{"id":21908,"date":"2018-08-16T09:10:32","date_gmt":"2018-08-16T09:10:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=21908"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:41:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:41:48","slug":"perdoei-te-pelo-passado-mas-isso-nao-e-um-convite-para-o-futuro","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/perdoei-te-pelo-passado-mas-isso-nao-e-um-convite-para-o-futuro\/","title":{"rendered":"Eu perdoei-te pelo passado, mas isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 um convite para o futuro"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Caro Ex,<\/p>\n<p>Antes de mais, quero dizer que nunca foi f\u00e1cil afastar-me de ti, mas sabia que era o que precisava para voltar a ser a pessoa que era. Sabia que a dor iria doer durante um bom per\u00edodo de tempo. E doeu. A dor parecia um milh\u00e3o de facas a apunhalar o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o vezes sem conta. <strong>Creio que a minha dor era t\u00e3o forte porque partilh\u00e1vamos uma <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/8-signs-experiencing-emotional-attraction\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">liga\u00e7\u00e3o magn\u00e9tica especial<\/a>.<\/strong> Esta liga\u00e7\u00e3o magn\u00e9tica continuava a puxar-nos de novo, depois de uma tentativa falhada de resolver as coisas. <strong>Esta liga\u00e7\u00e3o magn\u00e9tica que partilh\u00e1vamos era t\u00e3o espantosa, mas t\u00e3o t\u00f3xica.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Continuei a esperar por ti, que mudasses os teus padr\u00f5es distorcidos e destrutivos e voltasses a ser o homem que eu precisava que fosses.<strong> Esperava que o universo nos voltasse a juntar e me desse mais do que esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o morna que me tinhas dado.<\/strong> Esperava no meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o que percebesses que eu era o protagonista e a personagem mais importante da tua vida.<\/p>\n<p>Yet you hurt me so badly by choosing to select me as your \u2018on again, off again\u2019 ex. You chose to keep me on your back burner. You left me the assumption you were truly trying to work on your flaws and wanted to work things out for the better of us&#8230;all the while behind my back, you decided to see someone new\u2014see someone new to see if you could get away with those same tactics and behaviors you could not so easily get away with with me. Tactics such as opening up Tinder while on a business trip because you went away. I have to admit that I\u2019m surprised she has put up with this behavior for so long\u2026but that is beside the point.<\/p>\n<p>Houve muitas vezes em que eu quis ir ter com ela e destruir a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o como tu me tinhas destru\u00eddo a mim. No entanto, sabia que isso s\u00f3 me daria uma satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o vazia \u00e0 minha pergunta sem resposta sobre a raz\u00e3o pela qual me tinhas deixado.<\/p>\n<p>Depois de muita dor de cabe\u00e7a e de v\u00e1rios deslizes para a esquerda e para a direita, finalmente percebi<strong> o meu amor por mim pr\u00f3prio era muito mais importante do que qualquer realidade distorcida que pudessem ter pensado de mim.<\/strong> I want you to know, I no longer want to know what\u2019s on your mind when I see you pass me by and look into my eyes, because honestly, you didn\u2019t deserve even a glance into what my future has in store for me.<\/p>\n<p>Quero que compreendas que te perdoo pelo passado. Por isso, n\u00e3o precisas de me ligar e pedir desculpa quando as coisas correrem mal, porque eu sei que v\u00e3o correr. Sei que quando o teu mundo desabar e quando j\u00e1 n\u00e3o conseguires encontrar algu\u00e9m que me substitua \u00e0 noite, pe\u00e7o-te que n\u00e3o voltes para mim. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/dont-bother-coming-back-once-you-walk-away\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Please don\u2019t come back<\/a> quando ela n\u00e3o puder mais tomar o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e distrair a tua mente de mim. O meu cap\u00edtulo contigo est\u00e1 agora encerrado.<\/p>\n<p>Again, I know things with this new girl will not work out, and when they don\u2019t, I will feel sorry for you because it\u2019s too late.<strong> I will not want to be hit up with an empty gesture of asking me how I\u2019m doing,<\/strong> followed by why we didn\u2019t remain friends. I will not want to hear all those words I so pathetically waited for over a year to hear: \u201c I\u2019m sorry I made a mistake\u201d I know I won\u2019t want to hear this because this will be your way and a so-called tactic to get back into my heart. You will still be the same man with broken promises, and the same man who can only love himself so much more than any other human being. So please, Ex, please don\u2019t ask me to remember the times you made me smile because there were plenty of times you made me cry.<\/p>\n<p>Please don\u2019t ask me to remember that trip to Europe, because now I hate it.<\/p>\n<p>I waited too long thinking you\u2019d come back to me. I missed opportunities because I still held some amount of faith in the universe. However now I realize the universe did me justice in helping me acknowledge that you are an example of what not to look for next time. <strong>O que agora compreendo \u00e9 que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o faz parte da minha imagem da vida e o que o universo me est\u00e1 a dizer \u00e9 que devo permitir que algu\u00e9m com uma energia diferente e mais positiva flua para a minha vida.<\/strong> Est\u00e1 no quadro das m\u00e1goas e das falsas promessas.<\/p>\n<p>So dear Ex, I love you, but I\u2019m also over you. I\u2019m no longer holding on to you. I hope you understand, but we are over. I hope you understand that you are in my past for a reason, and I do not see you anywhere in my future. So please when you realize you made the biggest mistake of your life, because you did, I ask you to keep those thoughts to yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Com os melhores cumprimentos,<\/p>\n<p>Da companheira que fez de ti um homem melhor com a sua insol\u00eancia e classe.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear Ex, First of all, I want to say , it was never easy to finally walk away from you, but I knew this was what was needed in order to restore myself to the person I once was. I knew that the pain was going to hurt for a good amount of time. 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