{"id":21189,"date":"2020-04-25T10:34:29","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T10:34:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21189"},"modified":"2022-02-26T11:46:32","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T11:46:32","slug":"para-o-homem-quebrado-que-eu-tentei-consertar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/para-o-homem-quebrado-que-eu-tentei-consertar\/","title":{"rendered":"Para o homem quebrado que tentei consertar"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Quando te conheci, n\u00e3o vi o homem que eras. Em vez disso, vi o homem que te poderias ter tornado.<\/p>\n<p>Recusei-me simplesmente a ver-te atrav\u00e9s da forma como o teu passado te tinha afetado, apesar de saber tudo sobre ele. Recusei-me a ver-te da forma como te v\u00eas a ti pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p><b>Apesar de me estar sempre a dizer isso, recusei-me a aceitar que era <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/10-signs-dating-broken-man\/\"><b>namorar com um homem quebrado<\/b><\/a><b>. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>I had to admit that you were always honest \u2014 you told me you\u2019d been through a lot in the past and that you still didn\u2019t know how to deal with it.<\/p>\n<p>Disseste-me que havia uma rapariga que te causou muita dor. Uma rapariga que te traiu, apesar de todo o amor que lhe deste.<\/p>\n<p>Disseste-me que ela tinha mudado a ess\u00eancia de quem eras e que o mal que ela te tinha causado te tinha tornado um homem diferente.<\/p>\n<p>That you\u2019d become a bitter and pessimistic man who had lost all of his faith in love.<\/p>\n<p>Que deixaste de acreditar que poderia existir uma mulher que te amasse apesar de todos os teus defeitos.<\/p>\n<p>Que poderia existir uma mulher que o aceitasse tal como era, com todas as suas inseguran\u00e7as, imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es e cicatrizes emocionais.<\/p>\n<p>You told me that you\u2019d lost all of your trust in people and you advised me not to get my hopes up with you because you didn\u2019t know how much of yourself you could offer.<\/p>\n<p>But I didn\u2019t take any of this as red flags and none of it chased me away.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85306\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-man-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg\" alt=\"homem triste sentado no sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-man-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-man-sitting-on-the-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-man-sitting-on-the-couch-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Em vez disso, apreciei a sua honestidade acima de tudo.<\/p>\n<p><b>E tomei como minha miss\u00e3o salvar-te.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>I <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-a-rapariga-que-pensou-que-o-podia-curar\/\">pensava que eu era o \u00fanico capaz de curar e consertar o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> e alma. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>That I was the one who would show you that true love didn\u2019t have to hurt and that not every woman you let in will hurt you.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Armei-me de paci\u00eancia e esperei que estivesses pronto para te abrires comigo, para me deixares entrar na tua vida, para confiares em mim e para me amares.<\/p>\n<p>Esperei que sentisses que podias confiar em mim e que te comprometesses comigo.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t look at you as an unavailable and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/5-dicas-fantasticas-para-namorar-um-homem-emocionalmente-afetado\/\"> homem emocionalmente afetado <\/a> .<\/p>\n<p>Sim, eu estava bem ciente de todas as cicatrizes e feridas no teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, mas simplesmente recusei-me a permitir-me olhar para ti atrav\u00e9s delas.<\/p>\n<p>Eu sabia que eras um homem com muitas qualidades e que tinhas muito para oferecer, para al\u00e9m da tua fragilidade.<\/p>\n<p><b>E decidi ser eu a acordar o homem que costumavas ser, antes de teres o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido. Decidi salvar-te, quer gostasses ou n\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85309\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-comforting-man.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a confortar homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-comforting-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-comforting-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/woman-comforting-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>What I didn\u2019t know was that deep down, you didn\u2019t want to be rescued and that all of my efforts were in vain and doomed from the very beginning.<\/p>\n<p>Que essa dor que estava a sentir se tinha tornado a sua zona de conforto e que, na verdade, se tinha agarrado a ela durante todo este tempo.<\/p>\n<p>What I didn\u2019t know was that I would lose years of my life, trying to pick up the broken pieces of your heart and soul, without any success.<\/p>\n<p>What I didn\u2019t know was that you weren\u2019t only emotionally damaged\u2014you were also damaging to everyone around you and especially to me.<\/p>\n<p>What I didn\u2019t know was that I would never be able to save your wounded soul, no matter how hard I tried.<\/p>\n<p>But most importantly \u2014 I didn\u2019t only know that you wouldn\u2019t heal but that you\u2019d end up breaking me.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2014 I don\u2019t blame you for anything and I still think you treated me the best way you knew.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85312\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada em casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-at-home.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/sad-woman-sitting-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Mas o facto \u00e9 que me arrastaste para a tua negatividade e que me esgotaste completamente.<\/p>\n<p>O facto \u00e9 que me habituei aos teus padr\u00f5es de comportamento e que tu mudaste a pessoa que eu era, e n\u00e3o o contr\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n<p><b>The truth is that I didn\u2019t fix your broken heart. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/parti-o-meu-proprio-coracao\/\">S\u00f3 parti o meu pr\u00f3prio<\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 \u00f3bvio que eu era demasiado fraco para te tratar. Era \u00f3bvio que eu n\u00e3o era <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/strong-enough-love-broken-man\/\"> suficientemente forte para amar um homem quebrado <\/a> .<\/p>\n<p>My love for you clearly wasn\u2019t strong enough to heal your wounds and scars.<\/p>\n<p>E pe\u00e7o desculpa por isso.<\/p>\n<p><b>Pe\u00e7o desculpa por n\u00e3o ter cumprido a minha palavra e por n\u00e3o vos ter curado, como prometi. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Lamento ter de me escolher a mim em vez de ti. E lamento ter-te abandonado quando obviamente ainda precisavas de mim.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Mas isso era algo que eu tinha de fazer se me quisesse salvar. Tive simplesmente de desistir de ti.<\/p>\n<p>And that is something I\u2019ll never forgive myself for doing.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85303\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/To-The-Broken-Man-I-Tried-To-Fix-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Para o homem quebrado que tentei consertar\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/To-The-Broken-Man-I-Tried-To-Fix-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/To-The-Broken-Man-I-Tried-To-Fix-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/To-The-Broken-Man-I-Tried-To-Fix-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When I first met you, I didn\u2019t see the man you were. Instead, I saw the man you could\u2019ve become. I simply refused to see you through the way your past had affected you, although I knew everything about it. I refused to see you the way you saw yourself. Although you kept telling me&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":85314,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21189","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/To-The-Broken-Man-I-Tried-To-Fix.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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