{"id":21275,"date":"2018-07-27T07:35:41","date_gmt":"2018-07-27T07:35:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21275"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:03:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:03:25","slug":"e-assim-que-vais-deixar-a-tua-bagagem-emocional-arruinar-a-tua-proxima-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/e-assim-que-vais-deixar-a-tua-bagagem-emocional-arruinar-a-tua-proxima-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 assim que vais deixar a tua bagagem emocional arruinar a tua pr\u00f3xima rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00c9 necess\u00e1ria uma enorme dose de coragem e for\u00e7a para p\u00f4r fim a uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica e emocional. <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva<\/span><\/a> which doesn\u2019t make you happy. Something like this doesn\u2019t happen overnight. It is a painful process and it takes a lot of self-introspection, self-love and power to walk away from someone who is doing you harm.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you finally achieve this, when you get rid of the relationship that is hurting you, you think you\u2019ve done all the work. You think you are more than ready to completely move on with your life and that you\u2019ve completely gotten over the man who has caused you so much pain.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lamento ser eu a desiludir-vos e a dizer-vos isto, mas a verdade \u00e9 que o vosso <\/span>processo de cura<\/span><\/a> doesn\u2019t end there.<\/span><\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 que pode ainda carregar muita bagagem emocional quando entra numa nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o. E a pior parte \u00e9 que, por vezes, nem sequer temos consci\u00eancia das coisas a que nos agarramos, mesmo anos ap\u00f3s a dolorosa separa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quando se termina uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica, tudo o que se quer fazer \u00e9 esquecer que ela existiu. E pensa que a melhor maneira de o fazer \u00e9 envolver-se com algu\u00e9m novo, algu\u00e9m que a possa ajudar a ultrapassar o homem que a magoou.<\/b><\/p>\n

But sadly, this is not always the best recipe for happiness. Because there are times when you actually haven\u2019t gotten over everything that happened to you and you are just lying to yourself that you did.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong<\/span>\u2014<\/span>this doesn\u2019t mean you still love your ex. It just means that the scars of everything he did to you are still fresh, regardless of what you might think.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know because this is something I\u2019ve been through. I allowed the emotional baggage from my previous relationship to ruin something beautiful I started building with a new guy I met.<\/b><\/p>\n

And all of it happened because the timing was wrong. Actually, it all happened because my timing was wrong\u2014I obviously wasn\u2019t ready to start something new but I didn\u2019t want to admit it to myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quando conheci este homem, estava entusiasmada e entusiasmada porque finalmente me tinha permitido gostar de algu\u00e9m novo. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019d shown myself that I could talk to another guy, that I could find him attractive and that I could even fall in love with someone other than my ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

E, no in\u00edcio, convenci-me de que estava ainda mais apaixonado do que estava na realidade.<\/span><\/p>\n

I felt like I was on top of the world because I\u2019d finally managed to get over that man from my past who had done me so much harm.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas quando a excita\u00e7\u00e3o inicial passou, tudo o que vinha do meu passado apareceu \u00e0 superf\u00edcie.<\/b><\/p>\n

Agora apercebo-me que tinha <\/span>trauma de abandono<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estava sempre \u00e0 procura de sinais e pistas de que o meu namorado me iria deixar da mesma forma que o meu ex. <\/b><\/p>\n

I started doubting my own worth, because my ex managed to convince me that I was and never would be good enough or worthy of someone\u2019s love.<\/span><\/p>\n

E se ele me deixou depois de tudo o que pass\u00e1mos, o que \u00e9 que impedia este tipo de fazer a mesma coisa?<\/span><\/p>\n

Estava convencida de que ele me iria trair, tal como fez o meu ex.<\/b><\/p>\n

Que tudo ia correr bem entre n\u00f3s e que, de repente, eu o via com outra mulher.<\/span><\/p>\n

This happened because my ex tried hard to convince me that cheating is in every man\u2019s blood and that it is almost natural. And he succeeded in convincing me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Although I had no reason to doubt my new boyfriend\u2019s fidelity, that was exactly what I was doing all along.<\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t believe that there existed a man who would be faithful to me, when there were so many more beautiful and smarter women all around him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Durante muito tempo, este homem tentou ganhar a minha confian\u00e7a. Foi paciente e tentou provar-me que me amava e que eu n\u00e3o tinha motivos para me preocupar.<\/span><\/p>\n

But I couldn\u2019t believe him. I knew my fears were irrational but deep down, I was convinced that he was putting an effort into our relationship just so he could get under my skin. <\/span><\/p>\n

E quando ele finalmente o conseguisse, quando eu finalmente lhe mostrasse o meu amor, ele veria que podia tratar-me como quisesse.<\/span><\/p>\n

E eventualmente, <\/b>he\u2019d break my heart<\/b><\/a>da mesma forma que o meu ex.<\/b><\/p>\n

Passado algum tempo, fartou-se de mim e foi-se embora.<\/span><\/p>\n

And I can\u2019t say I blame him.<\/b><\/p>\n

I blame myself for not facing this emotional baggage in time and for thinking that it would go away, if I just pretended it didn\u2019t exist.<\/b><\/p>\n

Culpo-me por n\u00e3o ter dado a este tipo uma oportunidade de provar que estava errado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Culpo-me por ter permitido que a minha rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica arruinasse a minha hip\u00f3tese de ser feliz.<\/span><\/p>\n

Culpo-me por n\u00e3o saber melhor e por ter permitido que o meu ex manipulador entrasse na minha cabe\u00e7a e me controlasse mesmo depois de me ter deixado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Culpo-me por ter permitido que a bagagem emocional do meu passado tivesse um impacto t\u00e3o grande na minha nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It takes an enormous amount of courage and strength to end a toxic and emotionally abusive relationship which doesn\u2019t make you happy. Something like this doesn\u2019t happen overnight. It is a painful process and it takes a lot of self-introspection, self-love and power to walk away from someone who is doing you harm. When you…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":21276,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21275","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/tristan-colangelo-354867-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21275","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21275"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21275\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21276"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21275"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21275"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21275"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}