{"id":23833,"date":"2018-09-20T10:23:00","date_gmt":"2018-09-20T10:23:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=23833"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:42:08","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:42:08","slug":"6-sinais-de-que-esta-numa-relacao-de-ajuda-rapida-e-o-que-fazer-em-relacao-a-isso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-sinais-de-que-esta-numa-relacao-de-ajuda-rapida-e-o-que-fazer-em-relacao-a-isso\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Sinais de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 em um relacionamento de band-aid (e o que fazer sobre isso)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Por vezes, ficamos demasiado tempo e esfor\u00e7amo-nos demasiado por uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o que sabemos que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 a funcionar. Esse tipo de relacionamento \u00e9 chamado de \"Band-Aid\".<\/p>\n

Symbolically, there is just a Band-Aid that\u2019s keeping two people together.<\/em><\/p>\n

As coisas que est\u00e3o a impedir que tudo se desmorone s\u00e3o t\u00e3o pequenas e insignificantes, mas s\u00e3o t\u00e3o poderosas que fazem com que as pessoas fiquem muito tempo depois de saberem que deviam ir embora.<\/p>\n

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es do tipo \"penso r\u00e1pido\" s\u00e3o muito dif\u00edceis de detetar. Principalmente porque temos dificuldade em admitir para n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios que estamos numa.<\/p>\n

Primeiro, temos de ser brutalmente honestos connosco pr\u00f3prios, admitir que estamos a seguir o caminho errado e ver se ainda h\u00e1 alguma coisa que possamos fazer para corrigir as coisas ou se \u00e9 melhor afastarmos-nos.<\/p>\n

Se estiver numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o do tipo \"penso r\u00e1pido\", alguns ou todos os sinais abaixo indicados ser-lhe-\u00e3o familiares:<\/p>\n

1. You never know if or when you\u2019re going to spend time together<\/h2>\n

\"6Let\u2019s say the weekend is approaching and you have no clue if you will spend any time with your partner. That doesn\u2019t sound right, does it?<\/p>\n

Parece n\u00e3o conseguir fazer planos com anteced\u00eancia. Todas as ideias para um encontro ou para ficar em casa surgem \u00faltimo minuto<\/a>. Being together is not treated as a priority and that\u2019s just wrong.<\/p>\n

Couples in meaningful relationships can\u2019t wait to see each other. When they spend some time apart, it seems that something is off. Otherwise this is a clear sign of a Band-Aid relationship.<\/p>\n

2. Acredita que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 a falhar quando a compara com as rela\u00e7\u00f5es das pessoas que o rodeiam<\/h2>\n

\"6Olhamos para todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es felizes \u00e0 nossa volta e sentimos pena de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios porque estamos a perder muito.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que fica feliz pelos seus amigos. Mas tamb\u00e9m fica triste quando v\u00ea os parceiros deles a darem tudo por tudo, enquanto o seu n\u00e3o \u00e9 capaz de levantar um dedo sequer.<\/p>\n

As compara\u00e7\u00f5es nunca s\u00e3o uma boa ideia, mas no momento em que come\u00e7a a faz\u00ea-las \u00e9 o momento em que tem de admitir para si pr\u00f3prio que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 satisfeito com a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

3. Est\u00e1 exausto e n\u00e3o tem mais for\u00e7a de vontade para trabalhar para resolver a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"6H\u00e1 muito tempo que tem a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de estar a bater numa parede de tijolo e parece n\u00e3o conseguir encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para os problemas ou para a insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o que sente na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

You talked things over with your partner more times than you can count. You make promises that you\u2019ll both do your best. You both stick to your words. You make the effort.<\/p>\n

Mas, em poucos dias, tudo volta a ser como dantes. Eles voltam aos seus velhos h\u00e1bitos e voc\u00ea est\u00e1 farto de ser o \u00fanico a tentar.<\/p>\n

Por fim, deixamos de tentar. V\u00ea que \u00e9 in\u00fatil. Por isso, limita-se a existir nessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o sem qualquer esperan\u00e7a de vir a ser realmente feliz.<\/p>\n

4. Acredita realmente que qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 melhor do que nenhuma<\/h2>\n

\"6Primeiro, seja aberto e honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio. Tem tanto medo de estar sozinho que acredita mesmo que estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o med\u00edocre \u00e9 melhor do que estar solteiro.<\/p>\n

Being single isn\u2019t always easy but it has many perks you are not seeing right now. If the fear of singledom is the only thing keeping you attached to your partner, you are becoming a textbook example of someone in a Band-Aid relationship.<\/p>\n

5. O amor transformou-se em h\u00e1bito<\/h2>\n

\"6Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade para as rela\u00e7\u00f5es de longa dura\u00e7\u00e3o que parecem n\u00e3o ter fim, apesar de n\u00e3o serem funcionais.<\/p>\n

People in long-term relationships are so used to each other that they can\u2019t even imagine anything else. They fear everything else.<\/p>\n

O sentimento de estar apaixonado \u00e9 uma mem\u00f3ria distante, vivem uma vida de companheiros de quarto, toda a qu\u00edmica e tens\u00e3o sexual foram pela janela e tudo o que resta \u00e9 aquela sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de familiaridade.<\/p>\n

Quando uma pessoa passa tanto tempo em algo que \u00e9 errado para ela, o errado come\u00e7a a parecer certo porque se esqueceu de como era quando tudo era \u00f3timo.<\/p>\n

So if you find yourself in a long-term relationship that is not going anywhere and which is not making you happy, don\u2019t regret the years you invested in the relationship.<\/p>\n

De qualquer forma, os anos passar\u00e3o. Se ficar demasiado tempo<\/a>, the Band-Aid that\u2019s keeping you together will snap and your relationship will have an inevitably messy end.<\/p>\n

6. Est\u00e1 apaixonado pelo potencial que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o tem, n\u00e3o pelo que tem atualmente<\/h2>\n

\"6N\u00e3o est\u00e1 a viver o momento. O momento atual da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o \u00e9 o que desejam ou com que sonharam.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you fast forward in your mind, to a time in the future where everything is great again. Where your relationship is everything that you dreamed of and more.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s just not real. Your unwillingness to deal with the current situation of your relationship is making you delude yourself by thinking that everything will miraculously work itself out in the future.<\/p>\n

Odds are it won\u2019t. Things will stay the same. The problems you have will probably get even worse as the time goes by. If they can\u2019t be solved, the best thing to do is leave and find your happiness elsewhere.<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que se pode fazer?<\/em><\/h2>\n

\"6<\/p>\n

If talking openly and honestly with your partner about everything that is going wrong in your relationship doesn\u2019t go as planned, there are some things you need to do.<\/p>\n

1. Ask yourself, \u201cIs this the person I can see myself with when I\u2019m old and gray?\u201d<\/h2>\n

Don\u2019t answer right away. Think long and hard. Do you really believe that you can be happy with them? Have they done anything to show you they care as much as you do?<\/p>\n

Do you really believe that they will change their behavior if they haven\u2019t by now? Have you given them enough time and enough chances already?<\/p>\n

Mais importante ainda, consegue aguentar que eles se comportem da mesma forma para o resto da sua vida? Se a resposta a esta pergunta for negativa, saber\u00e1 que don\u2019t need to stay<\/a> nessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o por mais tempo.<\/p>\n

2. Be honest with yourself and determine what\u2019s keeping you attached to that person<\/h2>\n

If you come across answers similar to, \u201cWe have been together for a long time that I can\u2019t simply let go\u201d, \u201cMaybe somebody else would be even worse\u201d or, \u201cI don\u2019t want to be alone again,\u201d they are not good enough reasons to stay.<\/p>\n

Habit, safety, familiarity, and hope shouldn\u2019t be the only things keeping you in a relationship. You deserve more than that. You deserve that unconditional, all-consuming and committed love. If you don\u2019t have that, don\u2019t settle.<\/p>\n

3. Comunicar e ver o lado dele da hist\u00f3ria<\/h2>\n

We want answers and we want them now. Sometimes we come on too strong. We look at things that bother us and we don\u2019t really take our partner into consideration.<\/p>\n

We have to talk less and listen more. There are two sides to every story. Tell yours and listen to his. Try to find common ground. If you are both ready to work on your issues, if you both still care, maybe there\u2019s still hope.<\/p>\n

4. Determinar um limite de tempo<\/h2>\n

Por vezes, ficamos t\u00e3o agarrados \u00e0 nossa esperan\u00e7a de que as coisas melhorem com o tempo que damos demasiado tempo. Quando damos por isso, os anos passam e tudo continua na mesma, se n\u00e3o mesmo pior.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why we need to determine a time limit that will be enough to see if things are getting better. Promise yourself you\u2019ll stick to the time limit.<\/p>\n

See for yourself how long you want it to be\u2014a month, three months\u2026. but remember: anything more than six months is too much. If nothing changes by then, nothing ever will.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sometimes we stay too long and try too hard for a relationship that we know isn\u2019t working. Those kinds of relationships are called Band-Aid relationships. Symbolically, there is just a Band-Aid that\u2019s keeping two people together. The things that are holding everything from crumbling down are so tiny and insignificant, yet they are so powerful…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":23847,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-23833","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/vidar-nordli-mathisen-558121-unsplash-1-1.jpg",800,603,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","parent":29620,"count":228,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29625,"category_count":228,"category_description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","cat_name":"toxic relationship","category_nicename":"toxic-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23833","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23833"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23833\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/23847"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23833"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23833"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23833"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}