{"id":20932,"date":"2020-07-18T10:10:52","date_gmt":"2020-07-18T10:10:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20932"},"modified":"2022-02-27T10:33:09","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T10:33:09","slug":"a-verdade-sobre-nao-ser-nada-mais-do-que-um-plano-de-apoio-para-alguem-que-se-amava","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-verdade-sobre-nao-ser-nada-mais-do-que-um-plano-de-apoio-para-alguem-que-se-amava\/","title":{"rendered":"A verdade sobre n\u00e3o ser nada al\u00e9m de um plano de apoio para algu\u00e9m que voc\u00ea realmente amava"},"content":{"rendered":"

Se tivesse de descrever a minha vida numa s\u00f3 palavra, seria \"\u00e0 espera\". Estava sempre \u00e0 espera de alguma coisa. Esperava pelas suas mensagens e chamadas.<\/p>\n

I waited for him to find time for me. I waited for him to say, \u201cI love you\u201d. I waited for him to be ready for a relationship. I waited for him to chose me, but he never did.<\/p>\n

The sad part is, and it\u2019s all but easy to admit, I would probably still be waiting if he hadn\u2019t left me. I would still be settling for his empty words and false promises.<\/p>\n

Mesmo assim, n\u00e3o me importava de ser o seu plano de reserva<\/a>. Eu continuaria a ter esperan\u00e7a de que alguma coisa mudasse dentro dele e acab\u00e1ssemos por ficar juntos.<\/p>\n

I kept lying to myself. I lied that I was fine with the way things were. I lied that I didn\u2019t need labels. <\/strong><\/p>\n

I lied about being laid back and relaxed, a \u2018whatever happens – happens\u2019 kind of girl. I lied because I wanted him in my life so badly and that was the only way I could have him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I chose to ignore all the red flags flying before my eyes, warning me to stay away. I couldn\u2019t help but see them. He said to me that ele n\u00e3o est\u00e1 preparado para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> just yet, and like a fool, I kept holding on to the \u201cjust yet\u201d part of the sentence, thinking that things will change in the future.<\/p>\n

Arranjei desculpas para o seu comportamento, pensando que ele s\u00f3 precisava de mais tempo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ao esperar que ele se apaixonasse por mim, continuei a apaixonar-me cada vez mais por ele. A minha paix\u00e3o por ele transformou-se em amor e eu esperava que o mesmo acontecesse com ele.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u00c0 medida que me ia afei\u00e7oando, ia interpretando todos os sinais da forma como queria v\u00ea-los.<\/p>\n

Todos os pequenos sinais de afeto que ele me mostrava eram t\u00e3o grandiosos na minha cabe\u00e7a. Eu vivia dos bocadinhos de aten\u00e7\u00e3o que ele me dava, embora nunca fosse suficiente.<\/p>\n

Sentia-me sempre privado. Sempre desejei mais, mas contentava-me com menos porque sentia que n\u00e3o tinha outra escolha.<\/p>\n

Ele gostava de mim. Eu sei disso. Ainda hoje tenho a certeza disso. Mas ele nunca me amou. N\u00e3o da forma como eu o amava.<\/strong> Ele s\u00f3 me amava a meio caminho. Eu tinha apenas um pequeno lugar no seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Ele amava-me como se fosse o seu plano de reserva, enquanto todo o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o era dele. Enquanto eu sonhava com a nossa vida com ele, ele sabia sempre que n\u00e3o estava l\u00e1 para ficar.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why my entire heart got shattered into millions of little pieces and I still haven\u2019t gathered them all. On the other hand, his remained whole, undamaged, untouched because he was never mine like I was his.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ele foi o meu maior amor e a minha maior e mais dif\u00edcil li\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong> He taught me that if love doesn\u2019t go both ways, it\u2019s worthless. He taught me that hurt can be even greater when you are in something that doesn\u2019t have labels and doesn\u2019t promise commitment.<\/p>\n

Ele ensinou-me que tenho de me respeitar o suficiente e esperar pelo que mere\u00e7o.<\/strong> That I shouldn\u2019t chase after anyone, telling them how great we could be together if they don\u2019t see it themselves.<\/p>\n

That my love alone wasn\u2019t enough. That I am stronger than I think and that I can make myself happy.<\/p>\n

O mais importante \u00e9 que ele me ensinou que devo never settle for being somebody\u2019s backup plan<\/a> when I deserve to be somebody’s first and only option.<\/p>\n

\"A<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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