It can start out as a joke. It can become more frequent over time, but one thing is sure: when you meet that kind of a man, you\u2019ll have no idea who he really is. You\u2019ll have no idea that he presents himself as someone completely different.<\/p>\n
Como no in\u00edcio de cada rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva<\/a>, you\u2019ll think that you\u2019ve finally found the one. You\u2019ll think that finally you\u2019ll feel safe and loved. That\u2019s what they do to you. That\u2019s how they sneak up on you.<\/p>\n They pretend to be loving and compassionate to make you trust them, to make you let go and fall into their \u2018safe\u2019 arms. After they\u2019ve grabbed you like a predator, they can do whatever they want with you.<\/strong><\/p>\n There are all kinds of abuse in relationships, and I\u2019ve written about each and every one. They are each painful and excruciating, especially the emotional ones. But there was never actual talk about verbal abuse.<\/p>\n Verbal abuse doesn\u2019t get noticed that much because pretty much like narcissism and other personality disorders, it doesn\u2019t leave any proof on the victim.<\/p>\n There are no bruises; there are no scars. You can walk out of the house seconds after you\u2019ve been verbally or any kind of emotionally abused. You can put on a smile, and no one will have any idea what you\u2019ve just gone through.<\/p>\n No one will have a clue that you\u2019re barely keeping yourself together. No one sees the sadness behind your eyes and the emotional fatigue that has overwhelmed you entirely.<\/p>\n Porque \u00e9 que ele a agride verbalmente?<\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ve probably blamed yourself hundreds of times, and you thought you had it coming because you provoked him. That\u2019s BS, and deep inside you know it. You were just scared to accept the fact que o teu bom rapaz, o teu verdadeiro homem, acabou por ser um abusador.<\/strong><\/p>\n Os abusadores t\u00eam sentimentos, acredite-se ou n\u00e3o, mas a \u00fanica forma que conhecem de os mostrar \u00e9 atrav\u00e9s da raiva e da desilus\u00e3o. Normalmente, por dentro, est\u00e3o provavelmente magoados ou tristes por alguma raz\u00e3o, e libertar a raiva na pessoa mais pr\u00f3xima \u00e9 a \u00fanica forma que conhecem de lidar com a sua pr\u00f3pria inseguran\u00e7as<\/a>.<\/p>\n Por isso, fazer-te sentir menos digna e mais pequena do que ele f\u00e1-lo sentir-se melhor. Ele precisa de minar outra pessoa para se sentir melhor e mais poderoso.<\/p>\n He needs to have control over you because he doesn\u2019t have control over anything else.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Ele usa o abuso verbal para a fazer sentir uma merda, para destruir a sua autoestima e, desta forma, transform\u00e1-la numa pessoa que pensa que \u00e9 incapaz de tomar decis\u00f5es por si pr\u00f3pria, algu\u00e9m que \u00e9 f\u00e1cil de controlar.<\/p>\n Este \u00e9 um processo que leva tempo a concretizar. Este foi sempre o seu plano. Desde o primeiro dia em que a conheceu, ele quis entrar lentamente na sua vida para se sentir confort\u00e1vel e seguro para sugar a sua energia.<\/p>\n Foi assim que ele o fez. Foi assim que ele passou de um homem a s\u00e9rio para um abusador.<\/p>\n You just knew that if you said something wrong, something that he might not like, he\u2019d lose it. You knew he\u2019d over-react, and you knew what that meant for you.<\/p>\n It meant you\u2019re getting your portion of insults and verbal abuse. So, when you were around him, you thought hard what to say and what to keep to yourself.<\/p>\n Actually, it all depended on how he was feeling that day. If you saw that he was in a good mood, you\u2019d probably find a way to tell him something as painless as possible, but if he was agitated and grumpy, you\u2019d definitely keep it to yourself.<\/p>\n This is self-explanatory. In short, no one has the right to call you names\u2014not your family, not your friends and not your boyfriend. No matter how mad he is and no matter how screwed up his day was, he has to deal with that himself.<\/p>\n Even if you provoke him with something you\u2019ve said or done, he can\u2019t react by calling you stupid, a slut or God knows what you\u2019ve heard so far.<\/p>\n If you were feeling positive and happy, if you were excited about something and you wanted to share your happiness with him, he disagreed with you instantly. It means he didn\u2019t respect you enough to let you be happy.<\/p>\n Maybe he was jealous that you were feeling great when he didn\u2019t and since he didn\u2019t love you, he tried to hurt you by putting you back down to earth and destroying your happiness.<\/p>\n He didn\u2019t value your opinion, and it didn\u2019t interest him. He didn\u2019t want to hear anything that you had to say, and if you said it anyway, he\u2019d laugh and made fun of you because he obviously thought you were stupid.<\/p>\n He was always telling you that you\u2019re wrong, and he is always right; he knows everything and you don\u2019t have a clue.<\/p>\n1. Ele fez-te pensar bem antes de falares<\/h2>\n
2. Ele chamou-te nomes<\/h2>\n
3. Ele estava sempre a discordar de si<\/h2>\n
4. Ele calou-te<\/h2>\n