{"id":21282,"date":"2018-07-27T10:14:28","date_gmt":"2018-07-27T10:14:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21282"},"modified":"2022-01-09T17:54:08","modified_gmt":"2022-01-09T17:54:08","slug":"foi-assim-que-me-apaixonei-por-ele-nao-foi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/foi-assim-que-me-apaixonei-por-ele-nao-foi\/","title":{"rendered":"Como eu me apaixonei por ele (n\u00e3o me apaixonei)"},"content":{"rendered":"

I went through a break-up. A very hard, very devastating break-up where the man I loved turned out to be a jerk, who wasn’t even aware of the fact that I loved him with all my being, with everything I was, and he was able to just walk away like nothing ever happened. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele desistiu de mim. <\/span><\/p>\n

He gave up on us. But I am not trying to tell you a pathetic story of a girl who wasn’t able to live past the break-up and she never <\/span>apaixonou-se<\/span><\/a> novamente. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quero contar-vos a hist\u00f3ria de como me apaixonei por ele.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whenever my friends would talk about someone they loved very much they would say the most awful things, from, \u201cI don’t ever want to hear from him again,\u201d to, \u201cI hope his next girl cheats on him, like he cheated on me.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Let me tell you that their words weren’t really doing me any good in my recovery and healing process after my break-up, because they tried to teach me to hate him, to despise him. But I didn’t hate him. I felt the opposite. <\/span><\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que eu posso odiar algu\u00e9m que me era t\u00e3o querido apenas alguns dias antes?<\/span><\/p>\n

Vi as mulheres \u00e0 minha volta superarem os homens da mesma forma que superariam algo pequeno, algo insignificante.<\/b><\/p>\n

Of course, I would be lying if I said that they didn’t cry but they would drown their tears in tequila and vodka. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca os compreendi, nunca quis fazer isso porque acabavam sempre por <\/span>aprofundando as suas feridas<\/span><\/a> que n\u00e3o lhes trouxe nada de bom.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, optei por adotar a minha pr\u00f3pria abordagem e apaixonei-me de uma forma totalmente nova. N\u00e3o estou a dizer que a minha maneira \u00e9 a correcta, mas funciona e eu sou feliz. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn’t involve alcohol or drunk-texting, it doesn’t involve bad-mouthing my ex and so on. It includes me. Me, myself and I.<\/b><\/p>\n

I closed the gap in my heart with love. I didn’t want hatred to consume me, I didn’t want to be jealous of a new woman in his life. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00f3 senti amor, por ele, por mim e pelas nossas vidas que agora est\u00e3o separadas. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why I like to say that I don’t want to fall out of love with him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eventually, one day, when I bump into him on the street, my heart won’t feel that well-known feeling of being home, that feeling of safety and security. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe that day my heart won’t skip a beat and it won’t make me wish that things would have happened another way, because maybe, just maybe, he would stay. That day I will be able to say that <\/span>J\u00e1 o ultrapassei<\/span><\/a> e que eu segui em frente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas hoje? Hoje s\u00f3 sinto amor.<\/b> Of course, it’s mixed with sadness and sometimes a little bit of grief but mostly I am happier that it happened at all. I just imagine my life without him ever being in it and I know I wouldn’t be this person I am today. That is why I am grateful. <\/span><\/p>\n

Os meus amigos dizem-me que devo ser uma lun\u00e1tica porque falo sempre dele com um sorriso na cara e pensam que estou a fingir, quando na verdade tudo o que estou a fazer \u00e9 aceitar os meus sentimentos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estou a aceitar o facto de que acabou.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am accepting the fact that he isn’t in my life anymore. I also accept the way I still love him, because that is the way I will let go. That is the way I am slowly moving on from him. <\/span><\/p>\n

I didn’t fall out of love with him just yet but just you wait until a day arises where my heart won’t yearn for him\u2014not even a little bit.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sempre amei a minha vida e vou continuar a am\u00e1-la. Porque \u00e9 que haveria de partir as pe\u00e7as que fizeram de mim quem sou? <\/span><\/p>\n

Porqu\u00ea encher os meus dias de \u00f3dio quando posso amar incondicionalmente, tal como tenho feito at\u00e9 agora? <\/span><\/p>\n

Amava-o o suficiente para dizer que estou contente por ele ser feliz, comigo ou sem mim. E estou contente por me amar a mim pr\u00f3pria, apesar do facto de<\/span> ele deixou-me<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estou t\u00e3o feliz por ser capaz de me amar com tanta bondade agora, quando mais preciso, sem julgamentos, sem me perguntar se fui suficientemente boa. Sei que dei o meu melhor.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, esta \u00e9 a minha hist\u00f3ria de como me apaixonei por um homem que simplesmente me deixou<\/a>\u2014I didn’t stop feeling all those feelings, I just recognized the fact that I can’t change them right away. <\/b><\/p>\n

Mas chegarei ao ponto de liberta\u00e7\u00e3o, onde direi que me apaixonei verdadeiramente por ele.<\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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