{"id":22358,"date":"2020-08-29T06:28:28","date_gmt":"2020-08-29T06:28:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=22358"},"modified":"2022-06-29T15:13:01","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T15:13:01","slug":"6-sinais-dolorosos-de-que-esta-a-ser-vitima-de-abuso-silencioso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-sinais-dolorosos-de-que-esta-a-ser-vitima-de-abuso-silencioso\/","title":{"rendered":"6 sinais dolorosos de que est\u00e1 a ser v\u00edtima de abuso silencioso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Abuso silencioso<\/a> is something that people don\u2019t know so much about. When you mention abuse, you immediately get the image of a man threatening a woman while she is screaming and running away from him.<\/p>\n

That is not all. In fact, that is just the tip of the iceberg. Another kind of abuse, which in my opinion is much worse, is the silent one. And even if he doesn\u2019t use his fists, it is still abuse.<\/p>\n

With this kind of abuse, you are getting broken, but others can\u2019t see how. They can only see you becoming a shell of the woman you once were. But no matter how much they try, they can\u2019t figure out how you were being abused.<\/p>\n

Because there are no scars on your body. They can\u2019t see any. But there are surely some deep scars on your soul which only you know about. There is that constant feeling of fear of acting differently than your abuser wants. Because if you do that, you will be punished.<\/p>\n

And he won\u2019t feel any remorse for doing that. And if you want to know more about this sad topic, here are some of the most common signs of silent abuse.<\/p>\n

1. Ele d\u00e1-te o tratamento do sil\u00eancio<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Haver\u00e1 algo pior do que receber o tratamento de sil\u00eancio da pessoa est\u00e1 loucamente apaixonado por<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Even if this doesn\u2019t include yelling or chamar pelo nome<\/a>, it still hurts. Maybe it hurts even more than any slap to the face or a broken bone. Silent treatment means that the other side doesn\u2019t want to talk to you. It means that they are not interested in what you have to say.
\nYou can sit next to them the whole day, but they won\u2019t even look at you nor talk to you.<\/p>\n

Tentar\u00e3o punir-te desta forma porque sabem o quanto gostas de falar com eles. E ao n\u00e3o se entregarem a ti, pensam que te est\u00e3o a mostrar o que significa realmente sofrer. Est\u00e3o a tentar mudar-te, para te poderem controlar facilmente.<\/p>\n

If you notice this kind of abuse, immediately do something about it. The best thing would be to stay away from your abuser, so he doesn\u2019t have any effect on you.<\/p>\n

2. He will be all moody blaming you for things you didn\u2019t do<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Se estiver numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um homem que muda de humor mais vezes do que come, pode ter a certeza de que est\u00e1 a lidar com um abusador.<\/p>\n

If he behaves in an ugly way to you, asking you to say you are sorry for something you didn\u2019t do, it is a sign he is silently abusing you. He is brainwashing you, trying to convince you that you did something that hurt him.<\/p>\n

And because he feels so badly about it, he wants you to act all sweet and nice toward him, so he would feel better. A man like this is someone you will never be able to please, so you better leave him while you still can. Don\u2019t let him capture you in his web of lies.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him control you. You are capable of thinking with your own head. You surely don\u2019t need someone who will do that instead of you.<\/p>\n

3. Ele magoa-te e depois chama-te sens\u00edvel demais<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

You know that he is hurting you deliberately. He wants you to feel like shit, and he will do anything to prove he is right. And when you say that it is enough and that you won\u2019t stand that kind of treatment anymore, he calls you a crybaby.<\/p>\n

Dir-lhe-\u00e1 que \u00e9 demasiado sens\u00edvel e que nunca conseguir\u00e1 compreender o que ele lhe est\u00e1 a dizer. Vai tentar armar-se em bonzinho, mas vai p\u00f4r as culpas todas em si.<\/p>\n

In a situation like this, the best thing you can do is to pack your things and leave him. He will be shocked when you do that because he thought that you are not strong enough to leave him. But he didn\u2019t give you another option.<\/p>\n

4. Ele faz-te sentir que tu \u00e9 que \u00e9s a louca<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

One of the most common types of emotional abuse is actually gaslighting. Your abuser convinces you that you just imagined everything and that he doesn\u2019t want to hurt you.<\/p>\n

Diz que \u00e9 tudo coisa da sua cabe\u00e7a e que est\u00e1 a ver problemas onde eles n\u00e3o existem. E, no meio de toda esta confus\u00e3o, ele est\u00e1 todo calmo, frio e controlado, usando a sua vozinha para lhe dizer que est\u00e1 errada. Ele comporta-se como se fosses uma crian\u00e7a pequena e como se s\u00f3 quisesse o melhor para ti.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 algo que todos os abusadores silenciosos fazem porque querem convencer as suas v\u00edtimas de que s\u00e3o eles os loucos. Se vir um sinal como este, corra o mais depressa poss\u00edvel porque est\u00e1 a lidar com um homem com um dist\u00farbio de personalidade.<\/p>\n

5. Tem medo de ser voc\u00ea mesmo \u00e0 frente dele<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Every single move, every sentence, every look\u2014it all has to be done so your abuser could be happy.<\/p>\n

If not, he will make your life a living hell. He will make you feel bad about yourself, and when he finishes with his monologue in which he will blame you for all the things you haven\u2019t done, he will feel happy.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o s\u00f3 porque vai fazer o que ele quer, mas porque ele teve a oportunidade de o dizer em voz alta. Os abusadores gostam de se ouvir a si pr\u00f3prios destroying other people\u2019s lives<\/a>. Gostam de ver como cada palavra o afecta e como sofre cada vez mais.<\/p>\n

But they like to see you breaking and crying in front of them the most because then they know they\u2019ve reached their goal. They broke your spirit. You are not the same person anymore. And you won\u2019t be until you leave them and save yourself from them.<\/p>\n

6. Tem medo de o confrontar porque acha que ele lhe pode bater<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

If you feel that you can\u2019t confront your abuser no matter what he says to you because you are afraid he might hit you, it is about time to get out of that relationship.<\/p>\n

You will never be happy with a man like that, and deep down, you know that as well. You don\u2019t deserve to shiver in front of someone. When he lifts your hand, you don\u2019t know if he wants to hug you or hit you. When he kisses you, you don\u2019t feel comfortable, and you do it just because he wants it.<\/p>\n

No woman deserves that kind of treatment. Because that is not love, it is fear. And fear doesn\u2019t belong to a love relationship. You deserve someone who will listen to you, even if he doesn\u2019t agree with what you have to say.<\/p>\n

You deserve someone who doesn\u2019t want to change you but who loves all of you\u2014no matter how time changes you.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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