{"id":2058,"date":"2020-06-03T07:33:20","date_gmt":"2020-06-03T07:33:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2058"},"modified":"2022-02-27T12:51:32","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T12:51:32","slug":"carta-aberta-homem-destruido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/carta-aberta-homem-destruido\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta aberta ao homem que me destruiu"},"content":{"rendered":"

A Carta para ele<\/a><\/p>\n

Dear \u201cLove of my Life\u201d,<\/em><\/p>\n

Antes de mais, quero agradecer-lhe por me ter mostrado o que I didn\u2019t deserve.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve<\/strong> as palavras desagrad\u00e1veis que me gritou e as cuspidelas que me deu na cara. Isso s\u00f3 te fez sentir mais homem e isso destruiu-me completamente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve<\/strong> degradation and being called names. You made me feel like I was nothing only so you could feel the power\u2014the power you tasted when you made me helpless to do anything to save myself.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve<\/strong> Acordar a meio da noite coberto de suor porque tinha pesadelos em que tu eras o protagonista.<\/p>\n

You weren\u2019t there by my side to see me in agony. You didn\u2019t care what happened to me.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica coisa com que se preocupou foi em satisfazer as suas necessidades e o seu ego\u00edsmo.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve all those anxiety attacks every time I thought or heard of you.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve the lack of love I got from you and most of all, I didn’t deserve you cheating on me.<\/p>\n

Agora, o que tenho para vos dizer \u00e9 obrigado.<\/p>\n

Obrigado por me fazeres perceber YOU didn\u2019t deserve ME!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Obrigado por aquela noite de horror em que me espancaste at\u00e9 \u00e0 morte emocional. S\u00f3 ent\u00e3o pude nascer de novo.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Essa noite foi a noite em que me deste a coragem para finalmente te deixar<\/a>. Eu sei que pensavas que tudo o que me estavas a fazer estava certo, mas estavas t\u00e3o enganado.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t treat the woman you love like shit. You don\u2019t bring her to the edge. You don\u2019t destroy her every wish to keep on living.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, guarda-a como se fosse a coisa mais valiosa da tua vida. Porque, no fundo, sabes que ela \u00e9 uma mulher para amar e que foste um sacana sortudo por a teres conquistado.<\/p>\n

With a woman like that, you don\u2019t play mind games nor do you do all those horrible things to her. You cherish her and you thank God every day that you have her in her life.<\/p>\n

But you didn\u2019t do that, did you? You took advantage of her and you destroyed her life forever because even when she managed to get away from you, she wasn\u2019t the same person anymore.<\/p>\n

Mataste a mulher que ela costumava ser e criaste uma nova, perfeita para ti, tal como gostavas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Jurava que a amava. Sempre que fazias outra coisa horr\u00edvel e ela queria ir-se embora, imploravas-lhe que ficasse.<\/p>\n

Juraste pela tua vida que a amavas e que querias ajud\u00e1-la. Que monte de mentiras!<\/p>\n

But still, there is something I cannot understand. How can a person like you dare to say \u2018I love you\u2019 to anyone? Those three words represent something you can\u2019t comprehend.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t even know why you said that you loved me when you didn’t feel that. Maybe you wanted to deceive me and take advantage of me.<\/p>\n

Maybe deep down, you were a broken man who didn\u2019t know como amar uma mulher<\/a>Ent\u00e3o, fizeste-me todas aquelas coisas desagrad\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

Talvez pensasse mesmo que estava certo, que estava a fazer a coisa certa. Talvez sejas assim t\u00e3o psicopata.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Sempre me perguntei onde est\u00e1 a tua consci\u00eancia. Sempre me perguntei se \u00e9 dif\u00edcil para ti quando vais dormir? A tua mente e a tua alma est\u00e3o tranquilas?<\/p>\n

But I never got an answer to those questions. I\u2019m not even sure you ever thought about it because everything you did to me seemed so natural to you.<\/p>\n

You DIDN\u2019T love me. You can\u2019t love anyone. Maybe you just liked the idea of love, so you gave it a try and I was your \u2018guinea pig\u2019. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Mas deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa. Falhaste e falhaste muito.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Foolishly enough, I was the one who loved you truly but I shouldn\u2019t have loved you at all.<\/p>\n

Eu era aquele que estava preparado para mover montanhas por ti e tudo o que me restou foi um peda\u00e7o de uma delas que se partiu e me atingiu.<\/p>\n

I was the only one trying and the only one fighting for what you called \u2018eternal love\u2019. And what did I get in the end?<\/p>\n

Tenho cicatrizes emocionais que nunca v\u00e3o sarar. Tenho mem\u00f3rias que nunca v\u00e3o desaparecer.<\/p>\n

Ainda ou\u00e7o o eco das tuas palavras duras na minha cabe\u00e7a. Sinto-as a assombrar-me e a fazer-me tremer. Fico com frio sem raz\u00e3o e depois lembro-me que estava a pensar em ti.<\/p>\n

Nessa altura, comecei a sentir-me entorpecida sempre que me insultava. Pensei que era porque me estava a habituar.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 agora, quando essas palavras do passado me assombram, \u00e9 que me apercebo que estava a reprimir esses sentimentos para poder sobreviver.<\/p>\n

Tranquei o que restava de mim bem no fundo, na esperan\u00e7a de o encontrar um dia.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Esse era o meu mecanismo de defesa e agora sei a que tipo de horror sobrevivi por tua causa.<\/p>\n

Now that I\u2019m far away from you, I\u2019m finally aware of how lucky I am to be able to go on living.<\/p>\n

I finally realize how lucky I am to be getting another chance\u2014not just for love, but for life, too. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Agora apercebo-me de como sou forte e, desta vez, prometo a mim mesma que nunca deixarei que ningu\u00e9m me magoe como tu fizeste.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O meu comportamento, tudo o que fiz e o que fui, nunca foi suficientemente bom para ti.<\/p>\n

To you, I was a piece of clay ready to be molded. Today, I realize I was already a masterpiece until you ruined me by trying to \u2018improve\u2019 me.<\/p>\n

No passado, quando te amava, pensei que eras a luz ao fundo do meu t\u00fanel escuro. Mas, tu eras a escurid\u00e3o que me prendia.<\/p>\n

Eras a sombra que me puxava mais para dentro, sempre que eu procurava a luz para me salvar.<\/p>\n

Durante todo este tempo foste o homem que me impediu de alcan\u00e7ar os meus objectivos e de realizar os meus sonhos.<\/p>\n

E a parte mais triste \u00e9 que querias que eu acreditasse que estavas a ajudar-me a erguer e, durante todo esse tempo, estavas a empurrar-me para um vasto nada.<\/p>\n

Mesmo que eu pensasse que foste o amor da minha vida<\/a>, eras de facto o meu pior inimigo.<\/p>\n

And truth to be told, I still don\u2019t understand how you could do that to the woman you were living with. How could you tell me that you loved me if you didn\u2019t mean that?<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I guess you were that kind of a man who actually doesn\u2019t give a damn what people think about him.<\/p>\n

And in this case, you didn\u2019t care what I thought of you because if you had, you would have thought first before doing it but when we were together, you always acted and then thought.<\/p>\n

Mas, nessa altura, j\u00e1 era demasiado tarde para perdoar.<\/p>\n

A person can take just enough. When you think you\u2019ve reached your limit, you\u2019re not there yet. When you think that you can\u2019t take it anymore, you\u2019re not there yet.<\/p>\n

But, when you don\u2019t care anymore, when it\u2019s all the same if you live or die, when the days and nights look completely the same, that\u2019s when you\u2019ve had enough.<\/p>\n

Fizeste-me acreditar em coisas que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o reais. Obrigaste-me a confiar em ti. Disseste-me que era imposs\u00edvel viver comigo.<\/p>\n

You told me I was crazy, that I needed help. You told me I was unlovable, but it was you who couldn\u2019t handle me.<\/p>\n

You said that because you saw me doing things that you weren’t capable of. Just because I was stronger than you, you wanted to belittle me and gaslight me.<\/p>\n

Queria ter controlo sobre mim. Querias dominar-me e, infelizmente, por um momento, conseguiste.<\/p>\n

Eras o meu mal necess\u00e1rio<\/a>O narcisista disfar\u00e7ado e o homem que sabia como fazer-me sentir mal apenas com palavras.<\/p>\n

Sabia exatamente onde bater. Sabia exatamente como destruir-me<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Depois de anos passados, preciso de vos dizer uma coisa.<\/em><\/p>\n

The girl you \u2018molded\u2019 into a pitiful, meaningless NOTHING has become a woman who is a powerful and unbreakable SOMETHING.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Obrigado por fazeres parte da minha vida.<\/em><\/p>\n

Obrigada por me fazeres perceber que eu era a \u00fanica pessoa que me podia salvar.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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