{"id":21330,"date":"2020-04-30T09:42:19","date_gmt":"2020-04-30T09:42:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21330"},"modified":"2021-08-11T19:42:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T19:42:25","slug":"esta-a-forcar-a-sua-relacao-a-durar-12-maneiras-de-o-dizer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/esta-a-forcar-a-sua-relacao-a-durar-12-maneiras-de-o-dizer\/","title":{"rendered":"Est\u00e1 a for\u00e7ar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o a durar? 12 maneiras de saber"},"content":{"rendered":"

Porque \u00e9 que continuamos a acreditar num \"felizes para sempre\" mesmo quando tudo \u00e0 nossa volta est\u00e1 a desmoronar-se?<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que continuamos a pensar que as pessoas v\u00e3o mudar, que as coisas v\u00e3o ser resolvidas e que tudo vai acabar por se resolver?<\/p>\n

Estamos a agarrar-nos firmemente a essa ideia de amor, mesmo quando o amor se foi. Continuamos \u00e0 espera de um milagre porque n\u00e3o h\u00e1 mais nada a fazer. J\u00e1 tent\u00e1mos tudo.<\/p>\n

We gave our best. We fought with all we had. But it wasn\u2019t enough. It will never be enough because love can\u2019t be forced. There is no need to change ourself to find or keep love.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de ir mais al\u00e9m para fazer com que duas pessoas se encaixem. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade porque quando o amor \u00e9 real<\/a>Mesmo as pe\u00e7as mais imperfeitas encaixam na perfei\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Love shouldn\u2019t be so difficult. Sure, it requires work but it also requires two people who would do anything for each other.<\/p>\n

Duas pessoas que fazem com que amar um ao outro seja f\u00e1cil, mesmo quando tudo o resto \u00e9 dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n

Apesar de sabermos tudo isso l\u00e1 no fundo, queremos tanto que as coisas funcionem que ficamos, embora j\u00e1 dev\u00eassemos ter sa\u00eddo h\u00e1 muito tempo.<\/p>\n

As nossas emo\u00e7\u00f5es e desejos toldam-nos a vis\u00e3o e n\u00e3o conseguimos ver com clareza.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it\u2019s time you open your eyes and ask yourself if you are forcing your relationship and you can find the answer in these signs:<\/p>\n

1. Est\u00e3o a tentar mudar um ao outro<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

If you are trying to mold a person to fit your expectations, it\u2019s never going to happen.<\/p>\n

Ou se aceitam um ao outro pelo que s\u00e3o ou simplesmente enfrentam o facto de n\u00e3o serem compat\u00edveis.<\/p>\n

As pessoas mudam, mas s\u00f3 quando querem ou sentem necessidade de o fazer.<\/p>\n

Se der por si a pensar que se ao menos fizessem isto ou aquilo, tudo seria perfeito, tem um problema que \u00e9 muito maior do que pensa.<\/p>\n

2. Passar tempo juntos parece uma obriga\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

\u201cWe haven’t hung out in a long while so we should tonight,\u201d isn\u2019t the kind of love story you wanted to be in.<\/p>\n

Se sente que passar tempo com a pessoa com quem est\u00e1 \u00e9 o seu dever e n\u00e3o o seu prazer, est\u00e1 a ir por \u00e1gua abaixo.<\/p>\n

Deve desejar passar algum tempo a s\u00f3s com o seu parceiro, mesmo que estejam juntos h\u00e1 muito tempo.<\/p>\n

There is a big difference between \u201cwe have to\u201d and \u201cwe want to\u201d spend time together.<\/p>\n

3. O sil\u00eancio \u00e9 ensurdecedor<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

You forgot how to communicate. You don\u2019t talk to each other anymore, not really.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 se fala de coisas do quotidiano. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 mais conversas profundas ou aquelas que mostram que ainda te preocupas.<\/p>\n

There are no sweet words, only silence. You used to make an effort to show affection in the past and it was ignored. That\u2019s the reason you stopped trying.<\/p>\n

4. You know how to push each other’s buttons<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

To continue with bad communication skills, pushing each other’s buttons is one more major issue.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t tolerate anything anymore and every little thing annoys you. Your talking turned into bickering, arguing and sarcastic remarks.<\/p>\n

If you really think long and hard, you won\u2019t be able to recall the last time you had a decent conversation.<\/p>\n

5. Interroga-se se o amor deve ser realmente um sacrif\u00edcio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Making compromises is an integral part of any relationship. But making them doesn\u2019t mean changing your essence to please somebody else.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean bending over backward and sacrificing your happiness to make somebody else happy and content.<\/p>\n

Making compromises means meeting each other halfway. It means bending a little every now and then to make the person you love happy. It doesn\u2019t involve self-sacrifice.<\/p>\n

6. Est\u00e1 sempre a dizer a toda a gente que o seu parceiro \u00e9 fant\u00e1stico<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

Ao dizer a toda a gente \u00e0 sua volta, incluindo nas redes sociais, que o seu parceiro \u00e9 bom, encantador ou amoroso, est\u00e1 a tentar convencer-se de que tudo isso \u00e9 verdade.<\/p>\n

You want to make yourself believe that things couldn\u2019t be better, when deep down you know that\u2019s far from the truth.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a concentrar-se em p\u00f4r um exterior perfeito, apesar de o interior da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o estar podre.<\/p>\n

7. D\u00e1 por si a pensar nas suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es anteriores<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a pensar em todas as coisas que o seu ex fez bem e tem saudades disso.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a pensar em tudo o que ele fez de errado e repara que o mesmo padr\u00e3o se repete na forma do seu novo parceiro.<\/p>\n

This is not a sign that you need to get back together with your ex. It\u2019s just a big warning sign that something is not right in your current relationship.<\/p>\n

8. Est\u00e1 inconscientemente a perguntar o que mais existe por a\u00ed<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Cheating is the last thing on your mind and you wouldn\u2019t even dream of doing it.<\/p>\n

But every time you hear somebody who is usually your type being on the market again you can\u2019t help but be a tiny bit happy.<\/p>\n

O seu olhar tem o h\u00e1bito de se desviar sempre que algu\u00e9m atraente se cruza no seu caminho.<\/p>\n

D\u00e1 por si a pensar como seria a sua vida se estivesse com outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

9. Pensa nos bons velhos tempos<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Tal como nos dois sinais anteriores, est\u00e1 a fugir \u00e0 realidade e n\u00e3o est\u00e1 a viver no aqui e agora.<\/p>\n

Your mind goes to the beginning of your relationship where everything was good, where you couldn\u2019t wait to see your partner and spend time with him.<\/p>\n

Ter boas recorda\u00e7\u00f5es do passado \u00e9 uma coisa valiosa, mas confiar nelas para passar o dia mais facilmente \u00e9 algo que deve preocupar-nos.<\/p>\n

10. Est\u00e1 a atribuir toda a culpa a si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 constantemente a tentar perceber o que fez de errado. Preocupa-se com o facto de pedir demasiado e de estar a ser duro com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easier to blame yourself and lower your standards than face that your relationship just isn\u2019t functioning and it really doesn\u2019t matter whose fault it is.<\/p>\n

11. Tem pavor de estar sozinho<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Quando pensa na potencial separa\u00e7\u00e3o, tudo o que teme \u00e9 ficar sozinho e n\u00e3o continuar a sua vida sem essa pessoa.<\/p>\n

Is it really worth it to stay in a relationship that is not functioning or with a partner you are not happy with solely because you don\u2019t want to be alone? Of course not. You are just making things worse for the both of you.<\/p>\n

12. O sexo est\u00e1 quase fora de quest\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Your sex life is an integral part of the relationship. It\u2019s what sets apart friendship from a relationship.<\/p>\n

Se algo estiver a faltar nessa \u00e1rea, isso \u00e9 definitivamente um indicador de que as coisas n\u00e3o est\u00e3o bem.<\/p>\n

Sex doesn\u2019t have to be as often as when you first started but it has to exist and it has to exist often.<\/p>\n

Se perdeu a qu\u00edmica e a atra\u00e7\u00e3o que outrora partilhava com o seu parceiro, ser\u00e1 dif\u00edcil recuper\u00e1-la.<\/p>\n

\"Est\u00e1<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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