{"id":21400,"date":"2020-07-30T10:41:39","date_gmt":"2020-07-30T10:41:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21400"},"modified":"2022-02-11T11:00:37","modified_gmt":"2022-02-11T11:00:37","slug":"persegui-lo-foi-a-coisa-mais-estupida-que-ja-fiz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/persegui-lo-foi-a-coisa-mais-estupida-que-ja-fiz\/","title":{"rendered":"Persegui-lo foi a coisa mais est\u00fapida que j\u00e1 fiz"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I come to think of my life up to now, I have to admit that I\u2019ve done many foolish things. I\u2019ve made numerous wrong choices and made some terrible decisions.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Truth be told, I\u2019ve made most of these decisions and choices because I followed my heart. And I can\u2019t say I regret every one of them, even though some of them turned out to be wrong for me.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Mas h\u00e1 uma coisa que me arrependo de ter feito na minha vida e que est\u00e1 relacionada com o homem que mais amei.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I don\u2019t regret loving this man, although I probably should. But I\u2019ve always known that you can\u2019t control who you love, even when that person doesn\u2019t deserve you.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t regret loving him even though he never loved me back; at least, not the way he should have. Because the same way I couldn\u2019t force myself to stop loving him, he also couldn\u2019t force himself to fall in love with me.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t regret giving him my heart even though <\/span>ele magoou-me<\/span><\/a>. That was something I wanted to do at the time and in a way, loving him was the most beautiful thing I\u2019ve experienced, despite all the pain it has put me through.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

The only thing I regret doing is chasing a man who obviously didn\u2019t want to be mine. Chasing a man who didn\u2019t deserve me and losing all my pride and dignity because of him.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Arrependo-me de ter diminu\u00eddo o meu valor para perseguir este tipo. <\/b><\/p>\r\n

It\u2019s not that this man didn\u2019t want to have anything to do with me. No, he wanted to have me but on his own terms.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Agora sei que todo este tempo que estivemos juntos, est\u00e1vamos numa esp\u00e9cie de quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

De facto, <\/span>Eu estava numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com ele enquanto ele vivia a vida de solteiro.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Eu estava comprometida com ele, apesar de ele nunca me ter pedido especificamente para o fazer, enquanto ele nunca estava pronto para fazer o mesmo.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Eu estava sempre a coloc\u00e1-lo em primeiro lugar, enquanto ele nunca pensou em colocar-me no topo da sua lista de prioridades e sempre me tratou como uma das suas op\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Amei-o mais do que a mim pr\u00f3pria, enquanto a \u00fanica pessoa que ele amou foi a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

And the worst part is that I knew this all along, although I didn\u2019t want to accept it. The worst part was that I consciously went after this man, although deep down I knew he could never give me what I deserved.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Mas apesar de tudo,<\/span> S\u00f3 queria que este homem fosse meu e esse era o meu \u00fanico objetivo na vida.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Estava disposta a fazer literalmente qualquer coisa s\u00f3 para que ele se comprometesse comigo.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

Durante anos, eu <\/span>implorou pelo seu amor<\/span><\/a> e aten\u00e7\u00e3o. Implorei-lhe que ficasse comigo, a qualquer pre\u00e7o.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Mas nenhuma das coisas que fiz resultou. Todos os meus esfor\u00e7os foram em v\u00e3o e ele continuava a rejeitar-me.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

And I couldn\u2019t understand why he was doing so.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Era eu o problema? N\u00e3o era suficientemente boa para ele? O que \u00e9 que eu estava a fazer mal? E o que \u00e9 que eu podia ter feito de diferente?<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Estaria ele emocionalmente danificado? Teria medo de se entregar completamente a mim?<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Mas depois apercebi-me.<\/span> This man didn\u2019t want to be mine for one simple reason: he couldn\u2019t love me enough. And there was nothing I could do to change that fact.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

E eu perdoo-lhe por isso.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

At\u00e9 o perdoo por me ter enganado e por n\u00e3o se ter afastado de mim de vez, quando sabia que essa era a \u00fanica forma de acabar com o meu sofrimento. Afinal de contas, fui eu que permiti que ele me tratasse daquela maneira. Fui eu que continuei a traz\u00ea-lo de volta \u00e0 minha vida, mesmo quando ele me estava a deixar.<\/p>\r\n

But I can\u2019t forgive myself for one thing.<\/b>Por muito que me apete\u00e7a, <\/span>I can\u2019t forgive myself for chasing someone who didn\u2019t want to be mine. I can\u2019t forgive myself for going through that much humiliation and for not accepting the fact that he wasn\u2019t worthy of all the love and attention I was giving him.<\/b> <\/p>\r\n\r\n

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When I come to think of my life up to now, I have to admit that I\u2019ve done many foolish things. I\u2019ve made numerous wrong choices and made some terrible decisions. Truth be told, I\u2019ve made most of these decisions and choices because I followed my heart. And I can\u2019t say I regret every one…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":21401,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21400","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/07\/allef-vinicius-156194-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21400","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21400"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21400\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21401"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21400"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21400"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21400"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}