{"id":21905,"date":"2018-08-16T07:56:22","date_gmt":"2018-08-16T07:56:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21905"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:42:22","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:42:22","slug":"olha-para-o-exterior-ou-para-o-interior","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/olha-para-o-exterior-ou-para-o-interior\/","title":{"rendered":"Olha para o exterior ou para o interior?"},"content":{"rendered":"

What draws you to another person can say a lot about your own morals and values. In order to garner a better sense of self and understand what makes us tick, we can take a closer look at the connections we\u2019ve made and dissect why we\u2019ve made them. Why do we enjoy the company of some more than others? We can also take a look at what attracts us to another person when we first meet them. Do we look primarily at the interior\u2014are we drawn to their mind, their heart, their life perspective\u2014or the exterior? Would we rather associate with someone who is fisicamente atraente<\/a>, rico ou conhecido?<\/p>\n

Da pr\u00f3xima vez que estiver envolvido numa conversa significativa com algu\u00e9m de quem gosta, ou que talvez esteja a conhecer pela primeira vez, pense no que gosta nessa pessoa. O que \u00e9 que torna esta liga\u00e7\u00e3o significativa?<\/strong><\/p>\n

This may be particularly important to ponder during that initial conversation. This could be a potential partnership or friendship, a new colleague or cohort. When engaging in first-time conversations we often make judgments more quickly than we like to admit. We like the way this person dresses or we don\u2019t. We like the way they talk, or we don\u2019t. We like their sense of style, how they interact with others or the environment around them, etc.<\/p>\n

After you\u2019ve returned to a quiet space later in the day, note mentally what you noticed and why. Maybe you actually had no idea what this new acquaintance was wearing or how they talked. Maybe you felt a positive intangible vibe between the two of you or something seemed odd and you just can\u2019t put your finger on it. Did you find their words genuine or did their body language seem insincere?<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que isto \u00e9 importante? A forma como julgamos os outros, especialmente quando os julgamentos s\u00e3o mais objectivos do que subjectivos, diz muito sobre quem tentamos ser.<\/strong> It\u2019s more difficult to examine how we feel about a family member or friend we\u2019ve known our whole life than it is someone brand new. So, figuring out what passed through our mind during an early initial meeting or two will offer insight into how our subconscious is operating and why we present the way we do.<\/p>\n

Nota sobretudo tra\u00e7os f\u00edsicos, mentais, emocionais ou comportamentais? Gostaria que essa pessoa notasse as mesmas caracter\u00edsticas em si? Passa mais tempo a ouvir ativamente os outros ou a dar a sua opini\u00e3o? Gosta de dedicar mais tempo \u00e0 sua pr\u00f3pria apar\u00eancia quando conhece algu\u00e9m novo? Porqu\u00ea ou porque n\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve ever been in an abusive attachment, you probably understand how important it is to look beyond the physical and take note of the person\u2019s heart. Some, unfortunately, learn this the hard way. But once you make the mistake of trusting someone who didn\u2019t deserve it, you are forever more careful to consider what\u2019s hidden beneath the surface.<\/p>\n

As inten\u00e7\u00f5es do outro parecem genu\u00ednas? T\u00eam profundidade? Est\u00e1 realmente interessado em conhec\u00ea-lo, ou est\u00e1 mais interessado em t\u00ea-lo? Para evitar reentrar numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o prejudicial, temos de nos assegurar que n\u00e3o somos apanhados pela superficialidade.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pense tamb\u00e9m se est\u00e1 a ser genu\u00edno com essa pessoa ou a tentar projetar uma falsa imagem de si pr\u00f3prio. Est\u00e1 interessado no que ela tem para dizer ou est\u00e1 a tentar fazer com que ela o conhe\u00e7a melhor? Para evitar voltar a entrar numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica, tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 importante perceber qual \u00e9 a nossa posi\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Of course, someone can legitimately have it all\u2014the looks, the personality, and a good heart. Just make sure you understand the difference between having everything and pretending to have everything. And always remember to stick to your morals and what\u2019s important to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No one is perfect. It\u2019s important to see through a false projection of perfection, and to not hold someone to unachievable standards at the same time. After all, we would want others to aceitar as nossas pr\u00f3prias imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a> without having to pretend they don\u2019t exist. The most meaningful connections are those that are the most real from the very start.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

What draws you to another person can say a lot about your own morals and values. In order to garner a better sense of self and understand what makes us tick, we can take a closer look at the connections we\u2019ve made and dissect why we\u2019ve made them. Why do we enjoy the company of…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":21906,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-21905","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/reinaldo.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21905","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=21905"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/21905\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/21906"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=21905"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=21905"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=21905"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}