{"id":20764,"date":"2020-04-12T11:08:34","date_gmt":"2020-04-12T11:08:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20764"},"modified":"2022-06-21T00:02:13","modified_gmt":"2022-06-21T00:02:13","slug":"antes-de-a-julgarem-por-ter-ficado-com-o-seu-agressor-saibam-isto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/antes-de-a-julgarem-por-ter-ficado-com-o-seu-agressor-saibam-isto\/","title":{"rendered":"Antes de a julgar por ter ficado com o agressor, saiba isto"},"content":{"rendered":"

You just can’t understand why these women stay with their abusers. You can wrap your mind around it, but you\u2019ll never understand it if it doesn\u2019t happen to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can’t understand that these women were imprisoned. They were manipulated and they were used. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sofreram todos os abusos poss\u00edveis: <\/span>emocional<\/span>, physical, sexual…you name it. So next time you ask someone why she stayed with him, remember that an enormous amount of abuse and pain changed them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Constant abuse can break you to the point that you can\u2019t recognise yourself anymore.<\/b><\/p>\n

It can happen to anyone. You may be as strong as you like, but if you fall in love with an abuser, you\u2019re basically uma pessoa quebrada<\/a> or you\u2019re about to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t recognize them and you can\u2019t spend your whole life afraid that you might fall for someone like that. But, what you can do is watch out the red flags that will show you he might be a type of a man you have to run away from as soon as possible. <\/span><\/p>\n

Os abusadores est\u00e3o em todo o lado. <\/b><\/p>\n

They are so common and you\u2019ve probably had to deal with a man like this at least once or you\u2019re dealing with him now. They present themselves as charming and basically irresistible. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eles rastejam sob a nossa pele. Conquistam-nos e fazem-nos apaixonar pela imagem de homem que criaram na nossa mente. <\/span><\/p>\n

But it\u2019s just an image because the reality is completely opposite from what\u2019s before you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eles usam-nos emocionalmente. Eles drenam o \u00faltimo \u00e1tomo de energia de ti. Deixam-te <\/span>quebrado<\/span><\/a> e espancados, e depois tomam o controlo total sobre n\u00f3s. <\/span><\/p>\n

Then they own you because it\u2019s so easy to rule the mind which has been brainwashed. It\u2019s so easy to take control of someone who has lost everything they believed in, someone who has started to doubt themselves for everything they do.<\/span><\/p>\n

This didn\u2019t happen overnight. They planned for it to happen. <\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s all just the part of their plan. At first they are so perfect that it\u2019s surreal. Then, when you let your guard down, the process begins. <\/span><\/p>\n

First, lying and making up excuses which make no sense, but they do it like they\u2019re the most sensible things you\u2019ve ever heard. Then, manipulating and putting the blame on you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Depois disso, eles iluminam-nos e tentam enlouquecer-nos. Fazem-nos acreditar em coisas que nunca aconteceram, para que deixemos de confiar em n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e passemos a confiar inteiramente neles. <\/span><\/p>\n

Depois, h\u00e1 que atingir o fundo do po\u00e7o. <\/b><\/p>\n

After this, you\u2019re empty inside. You\u2019re empty and destroyed. You\u2019ve lost the true sense of yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have no respect for yourself whatsoever and you hate yourself for what you\u2019ve become. When you have no reason left to live, you\u2019re either going to wish for everything to end or you\u2019re going to start looking for a way out. <\/span><\/p>\n

But, still you won\u2019t be able to find one.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can ask your friends for support. You can talk to them, but them saying to get out and asking what you are still doing with him won\u2019t magically help you. <\/span><\/p>\n

It won\u2019t make it easier for you to leave. It\u2019s easy to say that. t\u2019s completely different to actually do it. <\/span><\/p>\n

O caminho para a recupera\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 longo, mas vale a pena. <\/b><\/p>\n

After you leave, you can\u2019t just decide to get better. You\u2019re haunted by horrible memories. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t sleep at night because the only thing you dream about is him and his abuse. You\u2019re afraid to get close to other people<\/a> because every time you meet someone new, you\u2019re expecting the worst. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re expecting him to be the same as he was. <\/span><\/p>\n

A cura leva tempo. Tens de deixar o tempo curar as tuas feridas. Tens de deixar o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o assentar e deixar de ser vulner\u00e1vel. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to forgive yourself and let your guard down. You have to understand that it wasn\u2019t your fault, that you did nothing wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso recuperar o respeito por si pr\u00f3prio e voltar a pensar em si como antes. S\u00f3 o tempo te pode dar isso. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to decide that he won\u2019t be the person who will mark the rest of your life. You have to keep on writing the story of your life the way you want. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to stop defining yourself by what you\u2019ve been through. Your life doesn\u2019t end there. It keeps on going if you decide so.<\/span><\/p>\n

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You just can’t understand why these women stay with their abusers. You can wrap your mind around it, but you\u2019ll never understand it if it doesn\u2019t happen to you. You can’t understand that these women were imprisoned. They were manipulated and they were used. They experienced every abuse possible: emotional, physical, sexual…you name it. So…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":20765,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20764","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/joelvalve-733220-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20764","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20764"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20764\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20765"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20764"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20764"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20764"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}