{"id":22181,"date":"2020-08-23T12:16:23","date_gmt":"2020-08-23T12:16:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22181"},"modified":"2022-01-25T09:08:42","modified_gmt":"2022-01-25T09:08:42","slug":"depois-de-me-ter-quebrado-tambem-me-tornou-indisponivel-para-os-outros","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/depois-de-me-ter-quebrado-tambem-me-tornou-indisponivel-para-os-outros\/","title":{"rendered":"Depois de me ter quebrado, tamb\u00e9m me tornou indispon\u00edvel para os outros"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m sure you’ve heard stories about girls who change emotionally after they get hurt. About girls who become guarded and more careful.<\/p>\n

Sobre raparigas que deixam de acreditar no amor e que se tornam medo de amar<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard stories about girls who become heartless after they have their heart broken.<\/p>\n

Que constroem muros \u00e0 sua volta e que se protegem depois de algu\u00e9m que amavam os ter destru\u00eddo completamente.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard stories about raparigas que se tornam indispon\u00edveis<\/a> para os outros, depois de certos tipos os partirem em peda\u00e7os.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bem, se j\u00e1 o fez, sabe tudo sobre mim porque sou uma dessas raparigas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Eu sou uma das raparigas que amou o homem errado<\/a> com todo o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Uma rapariga que lhe deu tudo o que tinha e uma rapariga que achava que ele a merecia.<\/p>\n

I was a girl who put the effort into a relationship which had no future and a girl who was ready to sacrifice herself for this man\u2019s sake.<\/p>\n

Mas tamb\u00e9m fui uma rapariga que se magoou. Uma rapariga que foi tomada como garantida e cujas vulnerabilidades e amor foram usados contra ela.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And after I finally ended things with this man, I changed drastically. I stopped believing in people and I thought everyone\u2019s only intention was to hurt me and to partir-me o cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

I started thinking that all men were the same and I wasn\u2019t even ready to give some guy a chance because I thought I would just end up heartbroken, like I was in the past.<\/p>\n

Por isso, estava pronto a fazer tudo o que fosse preciso para impedir que isso acontecesse. Levantei a guarda e constru\u00ed grossas paredes emocionais \u00e0 volta do meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, que eram suficientemente fortes para manter todos os intrusos fora.<\/p>\n

And yes, I\u2019ve become an mulher emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel<\/a>. Or some might say that I\u2019ve become emotionally damaged as well.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sim, este modo de vida privou-me provavelmente de muito amor.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve probably missed out on meeting some extraordinary people and it is possible that I\u2019ve failed to let in some amazing guys who deserved to have a chance.<\/p>\n

E podem dizer que isto n\u00e3o tem nada de bom.<\/p>\n

But the truth is that although I\u2019ve become unavailable for others to love me, I\u2019ve also guarded myself from every possible emotional pain.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve also become unavailable for anyone else to hurt me. I\u2019ve prevented my heart from getting broken again.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from any potential tears and disappointments. I\u2019ve saved myself from wasting my time and energy on someone who isn\u2019t worthy of me lifting a finger.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from getting my hopes up and planning a future with someone who has been manipulating me all along. From falling in love with someone who just wants to get into my pants.<\/p>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from being emotionally or abusado fisicamente<\/a>de ser enganado e de ser humilhado.<\/p>\n

De ser culpada por cada pequena coisa que corre mal e de algu\u00e9m me dizer que n\u00e3o sou digna do seu amor ou aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from being taken advantage of, from being led on and from being taken for granted.<\/p>\n

De me perguntar porque \u00e9 que um homem que eu amo tanto nunca me pode amar o suficiente e porque \u00e9 que ele nunca pode ser s\u00f3 meu.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from hours and hours of staring at a blank phone screen, waiting for him to call me or to answer my text.<\/p>\n

From falling asleep all dressed up, waiting for him to pick me up. I\u2019ve saved myself numerous sleepless nights and from an ocean of tears.<\/p>\n

De implorar a um homem que me escolha e que me ame. De implorar para que ele se comprometa comigo.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve saved myself from questioning my worth and wondering why I was never enough. From asking myself if there was something more I could have done to make the man I love love me more.<\/p>\n

And I don\u2019t know if that was the best thing I could have done. I don\u2019t know if I could have chosen another way to deal with my abandonment trauma and with my heartbreak.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mas o que eu sei \u00e9 que era a \u00fanica coisa que eu sabia fazer. E que, na altura, eu via este caminho como a \u00fanica forma de me curar e de me ajudar.<\/strong> <\/p>\n

\"Depois<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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