{"id":2297,"date":"2021-10-09T08:38:34","date_gmt":"2021-10-09T08:38:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2297"},"modified":"2022-08-10T07:11:21","modified_gmt":"2022-08-10T07:11:21","slug":"os-pensadores-excessivos-silenciosos-matam-as-relacoes-parar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/os-pensadores-excessivos-silenciosos-matam-as-relacoes-parar\/","title":{"rendered":"Como parar de pensar demais num relacionamento (9 passos para fazer)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dizem que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada neste mundo que nos possa perturbar tanto como os nossos pr\u00f3prios pensamentos. Well, that’s true just like it’s true that there is nothing that can harm the bond between two partners than the ugly <\/i>h\u00e1bito de pensar demasiado<\/i><\/a> numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/i><\/p>\n

E, a verdadeira confus\u00e3o \u00e9 criada quando as suas inseguran\u00e7as come\u00e7am a vir \u00e0 superf\u00edcie sem a sua pr\u00f3pria vontade.<\/b><\/p>\n

Although it\u2019s your life we\u2019re talking about, sometimes it feels to you like you don\u2019t have control over your thoughts, does it?<\/p>\n

Nobody is going to ask you why you do it… It\u2019s not like you want to overanalyze everything, it\u2019s just the way you are.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o p\u00e1ra de pensar e <\/b>obcecado<\/b> sobre esta \u00fanica coisa, vezes sem conta.<\/b><\/p>\n

And, your thoughts get deeper and deeper until you\u2019ve taken into consideration all the circumstances, events, and possibilities that could occur.<\/i><\/p>\n

In the end, there are so many different case scenarios racing in your head, and you start being afraid of something that didn\u2019t even happen, but you\u2019ve predicted it might happen.<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 uma pessoa que pensa demais numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Let’s just consider overthinking as a <\/i>sa\u00fade mental<\/i> condi\u00e7\u00e3o. Depois, <\/i>uma pessoa que pensa demais<\/i><\/a> \u00e9 uma pessoa que sofre dessa doen\u00e7a.<\/i><\/p>\n

This is a person who can’t stop <\/b>obcecado<\/b> e <\/b>sobre-an\u00e1lise<\/b> even some pretty clear and simple things or the things they absolutely can’t control.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s like they constantly have that fear of being hurt, and it makes them rethink every single decision they make or step they take.<\/p>\n

It’s the person that simply doesn’t want to <\/b>pegar em coisas<\/b> pelo seu valor nominal. <\/b>Their mind is filled with constant ‘what ifs’ and they’re always looking for some answers.<\/p>\n

That’s a person whose <\/i>linguagem corporal<\/i> mostra qu\u00e3o baixo \u00e9, de facto, o seu <\/i>autoestima<\/i> is. They go from relationship to relationship, and can’t easily settle anywhere because of their own insecurities.<\/i><\/p>\n

O pensamento demasiado anal\u00edtico padr\u00e3o<\/a> \u00e9 uma carater\u00edstica da vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansiosa estilo<\/a>. Isso deve-se normalmente a fardos de rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas que um parceiro traz consigo para a rela\u00e7\u00e3o atual.<\/p>\n

Pensar demais \u00e9 normal numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Well, I would say that it’s actually a very common part of <\/i>rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas<\/i>. No entanto, <\/i>sobre-an\u00e1lise<\/i> n\u00e3o \u00e9 e nunca poder\u00e1 ser um <\/i>qualidade de um <\/i>rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

If you know you’re prone to overthinking and don’t even try to control it, it’ll be like you’re consciously trying to <\/b>sabotar a sua pr\u00f3pria rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s also a sinal de que tem problemas de confian\u00e7a<\/a>, meaning you don’t completely trust your romantic partner. Just try to think how your partner feels when they know you’re overanalyzing every single thing and decision in your relationship.<\/p>\n

It surely makes them feel awful. It surely arouses many doubts about your relationship with them. And, it’ll sooner or later make them think that you don’t love them as much as they love you.<\/p>\n

Repensar<\/b> e pensar demais numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 certamente uma forma muito \u00f3bvia de <\/b>bandeira vermelha<\/b> que algo est\u00e1 errado.<\/b><\/p>\n

Whether it is a lack of trust, love, or respect is irrelevant. The important thing is that it’s obvious that your relationship is definitely lacking something.<\/i><\/p>\n

Truth be told, the hidden meaning behind overthinking is ‘I’m doubting our love and I don’t know if I can trust you completely’. <\/i>Don’t be surprised if this starts to bother your partner.<\/p>\n

Assim, para evitar que o excesso de an\u00e1lise afecte a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, existem alguns fronteiras que devem ser nomeadas o mais rapidamente poss\u00edvel<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso encontrar uma forma de p\u00f4r cobro a essas pr\u00e1ticas t\u00f3xicas e irracionais <\/a><\/b>padr\u00f5es de pensamento<\/b><\/a> e esfor\u00e7ar-se por estabelecer uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel com os seus <\/b>outra pessoa significativa<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Turn to a relationship expert and try to get that outside perspective. Talk it out with your partner instead of obsessing about things you can’t control by yourself.<\/p>\n

Como parar de pensar demais numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

The truth is, we can’t stop being overthinkers. We hate it, and we’re aware of all the negative consequences it has on our social and <\/i>vida amorosa,<\/i> but we still can’t take an eraser and remove that trait from our personality.<\/i><\/p>\n

However, we definitely can control that bad habit of overthinking and stop it from ruining the relationships we have with other people. And, that’s exactly what I’ll teach you below.<\/p>\n

Take a deep breath and let’s start with the mission of como consertar e salvar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/a> de analisar demasiado as coisas.<\/p>\n

1. Primeiro, acalme a sua mente<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t let yourself enjoy anything that happens in your life. There is this shadow growing slowly and it\u2019s leaning over everything.<\/p>\n

Pode parecer feliz \u00e0 primeira vista, mas os seus pensamentos excessivos est\u00e3o demasiado presentes.<\/b><\/p>\n

It creates this fear that all at once, everything you have or everything you\u2019re living and enjoying might disappear or might even be a lie.<\/i><\/p>\n

It’s a normal thing that you’re panicking because you sentir que o mundo inteiro est\u00e1 a desmoronar-se<\/a> debaixo dos vossos p\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

You can’t stop thinking about the future of your relationship and whether your loved one will be by your side forever or if they’ll leave you sooner or later. The truth is, we all have that same fear of the unknown, and we all catch ourselves thinking about it sometimes.<\/p>\n

No entanto, o facto ineg\u00e1vel \u00e9 que nada \u00e9 constante na vida.<\/b> H\u00e1 coisas que est\u00e3o simplesmente fora do nosso controlo e a \u00fanica coisa que podemos fazer \u00e9 aceit\u00e1-las e aceitar a sua exist\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

Deixar de pensar demasiado<\/i> because that surely won’t help <\/i>\u2013<\/i> pode apenas levantar algumas quest\u00f5es mais profundas<\/i>. \u00c9 necess\u00e1rio recuperar o controlo sobre a sua mente<\/a>. Identificar e vencer os pensamentos indesejados<\/a>.<\/p>\n

2. Confiar em si pr\u00f3prio<\/h3>\n

Pensar demais pode n\u00e3o s\u00f3 causar problemas no seu <\/i>vida amorosa<\/i>mas tamb\u00e9m pode ter um impacto negativo em todos os <\/i>\u00e1reas da sua vida<\/i>.<\/i> E sabes qual \u00e9 a principal raz\u00e3o para esse teu mau h\u00e1bito?<\/p>\n

You don’t trust yourself. You don’t believe in yourself. You aren’t aware nor do you believe in your own capabilities.<\/b><\/p>\n

You can’t stop overthinking every little thing in your relationship and in your life in general simply because you constantly feel like you’re doing something wrong.<\/p>\n

You feel like you’re making mistakes all the time.<\/p>\n

And, sometimes you even think that you’re a mistake.<\/p>\n

You feel like you don’t deserve to be loved, and somehow, you manage to convince yourself that you’re not indeed despite all the efforts your partner makes to convince you of the opposite.<\/p>\n

Se cometeu erros na sua <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/b>, you can’t allow them to sabotage your new happiness.<\/b> Todos n\u00f3s cometemos erros e, por vezes, magoamos os nossos <\/i>entes queridos<\/i> unintentionally, but that doesn’t make us <\/i>indigno de amor<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

Seja gentil consigo mesmo<\/b><\/a>. Don’t judge your wrong decisions and moves. Don’t punish yourself for having weaknesses.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 necess\u00e1rio <\/i>construir um <\/i>rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/i> <\/a>consigo pr\u00f3prio para o fazer com outro ser humano. <\/i>Start by learning to trust yourself and then you’ll learn how to trust others, too.<\/p>\n

3. E, mais importante ainda, confie no seu parceiro<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

For some reason, you\u2019ve stopped believing that people are capable of doing good without hidden motives. You just keep waiting to see what\u2019s really hiding behind their deeds, and what kind of intentions they really have.<\/p>\n

As far as your relationship is concerned, you love. You really do. But, you always question if you\u2019re really loved.<\/i><\/p>\n

If there was an amazing week that helped you feel like the most loved person, you\u2019re just waiting for a crash to happen in the next few days. Even if your significant other has never given you a reason to doubt them and their intentions, you simply can’t relax 100%.<\/p>\n

You probably still snoop through their text messages, even after you’ve been together for so long. Am I right? Well, it’s obvious you’re struggling with <\/b>profundo <\/b>quest\u00f5es de confian\u00e7a<\/b><\/a> que o est\u00e3o a tornar propenso a <\/b>analisar demasiado,<\/b> que est\u00e1 a arruinar lentamente a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\n

After all, you can’t call it a healthy rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> if you don’t trust each other completely. Onde n\u00e3o h\u00e1 confian\u00e7a, tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o h\u00e1 amor.<\/b><\/p>\n

A sua desconfian\u00e7a faz com que a sua <\/i>sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de parceiro<\/i> n\u00e3o respeitado e provavelmente at\u00e9 n\u00e3o amado. <\/i>If you don’t give them the chance to prove you’re trustworthy, it’s just a matter of time when they’ll break up with you.<\/p>\n

4. Permitir-se ser vulner\u00e1vel<\/h3>\n

You’re just a human being, and <\/i>vulnerabilidade emocional<\/i><\/a> faz parte da vossa natureza. P\u00e1ra de a esconder.<\/i><\/p>\n

Precisa de se despir emocionalmente em frente do seu parceiro. <\/b>Right now, you might be afraid that they’ll use it at some point to hurt you.<\/p>\n

But, what if they don’t? What if they start to cherish and appreciate you even more because of it? What if it connects you in a way you never thought was possible before?<\/p>\n

You see, these are the ‘what ifs’ you need to focus on.<\/i><\/p>\n

You can’t pretend you’re somebody else forever. Sooner or later, your mask will come off and it’ll leave your partner too confused.<\/p>\n

5. Dizer em voz alta o que sente<\/h3>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to pour your fears out in the open. Don\u2019t go through it alone.<\/i><\/p>\n

Even if it\u2019s just in your head, he (or she) can reassure you in a minute and make your fears go away.<\/p>\n

Pode facilmente convencer-se de que \u00e9 realmente amado, de que h\u00e1 algu\u00e9m que planeia o seu futuro consigo e de que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 como desistir.<\/p>\n

There is no other person that means so much to them, and there is nobody they want more in life. That’s how you should direct your <\/b>pensamentos pr\u00f3prios<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Poor communication harms a relationship more than anything else. It’s also one of the leading causes of most breakups.<\/p>\n

If you can’t stop obsessing about something regarding your current relationship, talk with your partner about it. Let them explain it to you or let them help you find a way to fix it.<\/p>\n

Suprimir esses sentimentos <\/b><\/a>\u00e9 a pior coisa que se pode fazer. <\/b>You may think that will make them go away, but the truth is it’ll only make them stuck in your mind.<\/i><\/p>\n

They are going to be stuck in your mind and they will shut you down emotionally. You’ll become emocionalmente entorpecido<\/a>Nessa altura, a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o j\u00e1 n\u00e3o ter\u00e1 salva\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

6. Trabalhar para aumentar a sua autoestima<\/h3>\n

Perguntamos sempre se merecemos toda essa felicidade e do que temos de abdicar para equilibrar a felicidade e a mis\u00e9ria que os humanos t\u00eam na vida.<\/p>\n

Sente que o seu parceiro namora consigo por pena. <\/i>You think they feel sorry for you, and that it’s the thing that keeps them in your life.<\/p>\n

You idealize your partner and, in your eyes, they’re the most perfect person on this planet.<\/p>\n

However, that also makes you overanalyze every step they make because you simply can’t accept the fact that someone as perfect as them chooses to love someone so ‘flawless’ as you.<\/p>\n

You have such a bad self-image, and it’s high time to paint a whole new one.<\/b> \u00c9 necess\u00e1rio colocar o autocuidado em primeiro lugar<\/a> na sua lista de prioridades e concentre-se em melhorar a sua autoestima e confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Honestamente, o melhor conselho que posso dar sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es quando se trata de como parar pensar demais numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> \u00e9 que precisa de work on yourself; not your relationship. It’s obvious that the real problem is in you and your bad <\/b>h\u00e1bito de pensar demasiado<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

7. Concentrar-se no momento presente<\/h3>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Leave what could or what will happen aside. You don’t and shouldn’t live for the future.<\/p>\n

No one can promise you that you’ll stay together forever. <\/b>No entanto, neste momento, tens algu\u00e9m que te aceita e te ama apesar de todos os teus defeitos.<\/p>\n

You can’t undo things you’ve done in the past, nor can you control or stop some things from happening in the future. You only have power over your present.<\/i><\/p>\n

Quando se abra\u00e7a a vida no <\/b>momento atual<\/b>, you won’t have time for overthinking. <\/b>You’ll be focused only on things that can make your relationship prosper in every possible way.<\/p>\n

Viver o agora.<\/b> Desfrute da sua felicidade atual. Abrace a incerteza da vida. Deixar de pensar demasiado<\/a> e empurrar o teu parceiro para longe.<\/p>\n

Build a bridge of understanding and acceptance… a bridge that will connect you forever and that will leave no space for re-questioning yourself and your relationship.<\/i><\/p>\n

8. Bloquear os pensamentos negativos<\/h3>\n

O que se passa \u00e9 que o excesso de pensamento responde frequentemente aos seus medos e \u00e0 sua ansiedade. <\/b>Os pensamentos e as emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas dominam-no.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s just contagious. It starts from this little tiny thing and it ends up with you questioning your life. It\u2019s often deeply connected to pessimism. <\/i><\/i><\/i><\/p>\n

De alguma forma, n\u00e3o se consegue ver o lado positivo do futuro quando se analisa demasiado as coisas.<\/p>\n

So, you see the end of your relationship and that\u2019s what you\u2019re preparing yourself for, even though the other side doesn\u2019t really see things the way you do.<\/p>\n

To him (or her), it might appear that everything is OK because you do not communicate your thoughts. You don\u2019t even know what the final conclusion is because you just get tired eventually and you stop thinking totally.<\/p>\n

Continua em sil\u00eancio e o facto de pensar demasiado em sil\u00eancio est\u00e1 a mat\u00e1-lo e a matar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\n

Precisas de sair da tua pr\u00f3pria mente. Tens de deixar de ser prisioneiro dela.<\/i><\/p>\n

Those unwanted thoughts need to be blocked. Stop thinking about those ‘what ifs’ and start enjoying the things you have right now.<\/p>\n

9. Deixar para tr\u00e1s as feridas do passado<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been slapped by life one too many times, and God knows how many times your expectations were not met.<\/i><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you have trouble picturing a happy ending. This is why it\u2019s more logical for you to picture a miserable ending.<\/b> But, it doesn\u2019t have to be like this.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 uma maneira de mudarem as coisas e deixarem de sufocar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com demasiados pensamentos. H\u00e1 uma forma de evitar um final desagrad\u00e1vel, sabe?<\/p>\n

And, the only way you’ll do it is by<\/b> libertar-se do seu passado doloroso<\/b><\/a>. O seu passado<\/b> A rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu ex-companheiro deixou-lhe provavelmente muitas cicatrizes.<\/p>\n

It’s actually normal that you want to protect yourself from being hurt again. Agora, o seu mecanismo de lidar com essas cicatrizes e o medo de ser magoado novamente \u00e9 <\/i>sobre-an\u00e1lise<\/i> todos os pormenores da sua <\/i>rela\u00e7\u00e3o atual<\/i>.<\/i><\/p>\n

However, you can’t use it forever. You can’t continue to stop your partner from getting near to you.<\/b> The more you obsess and overthink things, the more you’ll be pushing them away.<\/p>\n

See, you have somebody who\u2019s holding your hand no matter <\/i>o quanto est\u00e1s desarrumado<\/i><\/a>. Tem algu\u00e9m que se esfor\u00e7a por ganhar a sua confian\u00e7a.<\/i><\/p>\n

Don’t allow your past to ruin your present or, even worse, your future.<\/b> Livrar-se dos seus bagagem emocional<\/a>. You got a new chance to find love \u2013 to be sincerely loved. If you don’t embrace it, if you gamble it, you might end up regretting it for the rest of your life.<\/p>\n

Para concluir<\/h2>\n

Worrying won\u2019t stop bad things from happening… it only stops you from enjoying the good.<\/i><\/p>\n

Portanto, p\u00e1ra com isso. You can\u2019t <\/b>parar de pensar demais<\/b> \u2013<\/b> Toda a gente j\u00e1 sabe isso. N\u00e3o existe uma cura m\u00e1gica nem se pode estalar os dedos e fazer com que desapare\u00e7a.<\/b><\/p>\n

What you can do is stop going through all of it alone. You can stop ruining your relationship by telling him what\u2019s bugging you. You can be each other\u2019s rock, and that\u2019ll do.<\/p>\n

T\u00f3xico e <\/i>pensamentos ansiosos<\/i> provoked by overthinking in a relationship can really damage the bond between two partners to the point where it won’t be fixable any longer.<\/i><\/p>\n

Don’t ever allow the awful <\/b>h\u00e1bito de pensar demasiado<\/b> para ficar entre si e o seu parceiro.<\/b><\/p>\n

Stop overthinking and save your relationship before it’s too late. Let things flow in their natural way, and just keep on hoping for the best.<\/p>\n

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