{"id":22278,"date":"2020-09-27T11:35:05","date_gmt":"2020-09-27T11:35:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22278"},"modified":"2022-02-10T02:24:58","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T02:24:58","slug":"a-importancia-de-se-escolher-a-si-proprio-em-vez-da-sua-relacao-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-importancia-de-se-escolher-a-si-proprio-em-vez-da-sua-relacao-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"A import\u00e2ncia de se escolher a si pr\u00f3prio em vez de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tu. Sim, tu.<\/span><\/p>\n

Com a tua alma cansada e o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o marcado. Com os teus peda\u00e7os quebrados e o pensamento na tua cabe\u00e7a de que deveria ser assim.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you. It’s time for you to finally <\/span>escolha voc\u00ea mesmo<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Deve ser dif\u00edcil para ti acreditar que existe vida depois dele. Depois daquelas discuss\u00f5es est\u00fapidas e violentas e depois de todas as vezes que ele te puxou de volta para o mundo dele, sem que te apercebesses.<\/b><\/p>\n

You have tried too many times to leave but I guess after those countless times, you have decided that it’s easier to stay than to deal with his anger.<\/span><\/p>\n

It didn’t take you long to realize that he only had two expressions on his face when he talked to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Either he wasn’t even looking at you while talking, making you feel invisible and unimportant. Or it was that bloodthirsty anger while he was trying to show you that you were nothing more than a pawn in his little game.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am truly sorry that you had to go through this. I am so sorry that you couldn’t choose yourself for far too long now.<\/b><\/p>\n

Mas n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada mais importante neste momento do que levar a sua bondade, o seu amor e a sua vida para o mais longe poss\u00edvel dele.<\/span><\/p>\n

You know that he is not the one you should have fallen for. But whenever he tells you that he is the one who ‘saved you’, the one who is making you ‘a woman’, you back down.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Achas mesmo que \u00e9 ele que est\u00e1 a salvar? Ele deseja-te mais e precisa de ti mais do que tu alguma vez precisar\u00e1s dele.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ele precisa de saber que pode ter-te sempre, porque a ideia de te ires embora deixa-o louco.<\/b><\/p>\n

No momento em que puseres um p\u00e9 do outro lado da porta, no momento em que decidires nunca mais olhar para tr\u00e1s, a tua vida vai mudar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas nunca mais voltar\u00e1s a ser o mesmo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Depois de algum tempo de isolamento, de trabalho sobre si pr\u00f3prio e sobre os seus traumas, continuar\u00e1 a ter medo de discuss\u00f5es, medo de vozes altas e da forma como algu\u00e9m olhar\u00e1 para si.<\/b><\/p>\n

You will find yourself wondering if things will ever be the same as before and let me tell you that they won’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

But that’s fine.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quanto mais cedo se for embora, melhor ser\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

Escolher-se a si pr\u00f3prio em vez da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva \u00e9 enfrentar o que aconteceu e dizer que est\u00e1 tudo bem.<\/span><\/p>\n

You couldn’t have done anything different at that time and asking yourself ‘what if’ won’t do you any good.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s OK because you will never again find yourself in that same situation and there will never be anyone else telling you that you are unworthy.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

S\u00e3o muito poucos os que passam pelas mesmas coisas que tu e nunca acabam por se escolher a si pr\u00f3prios.<\/span><\/p>\n

But you have always had the strength to get through the toughest times as a winner, so this is the right time to stand up and tell yourself that you are more in love with who you will become than with a man who doesn’t know how to love you.<\/b><\/p>\n

Choose yourself. Choose yourself because you deserve to be someone’s priority, finally.<\/span><\/p>\n

Choose yourself because it’s finally time to respect yourself enough and to start from the very beginning.<\/span><\/p>\n

Neste momento, pode parecer-lhe estranho, porque uma vida sem ele \u00e9 algo a que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 habituada. Mas quando <\/span>o rescaldo j\u00e1 passou<\/span><\/a>Quando come\u00e7ares a florescer de novo, ver\u00e1s que tudo o que passaste valeu a pena.<\/span><\/p>\n

No momento em que decidires escolher-te a ti pr\u00f3prio <\/span>sobre o seu abuso<\/span><\/a> \u00e9 quando se aperceber\u00e1 de que n\u00e3o havia nada que o impedisse de o fazer muito mais cedo.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what is important for you right now is to love yourself and keep on choosing yourself for the rest of your life because that is the proper way to live, without anyone ever having the nerve to treat you like you’re something less.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"a<\/p>\n

Espero que consigas ver a tua pr\u00f3pria vida sob outra luz, que te vejas como realmente \u00e9s e n\u00e3o como ele te fez ver.<\/b><\/p>\n

Espero que uma manh\u00e3 acordes e te apercebas que escolheres-te a ti pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 <\/span>um ato de amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a>mais poderoso do que qualquer outra coisa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Espero tamb\u00e9m, mais do que qualquer outra coisa, que nunca mais voltar para o homem<\/a> que te fez isto. Ao homem que nunca te fez sentir que eras suficiente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Espero que, quando chegar o dia certo, quando tiver passado algum tempo e se sentir novamente segura, algu\u00e9m lhe toque com todo o carinho do mundo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Espero que esse novo homem que deixaste entrar na tua vida nunca te fa\u00e7a sentir como te sentiste durante todo este tempo. Porque esse homem vai amar-te e ser gentil e carinhoso.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ele ser\u00e1 tudo o que sempre desejou num homem.<<\/span><\/p>\n

But you can’t get that if you don’t choose yourself.<\/b><\/p>\n

Hoje e todos os dias que se seguirem.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"A<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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