esteja a dizer para ficares? Mais importante ainda... como \u00e9 que se faz?<\/b>?<\/p>\n
Well, if you read on, you’ll find all the answers to your questions and more.<\/p>\n
No matter how much you love another person, if they don’t love you back or simply don’t treat you the way you deserve, it’s more than a reason enough to turn your back on them.<\/p>\n
Besides, if your gut is telling you to move away from someone- listen to it- it knows what it’s talking about.<\/p>\n
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Your relationship should make you happy. I won’t lie to you: this doesn’t mean that it will be all butterflies and roses.<\/p>\n
I don’t care if we’re talking about a romantic relationship or a relationship with a friend or a family member: there will always be some ups and downs. That’s just how life works.<\/p>\n
But the problem arises if the downs are more frequent than the ups. And I’m not talking about a temporary phase here.<\/p>\n
N\u00e3o se trata de um per\u00edodo dif\u00edcil que voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro lutam para ultrapassar - porque todos n\u00f3s passamos por isso. Agora, isto tornou-se a realidade da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n
The other person doesn’t make you laugh or smile- they make you cry. You’re not looking forward to seeing them because you know you’re up for a fight.<\/p>\n
O seu parceiro deveria transmitir-lhe energia positiva. Em vez disso, ele faz com que o seu humor des\u00e7a e escurece o seu esp\u00edrito.<\/p>\n
Deveriam ser eles a empurrar-nos para a frente. Em vez disso, continuam a atras\u00e1-lo.<\/p>\n
A maioria destas coisas soa-lhe familiar? Se a resposta for sim, o que \u00e9 que ainda est\u00e1 a fazer neste <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/b><\/a>?<\/b><\/p>\n If it’s causing you more stress than relaxation, I’m sorry but moving on is the only option you have. That is, if you don’t want to spend the rest of your life feeling miserable.<\/p>\n I know that you’re scared. This is your comfort zone and you already know how to deal with this kind of pain.<\/p>\n You’re convinced that leaving will hurt even more. But trust me- this pain will be only temporary.<\/p>\n A longo prazo, you’ll feel like you’ve lost a heavy burden<\/b> (because that’s exactly what this relationship represents for you.)<\/p>\n Por vezes, as coisas s\u00e3o condenado ao fracasso<\/a>, tanto quanto quer que eles tenham sucesso. Se voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro t\u00eam sem futuro juntos<\/a>, as coisas nunca se v\u00e3o resolver<\/b>Apesar de todo o amor que possa estar a sentir.<\/p>\n I know that this is actually what makes your love even more interesting. At the bottom line, you know this relationship isn’t possible and that’s what makes the attraction so fatal.<\/p>\n But hey, sooner or later, you’ll have to look the truth in the eyes. You’ll have to n\u00e3o perder mais tempo precioso<\/b> da sua vida e acabar com ela.<\/p>\n Bem, why can’t that moment be now<\/b>? Se v\u00ea que algo \u00e9 uma receita para um desastre, o que \u00e9 que pode esperar antes de se separar dessa pessoa?<\/p>\n Em vez de adiar o inevit\u00e1vel, basta fazer um corte claro<\/b>. Em vez de procurarem desculpas para ficar, partam e nunca olhem para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n Confia em mim. you can’t change the outcome<\/b>. I don’t know if this is a forbidden love we’re talking about, if this is someone you have different life priorities with or you’ll just never be loved the way you deserved.<\/p>\n Seja como for, o objetivo \u00e9 praticamente o mesmo. E o resultado final ser\u00e1 o mesmo.<\/p>\n Yes, the truth is that you should live in the present moment. But it’s about time you comece a pensar no seu futuro<\/b> tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n Maybe something is telling you that your seemingly perfect romance is about to become abusive, that your partner is not what they want the world to think or just that you won’t be happy together.<\/p>\n You don’t have a logical explanation for this but it’s like uma pequena voz est\u00e1 a gritar bem alto que deves fugir<\/b>. Por um lado, amas essa pessoa at\u00e9 \u00e0 lua e vice-versa, mas, ao mesmo tempo, tens uma vontade incontrol\u00e1vel de escapar a esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n Sounds weird, I know. But if this is something you’ve been experiencing lately, you know exactly what I’m talking about.<\/p>\n Bem, nesse caso, deixem-me dar-vos um conselho: nunca ignore a sua intui\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b>. Existe por uma raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\n It’s possible that o seu subconsciente apercebe-se de algumas <\/b>bandeiras vermelhas<\/b><\/a> you’re deliberately blind and deaf for. These are not false alarms- you’re detecting a heads up that you should pay close attention to.<\/p>\n I’m not saying that you must run for your life on the first sign of warning. But if this keeps on happening and at the same time, you’re lying to yourself that you can make your relationship work- it’s time to walk away.<\/p>\n Independentemente do que a outra pessoa lhe possa dizer, n\u00e3o existe amor rom\u00e2ntico sem respeito inclu\u00eddo. De facto, existe n\u00e3o h\u00e1 amor em geral onde h\u00e1 <\/b>nenhum respeito<\/b><\/a>.<\/p>\n These two things go hand in hand with each other. If you’re not respected- you’re not loved either.<\/p>\n And what more do you need to leave this toxic relationship? It’s about time you stand up for yourself and call it quits.<\/p>\n Talvez o seu parceiro \u00e9 infiel<\/a>. Maybe they try to control you. Maybe they don’t appreciate everything you do for your relationship. Maybe they treat you as the submissive one.<\/p>\n Os exemplos e as possibilidades s\u00e3o infinitos. Mas todos os especialistas em rela\u00e7\u00f5es dir-lhe-\u00e3o o mesmo: lack of respect is one of the red flags you mustn’t ignore<\/b>.<\/p>\n Lembra-te do que mereces. Abre os olhos e compreende que isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 um <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/b> que deveria passar mais um minuto.<\/p>\n Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is no shame. These things happen, especially if the other person has been leading you on.<\/p>\n They’re probably giving you false hope<\/b>. Nunca lhe disseram que o amavam realmente, mas continuam a enviar-lhe sinais contradit\u00f3rios que o deixam confuso.<\/p>\n One day, they act like they’re one step away from getting their act together. They send you signs they’re in love<\/a> with you and you think you’ve finally achieved your goal.<\/p>\n But then, when they see that you’re crazy for them all over again, they change their story and go back to ignoring you.<\/p>\n Confia em mim: this guy or a girl don’t love you and never will<\/b>. They enjoy the attention they’re getting from you and that’s all.<\/p>\n But you can be in a romantic relationship with the person who doesn’t love you as well. This option is much more painful.<\/p>\n They’re with you because they’re scared of change or because they know they can’t find anyone better. Either way, the point is that their behavior patterns are clearly showing you how much they don’t care.<\/p>\n Voc\u00ea shouldn’t stay next to someone who doesn’t love you back<\/b>, no matter how much you love them. Your love isn’t enough to compensate for their indifference.<\/p>\n Detesto ter de vos dizer isto, mas n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que se possa fazer aqui, exceto ir embora<\/b>. Don’t spend any more minutes of your life waiting for a miracle that will never happen.<\/p>\n You need a real relationship where you’ll be loved and cherished, the way you deserve. But you can never find it as long as you’re stuck with this misery.<\/p>\n Para al\u00e9m do amor e do respeito, h\u00e1 outros fundamentos de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel. Uma delas \u00e9 a confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n Se o a confian\u00e7a \u00e9 quebrada de forma irrepar\u00e1vel<\/b>, it will be hard to make the relationship work. I’m not saying that it’s impossible but it is definitely one of the reasons to move away.<\/p>\n What will you do if you can’t reconstruir<\/a>? Will you spend the rest of your life next to someone you can’t trust? Absolutely not because that would equal spiritual suicide.<\/p>\n Se ficar, as d\u00favidas tornar-se-\u00e3o o seu fiel companheiro<\/b>. You’ll question every word that comes out of your partner’s mouth and eventually, these suspicions will eat you alive.<\/p>\n Queres isto para ti? Aposto que n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n The same goes both ways. If your better half doesn’t trust you even though you haven’t done anything to make them feel that way, there is nothing much to do but to pack your bags.<\/p>\n Mais cedo ou mais tarde, estas tens\u00f5es ser\u00e3o o seu fim.<\/p>\n Compromise is just a word in a dictionary as far as you’re concerned. Both of you stick to your attitudes and there is no chance of meeting halfway.<\/p>\n What’s even worse- n\u00e3o h\u00e1 esperan\u00e7a de que a situa\u00e7\u00e3o possa mudar no futuro<\/b>. You’re simply n\u00e3o compat\u00edvel<\/a>.<\/p>\n Isto pode ser amor verdadeiro, mas infelizmente, rutura<\/b> \u00e9 a \u00fanica op\u00e7\u00e3o razo\u00e1vel<\/b>.<\/p>\n Esquece a paix\u00e3o por um momento. Esque\u00e7a o fogo de artif\u00edcio e as borboletas.<\/p>\n Let’s be real: voc\u00eas os dois t\u00eam alguma hip\u00f3tese de se entenderem?<\/b> I’m not saying that this is not true love but trust me- staying in this relationship is more likely to lead you to a broken heart than leaving on time.<\/p>\n \u00c9 dif\u00edcil para si estar sozinho<\/a>. You’re terrified that you’ll never find love. You want to fit in with your best friends and have a romantic partner as well. You think you’ll die alone.<\/p>\n Parece-me familiar, certo? Podia continuar a falar assim para sempre. Estas s\u00e3o todas as raz\u00f5es pelas quais as pessoas se mant\u00eam em m\u00e1s rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n If you’ve been thinking about <\/b>afastar-se<\/b> de algu\u00e9m que ama h\u00e1 j\u00e1 algum tempo, mas que continuou a ficar por todas as raz\u00f5es erradas - pare de fazer isso!<\/b><\/p>\n I don’t care if you two have a history together. I don’t care what your best friends and family members will say.<\/p>\n I don’t care if this person is your safe harbour. I don’t care if they’re your comfort zone and whether you’re terrified of stepping into the unknown.<\/p>\n I don’t care about all those wrong reasons you still haven’t packed your bags. And neither should you.<\/p>\n You can’t leave a loved one in a blink of an eye. It’s a process that includes grieving, putting everything on a scale, regaining your sense of self-worth and finally, reaching your happiness.<\/p>\n Se te questionas sobre como te afastares da pessoa que amas, l\u00ea isto guia passo a passo<\/b> que o ajudar\u00e1 a fazer as coisas com o m\u00ednimo de consequ\u00eancias emocionais.<\/p>\n O primeiro passo \u00e9 fazer uma lista de raz\u00f5es a favor e contra a partida<\/b>. Seja o mais realista poss\u00edvel e ponha tudo numa balan\u00e7a.<\/p>\n Put love on the list as well. But if you’re wondering how to afastar-se<\/a> e o amor rom\u00e2ntico que sente \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa positiva na sua lista - tudo \u00e9 mais do que claro.<\/p>\n On the other hand, if your loved one doesn’t respect you, keeps on hurting your mental health or is a selfish jerk who thinks of their own needs only, without paying attention to you- n\u00e3o h\u00e1 muitas d\u00favidas sobre o que se deve fazer<\/b>.<\/p>\n O melhor \u00e9 escrever esta lista numa folha de papel<\/b>. Esta \u00e9 a forma de ver literalmente todas as diferen\u00e7as entre os pr\u00f3s e os contras.<\/p>\n Don’t rush yourself into anything. Take some time to figure things out and you’ll see that new items will pop out on your list.<\/p>\n Amar algu\u00e9m e essa pessoa amar-te de volta n\u00e3o \u00e9 suficiente. Eu sei que o mundo seria um lugar muito melhor se o amor \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que importa <\/a>but hey, this is not a fairytale or a romantic comedy- we’re talking about real life here.<\/p>\n If you two don’t have similar short term and long term goals, if they don’t appreciate your efforts and sacrifices and if you’re emotionally neglected, everything else is in vain.<\/p>\n Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade se houver infidelidade ou abuso envolvido. O seu parceiro pode jurar-lhe amor eterno, mas if their actions don’t match their words- what else besides leaving can you do?<\/b><\/p>\n You’re an adult and there is no point in pretending that you’re living on a ninth cloud anymore- especially if you’re in the middle of hell.<\/p>\n Para variar, deixa-te guiar pela tua raz\u00e3o<\/b>. Ligue o seu c\u00e9rebro e ele mostrar-lhe-\u00e1 o caminho certo.<\/p>\n Est\u00e1 bem consciente da intensidade das emo\u00e7\u00f5es que sente por essa pessoa, mas tem simplesmente de se escolher a si pr\u00f3prio em vez de a escolher.<\/p>\n E a \u00fanica maneira de o fazer \u00e9 afastar-se da pessoa que est\u00e1 a tornar a sua vida mais dif\u00edcil, apesar de todo o amor que possa existir entre os dois.<\/p>\n Chega uma altura em que sentimos que estamos a perder a sanidade perto de algu\u00e9m. Percebemos que estamos a perder o controlo de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios por causa dessa pessoa.<\/p>\n And most importantly\u2014you see that you will lose yourself if you stay by this person\u2019s side.<\/p>\n Well, it’s about time you escolher-se a si pr\u00f3prio em vez da pessoa que ama<\/b><\/a> and to think about your own well-being. That’s the only way to make the right call.<\/p>\n Sim, o amor rom\u00e2ntico \u00e9 importante. Mas acreditem, o amor-pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 ainda mais importante. Quando se percebe que colocar a si pr\u00f3prio e a sua felicidade no <\/b>primeiro lugar<\/b>, you’ll understand that staying next to someone who is breaking your heart is not even an option.<\/p>\n Making this decision will be one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do- I won’t sugarcoat it. But once you make it, there is no going back.<\/p>\n \u00c9 necess\u00e1rio manter-se firme nos dias bons e maus<\/b>. And yes, there will be bad days. But you’re strong enough to survive them.<\/p>\n You won’t accomplish anything by walking away from someone you love and then returning to them once you start to miss them.<\/p>\n First of all, they won’t take you seriously. They’ll think they can continue playing with you however they want.<\/p>\n After all, your comeback gave them the green light to keep on treating you like garbage. You’re back, aren’t you? Well, that must mean that you’re perfectly okay with the way things were.<\/p>\n What is even more important, you’ll take one step ahead and two steps back. You won’t be at square one- you’ll be in the worst position than before.<\/p>\n Por isso, em vez de desistir, continua a caminhar atrav\u00e9s da tempestade<\/b>.<\/p>\n A luz ao fundo do t\u00fanel est\u00e1 pr\u00f3xima e o arco-\u00edris est\u00e1 \u00e0 sua espera do outro lado. S\u00f3 tens de passar por isso, por mais doloroso que possa ser.<\/p>\n Knowing this, you’ll understand why tem de <\/b>cortar todos os la\u00e7os poss\u00edveis<\/b><\/a> com o seu ex<\/b>. You can’t expect to esquecer o seu ex<\/a> se os deixarmos ficar por c\u00e1.<\/p>\n No calling them when you’re feeling low. No texting them when you miss them. No stalking their social media profiles and liking their posts. No asking your mutual friends about their whereabouts.<\/p>\n Now that you’ve gotten the courage to kick this toxic person out of your life, it’s time to expulsem-nos tamb\u00e9m do vosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b>.<\/p>\n A \u00fanica forma de o fazer realmente \u00e9 aplicar o <\/b>regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/b><\/a>. Acredite que cada comunica\u00e7\u00e3o com eles (ou sobre eles) s\u00f3 vai reabrir as feridas que come\u00e7aram agora a sarar.<\/p>\n Quanta energia gastaste com essa pessoa que nunca valeu a pena? Quanto tempo perdeste a persegui-la?<\/p>\n Now, you’ll redirecionar todo este esfor\u00e7o para a pessoa mais importante da sua vida - voc\u00ea mesmo<\/b>. Mantenha-se ocupado e trabalhe para se tornar a melhor vers\u00e3o poss\u00edvel de si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n Antes de mais, you’ll have less time to think about the one you left behind<\/b>. If you start working on your goals in this instance, before you know it, you’ll forget they ever existed.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, tudo isto ir\u00e1 aumentar a sua autoestima<\/a>. Quando finalmente compreender o seu valor pr\u00f3prio<\/a> and once you are proud of everything you’ve accomplished, you’ll wonder why you haven’t made the decision of leaving sooner.<\/p>\n So, don’t repress your emotions. Don’t act like everything is in order when you’re actually falling apart.<\/p>\nVoc\u00eas n\u00e3o t\u00eam futuro juntos<\/h3>\n
Deep down, you know it’s time<\/h3>\n
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Por vezes, a sua intui\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 mais forte do que qualquer outra coisa<\/b>. There are times when you really want to stay next to someone but deep down, you know that you’re stuck in a toxic relationship.<\/p>\nYou’re not respected<\/h3>\n
O teu amor n\u00e3o \u00e9 correspondido<\/h3>\n
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We’ve all been there. We’ve been apaixonados pelos nossos melhores amigos<\/a>, coworkers or people who don’t take us seriously.<\/p>\nA confian\u00e7a \u00e9 violada<\/h3>\n
You aren’t compatible<\/h3>\n
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J\u00e1 alguma vez estiveste numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que um rapaz ou uma rapariga te abanou o mundo mas you both know you’re not cut out for each other<\/b>. You’re different, don’t want the same things in life and are both too stubborn to change your ways.<\/p>\nYou’ve stayed for all the wrong reasons<\/h3>\n
Como \u00e9 que se afasta de algu\u00e9m que se ama?<\/h2>\n
Fazer uma lista de raz\u00f5es<\/h3>\n
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For starters, let’s incluir algum senso comum<\/b> in all of this. I’m not saying that you’ll disregard your emotions completely but they can’t be the only thing making the decision on your behalf either.<\/p>\nRemember that love isn’t enough<\/h3>\n
Ponha-se em primeiro lugar<\/h3>\n
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Por vezes, amamos o nosso parceiro at\u00e9 aos ossos, mas sabemos que it\u2019s about time to start loving yourself more.<\/b><\/p>\nMantenha-se firme na sua decis\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
N\u00e3o estabelecer contacto<\/h3>\n
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Sabes o que se diz: Longe da vista, longe do cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Bem, h\u00e1 muita verdade neste ditado.<\/p>\nTrabalhar em si pr\u00f3prio<\/h3>\n
Allow yourself to grieve…<\/h3>\n
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It’s \u00e9 perfeitamente natural sentirmo-nos mal depois de <\/b>afastar-se<\/b> de algu\u00e9m que amas<\/b>. It’s normal to miss the person you cared for so much.<\/p>\n
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Finalmente, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 vergonha em pedir ajuda<\/b>. You’re going through a hurtful period and you’ve got your heart broken. Besides, at some level, you’re aware that your decision broke it.<\/p>\n![\"uma](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-by-the-window-2.jpg\")
Sometimes, a complete stranger can turn your pain into words better than you would ever do. You know why? Because you’re not the only one going through this situation. Since the beginning of time, people have been forced to walk away from someone they loved.<\/p>\n![\"Afastar-se](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/Walking-Away-From-Someone-You-Love-How-And-When-To-Do-It-pinterest.jpg\")
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