{"id":20982,"date":"2020-07-19T12:38:24","date_gmt":"2020-07-19T12:38:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=20982"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:16:04","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:16:04","slug":"finalmente-aceitei-o-facto-de-que-continuarei-sempre-um-pouco-quebrado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/finalmente-aceitei-o-facto-de-que-continuarei-sempre-um-pouco-quebrado\/","title":{"rendered":"Finalmente aceitei o facto de que continuarei sempre um pouco quebrado"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019ve always considered myself to be a <\/span>mulher forte<\/span><\/a>. Era assim mesmo quando eu era crian\u00e7a. Simplesmente nunca estive preparado para permitir que tudo o que \u00e9 negativo na vida tivesse um grande impacto em mim.<\/span><\/p>\n

Os outros tamb\u00e9m pensavam assim a meu respeito. Todos \u00e0 minha volta achavam que eu era uma das pessoas mais fortes que conheciam e admiravam-me por essa qualidade.<\/span><\/p>\n

E tenho de admitir que me perguntava como \u00e9 que as pessoas podiam ser t\u00e3o sens\u00edveis. Como podiam deixar que tudo e todos lhes afectassem o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e a mente?<\/span><\/p>\n

At\u00e9 me tornar igual a eles.<\/span><\/p>\n

At\u00e9 que um homem que me partiu o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e que me quebrou completamente entrou na minha vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, he didn\u2019t do all of this overnight. It took him a lot of time, patience and energy to break my spirit and to defeat me completely. But eventually, this guy ruined me.<\/span><\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t just break my heart. He changed the person I used to be and he made me an insecure, vulnerable little girl.<\/span><\/p>\n

Este tipo arruinou a minha vontade de ser eu pr\u00f3pria e a minha vontade de viver. Ele destruiu todas as minhas esperan\u00e7as e destruiu a minha autoimagem.<\/span><\/p>\n

But that wasn\u2019t what hurt me the most.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eu estava completamente consciente do que estava a acontecer mesmo quando ele fazia parte da minha vida e percebi tudo ainda melhor quando ele me deixou.<\/b><\/p>\n

And that realization, that I\u2019ve allowed someone to get to me that much, was the most painful thing I\u2019ve ever experienced. I couldn\u2019t believe some random guy managed to get under my skin and into my head that much. I couldn\u2019t believe anyone, especially a man who didn\u2019t deserve me, could change the essence of who I was.<\/b><\/p>\n

E, acima de tudo<\/span>\u2014<\/span>I couldn\u2019t believe I was the one who let it happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

For a long time, I\u2019ve blamed myself for being too weak and for allowing this man to break me.<\/span><\/p>\n

This simply wasn\u2019t me. I wasn\u2019t the kind of woman who would allow a man to manipulate her, to emotionally abuse her and to make her depressed and insecure.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pelo menos, era o que eu pensava.<\/span><\/p>\n

E com o tempo, o meu amor por este homem foi desaparecendo. A minha dor por tudo o que ele me tinha feito e por ele se ter afastado de mim tamb\u00e9m come\u00e7ou a desaparecer.<\/span><\/p>\n

O meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/span> estava prestes a sarar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas havia uma coisa que me impedia de me curar completamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00e1 passou muito tempo, mas nunca consegui aceitar o facto de algu\u00e9m ter conseguido quebrar-me. E deixar que isso me acontecesse perseguiu-me durante anos.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve lost all of my self-esteem and I allowed my pain to completely define me. I thought that every man would treat me the same because I was obviously not strong enough to defend my heart.<\/span><\/p>\n

E depois apercebi-me<\/b>\u2014<\/b>n\u00e3o havia nada de errado com o facto de me ter magoado. E a culpa nunca foi minha. Quando nos magoamos, a pessoa que nos causou essa dor \u00e9 sempre a \u00fanica a carregar toda a responsabilidade.<\/b><\/p>\n

So, I\u2019ve changed. And yes, I\u2019ve been broken. And it is possible that I will forever have the scars of the damage this guy did to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas \u00e9 assim que eu sou agora.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am not saying these emotional wounds should define me in any sense. I am just trying to say that they\u2019ve obviously become a part of me and that I needed to accept them as such.<\/b><\/p>\n

Estou a dizer que as coisas por que passei e as minhas <\/b>cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/b><\/a> s\u00e3o uma parte de mim. E isso \u00e9 algo que eu precisava de aceitar.<\/b><\/p>\n

A man broke me. That doesn\u2019t mean I am weak. It only means I had a big heart that let the wrong person in.<\/b><\/p>\n

Mas n\u00e3o o vou apagar se fingir que nada disto aconteceu.<\/span><\/p>\n

And I certainly won\u2019t heal if I try to run away from all the pain that has haunted me, because that would mean I am weak.<\/span><\/p>\n

Em vez disso, serei suficientemente forte para enfrentar as minhas fraquezas.<\/span>E o mais importante<\/span>\u2014<\/span>Serei suficientemente forte para aceitar o facto de que nunca voltarei a ser a pessoa que era antes. Ficarei sempre um pouco quebrado e isso \u00e9 mais do que bom.<\/span> <\/p>\n

\"FINALMENTE<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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