{"id":20852,"date":"2018-07-16T10:43:33","date_gmt":"2018-07-16T10:43:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20852"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:23:21","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:23:21","slug":"estar-apaixonado-pelo-seu-parceiro-nao-o-torna-compativel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/estar-apaixonado-pelo-seu-parceiro-nao-o-torna-compativel\/","title":{"rendered":"Estar apaixonado pelo seu parceiro n\u00e3o o torna compat\u00edvel"},"content":{"rendered":"

Deixem-me come\u00e7ar com uma pergunta: quantas vezes j\u00e1 estiveram apaixonados ao ponto de fazerem qualquer coisa para fazer uma determinada pessoa feliz, mas a <\/span>a rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabou por se revelar t\u00f3xica<\/span><\/a> in the end for the both of you? Too many times, right? That is a truly simple example of the fact that you can be in love with someone even though you’re not compatible.<\/span><\/p>\n

I have figured this out on my own skin. I wasn’t as heartbroken by the fact that we weren’t meant to be together as I was when I found out that all those dreams I had about the two of us growing old together were going to stay just dreams. I wanted to love him until the end of our times, but we simply weren’t meant to be.<\/b><\/p>\n

There were very simple differences like the fact that he was a night owl and I was an early bird. Then, there were bigger ones like he didn’t have the need to talk about his feelings nor listen to me talk about mine, because he simply found it to be a boring topic. While I? I can always talk and extend my mind. I can always tell you that the way I feel at any moment is connected to a certain event in the past and that I get triggered by usual, everyday things. Yes. We were that different.<\/span><\/p>\n

A maior diferen\u00e7a entre n\u00f3s era a perce\u00e7\u00e3o que t\u00ednhamos de toda a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Deixem-me s\u00f3 dizer-vos que ele era uma pessoa bastante independente, um solit\u00e1rio, por assim dizer, mas eu, por outro lado, sou <\/span>algu\u00e9m muito extrovertido<\/span><\/a> que adora estar com pessoas que eu adoro. Por isso, \u00e9 claro que eu adorava estar com ele, enquanto ele precisava sempre de estar sozinho.<\/span><\/p>\n

It the end, it always resulted in fights, me yelling that he doesn’t love me at all and him denying it, telling me that I had gone completely mad. It was obvious to see that our relationship wasn\u2019t going anywhere. When we were breaking up, I was heartbroken to know the real reason\u2014when he came up to me and told me that he loved me to death but we simply weren’t right for each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

My mind went blank and all I could think about at that time was that he was lying! I told him that we were perfect for each other. I begged him to not do this because things weren’t that bad at all. I said that I loved him, too, so how could we not be compatible? How could I fall in love with someone who wasn’t right for me?<\/span><\/p>\n

Quando as coisas come\u00e7aram a clarear na minha cabe\u00e7a, vi do que ele estava a falar naquele dia. <\/b>Finalmente vi-o claramente. Sempre que fal\u00e1vamos, nunca olh\u00e1vamos para as coisas da mesma perspetiva. Eu era demasiado emocional para a sua racionalidade e ele simplesmente <\/span>tinha prioridades maiores<\/span><\/a> than me. But it doesn’t change the fact that my chest still hurts from the mere thought of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Queria que ele ficasse ao meu lado. Queria que ele falasse comigo. Queria que ele estivesse l\u00e1 para mim e talvez ele pr\u00f3prio quisesse todas estas coisas, mas de uma forma completamente diferente. Por essa raz\u00e3o, separ\u00e1mo-nos e nunca mais fal\u00e1mos.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why you should never be devastated when you fall in love but you two end up going your separate ways. You shouldn’t be depressed; you shouldn’t be sad. <\/span>Love simply wasn’t enough for the two of you to stay together<\/b>. Relationships are hard work, a lot of talking and they are about having a shoulder to cry on. Some people simply can’t give you that in the amount that you would want to have it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Until you find the man who is perfect for you, meeting your needs and appreciating you fully, don’t just sit around <\/span>solu\u00e7ar e chorar<\/span>, because it’s not something that will help you at all. J<\/span>ue ele vir\u00e1 mesmo, lembra-te que te amar\u00e1 completamente e te aceitar\u00e1 completamente. Tu ser\u00e1s tudo o que ele sempre quis e muito mais. Vais am\u00e1-lo e, desta vez, talvez o amor seja suficiente.<\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Let me start this with a question: how many times have you been in love to the point where you would have done anything to make a particular person happy, but the relationship turned out to be toxic in the end for the both of you? Too many times, right? That is a truly simple…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":20853,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20852","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/andrew-neel-304754-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20852","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20852"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20852\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20853"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20852"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20852"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20852"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}