{"id":21422,"date":"2018-08-01T07:18:42","date_gmt":"2018-08-01T07:18:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21422"},"modified":"2021-08-12T06:58:21","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T06:58:21","slug":"porque-e-que-nunca-sou-suficiente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-nunca-sou-suficiente\/","title":{"rendered":"Porque \u00e9 que nunca sou suficiente?!"},"content":{"rendered":"

She always sits there, in silence, wrapped up in her thoughts. Thoughts of sadness\u2026 That sadness turns into anger, that anger turns into tears, at\u00e9 adormecer de cansa\u00e7o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She knows how it goes, it always ends up the same way, she no longer needs to predict it, it\u2019s already in front of her, laughing in her face, that sinking feeling in her stomach that\u2019s all too familiar, a familiarity that haunts her, time and time again. That feeling of complete rejection, uncertainty and a loss of self-worth.<\/p>\n

Ela pergunta-se a si pr\u00f3pria, \u201cWhy am I never good enough?!\u201d<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

She\u2019s a positive woman, she loves to laugh, she\u2019s caring, loving, playful. She\u2019s thoughtful, fun and passionate. She knows her-self worth\u2026 But why can\u2019t they see it? Why does she get left hurt, in pain and alone?<\/strong><\/p>\n

She has tried playing many different roles to fit the mold of someone else; she\u2019s been the feisty, independent woman who so many men seek, she\u2019s played it cool, she\u2019s played it not so cool; she ends up being every single character that she is not.<\/p>\n

Seja sempre voc\u00ea mesmo<\/strong>\u2026 But what happens when she does? Nothing\u2026 It all plays out the same way.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s only so many times you can put to the back of your mind that \u2018it\u2019s not you\u2019 but what if it is? What if there is something wrong with her, something that others don\u2019t really want to connect with? Is she not attractive enough? Does she not hold herself correctly? Do men only see \u2018sex\u2019 when they look at her and back off when they realize there is more to her than body parts? Why can\u2019t she keep anyone locked in?<\/p>\n

She is told, \u201cThere\u2019s nothing wrong with you, there\u2019s something wrong with them!\u201d What is it with every guy she meets? Maybe it\u2019s true, maybe she is attracting the wrong guys but how would she even know anymore? Reality and fantasy blur into one until she\u2019s blindsided.<\/p>\n

She takes a long look at herself in the mirror to try and analyze what she\u2019s doing wrong. Why she is never good enough for someone. Why every time she tries to get close to someone she ends up in the same gut-wrenching situation as the many times before.<\/p>\n

Ela est\u00e1 t\u00e3o habituada a esta sensa\u00e7\u00e3o que se tornou insens\u00edvel; she has become so accustomed to being disappointed that she doesn\u2019t even expect it anymore, she just knows.<\/strong> Ela est\u00e1 desanimada.<\/p>\n

Now, she tries to run from anyone who comes within a mile of her because she is afraid of being rejected all over again; she doesn\u2019t want to sit in her room alone, crying because she\u2019s never enough. She doesn\u2019t want to sit looking at her phone, waiting for the inevitable to happen\u2026 She knows the drill\u2026 The call or text that never comes\u2026 Or the message to tell her what she\u2019s been feeling all along. A mensagem prepotente de que ela nunca ser\u00e1 suficientemente boa para ningu\u00e9m.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is a puzzle that she will never understand or conquer, this is something that is now built into her\u2014sad but true.<\/p>\n

How is she to trust? How is she to know when someone is being genuine with her? How is she to know that she is good enough for someone if all she\u2019s ever seen, known and feared is the worst?<\/strong><\/p>\n

She gets told that they will call\u2026 The call never happens, the excuses come tenfold, the dates get canceled, the second, third and fourth chances are given and abused, the texts get fewer until communication stops altogether. The promises are never kept but buried deep in the ocean somewhere. How is she meant to work with that? How is she meant to feel after this? How is she meant to believe that she is enough?! She\u2019s not to them.<\/p>\n

She is drowning, she is confused, she is always the one to walk away because she panics when she senses what she feels is the inevitable\u2014por isso vai-se embora<\/a> antes que ela se v\u00e1 embora.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When she does walk away, they come running after her\u2026 It\u2019s like they keep her on elastic. They suddenly want to know this intriguing woman after she\u2019s turned her back on what\u2019s hurting her. She is so desperate to see the good in people, she gives them more chances than they deserve. Then they let her down all over again. And you see\u2026 This isn\u2019t a one-off occurrence; this, unfortunately, is her life now.<\/p>\n

Every day she repeatedly asks why she isn\u2019t good enough and every time she asks herself that, a piece of her cracks, until one day, she will be completely broken.<\/p>\n

What each of these \u2018men\u2019 doesn\u2019t realize is that the girl they have hurt so much, no matter how small it builds inside of her, there is no going back once she has lost trust, hope and respect for them. Once she has lost that, a little bit of her light dims until she picks herself back up again. This is a pattern she knows like the back of her hand.<\/p>\n

Cada peda\u00e7o da sua autoestima que lhe arrancaram s\u00f3 faz com que seja mais dif\u00edcil para o homem certo derrubar as suas paredes. Ela n\u00e3o \u00e9 fr\u00e1gil, mas sim forte, mas mesmo as mulheres fortes podem acabar por se tornar inst\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

Para ela, haver\u00e1 sempre algu\u00e9m melhor do que ela, porque nunca lhe foi mostrado o contr\u00e1rio. Ela sabe o que pode oferecer<\/strong>\u2014and it is misused until there\u2019s nothing left.<\/p>\n

Para ela, este tratamento \u00e9 o que deve esperar de todos os homens que deixa entrar na sua vida, certo?<\/p>\n

She hasn\u2019t lost herself, she has lost faith in finding a good man, a man who feels her, understands her, wants her. A man who truly will love her, protect her and be there for her. How long can she wait for the man who tells her, \u201cYou are enough\u201d?!<\/strong><\/p>\n

She wants to be somebody\u2019s, she doesn\u2019t want to be a lone wolf anymore. She wants to belong to and grow with someone. She\u2019s not asking for the world but just a piece of it.<\/p>\n

She wants someone to dry her tears, not create them. She is not a toy, she is not an emotional punch bag. She\u2019s a good girl, with a good heart. She deserves to be loved.<\/p>\n

She who reads this, who has experienced the same as the girl writing this, will know this feeling all too well, just like she does. It\u2019s overwhelming, exhausting, challenging and, most of all, disheartening.<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m deve sentir-se sozinho, sentir-se como uma op\u00e7\u00e3o, sentir-se indesejado ou questionar quem \u00e9.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe people like me are destined to be alone, maybe there will never come a day when I will be swept off my feet like the others. Maybe, just maybe, I have to be enough for me. I am fine with that\u2014just don\u2019t mess me up along the way.<\/p>\n

I am \u2018she\u2019<\/strong> and they are \u2018them\u2019; maybe one day my faith will be restored but until that day, o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 guardado a sete chaves, porque \u00e9 na solid\u00e3o que estou mais seguro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

De
\nO indesejado<\/p>\n

by\u00a0Leya Hutton<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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