{"id":2448,"date":"2019-07-11T12:25:23","date_gmt":"2019-07-11T12:25:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2448"},"modified":"2021-08-12T06:38:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T06:38:18","slug":"a-relacao-correcta-vai-parecer-toxica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-relacao-correcta-vai-parecer-toxica\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 assim que a rela\u00e7\u00e3o \"certa\" se vai sentir depois de todas aquelas t\u00f3xicas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mantemo-nos em rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas<\/a> principalmente porque n\u00e3o temos consci\u00eancia de que <\/span>s\u00e3o <\/b>numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica. Tendemos a ignorar o que o nosso parceiro t\u00f3xico nos faz a n\u00f3s e aos nossos estados emocionais, encontrando muitas vezes desculpas no amor s\u00f3 para ficar mais um pouco.<\/span><\/p>\n

O que precisamos de compreender \u00e9 <\/span>ficar e acreditar que algo acabar\u00e1 por mudar \u00e9 demasiado ing\u00e9nuo<\/b> e continuamos a magoar-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios ao faz\u00ea-lo.<\/span><\/p>\n

O que se passa com <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas<\/b> \u00e9 que eles <\/span>s\u00e3o viciantes<\/b> pois fazem-nos sentir que temos algu\u00e9m em quem confiar. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00e3o eles <\/span>desafiador<\/b> porque acha que pode fazer com que resulte e acha que tem de se esfor\u00e7ar muito para ser feliz numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, <\/span>quando, na verdade, as rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas t\u00eam tudo a ver com medo<\/b>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You are captured in toxic relationships because you\u2019re made to believe you\u2019re better off staying in a <\/span>disfuncional <\/span>do que estar sozinho. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quando estamos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica, temos este quadro de pontua\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b> onde se mant\u00e9m o registo de quem fez o qu\u00ea a quem. <\/span><\/p>\n

Continuam a discutir sobre quem \u00e9 que est\u00e1 a dar mais a esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o e continuam a culp\u00e1-lo por tudo o que de mau aconteceu na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tudo o que aconteceu est\u00e1 escrito algures e o seu parceiro t\u00f3xico est\u00e1 apenas \u00e0 espera de uma oportunidade para jogar essa carta. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you are in a toxic relationship your partner is \u2018dropping hints\u2019 <\/b>e fazer outras coisas passivo-agressivas.<\/span><\/p>\n

He (or she) is unable to communicate with you on a \u2018normal human level\u2019 and instead, to clearly state the desire, you are pushed with hints towards the direction where your partner wants you to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of telling you what\u2019s actually upsetting him, he chooses to piss you off and then he has a legit excuse to behave like a jerk towards you and say out loud what he wanted to say at first.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you are in a toxic relationship it feels like you\u2019re held hostage <\/b>porque a cada pequeno contratempo, fala-se de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whenever something is not suitable for your partner, he says he can\u2019t stay in such a relationship. Instead of asking you why are you being cold, he chooses to say, \u201cI can\u2019t be with someone who\u2019s cold to me all the time\u201d. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you are in a toxic relationship you are to blame for your partner’s emotions. <\/b><\/p>\n

If your partner had a bad day but didn\u2019t mention it to you and you decide to go out or watch a movie instead of staying in and hugging and comforting your partner, you get accused of being insensitive and self-centered. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re actually expected to \u2018babysit\u2019 his emotions and be attuned to what\u2019s going on with your partner all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

But eventually, you\u2019ll libertar-se de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/a>. <\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll allow yourself not to tie your life to such person and life will reward you with a good guy at some point\u2014 a \u2018right\u2019 relationship which you haven\u2019t gotten a chance to see often in your life. <\/b><\/p>\n

\"Rapariga<\/p>\n

At first, you won\u2019t be aware you\u2019re in the right place because everything will be new to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ter\u00e1 espa\u00e7o para aprender e ter\u00e1 apoio para ser quem realmente \u00e9. <\/b>N\u00e3o haver\u00e1 esfor\u00e7os para o mudar e n\u00e3o haver\u00e1 queixas sobre o seu car\u00e1cter. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will be accepted for who you are and you will be loved as such. Eventually, you\u2019ll start remembering what you really wanted your life to be because you definitely didn\u2019t want to spend your life pleasing someone who could never actually be pleased. <\/span>You\u2019ll get to be who you truly are. <\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll overthink constantly<\/b> and you\u2019ll be thinking five, ten or even twenty steps ahead. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll try to make a script out of every single date of yours, but everything will come up way better than you imagine <\/span>because you\u2019re expecting the same story you\u2019ve lived once already, but you\u2019ll get something totally different. <\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll keep thinking it\u2019s just too good to be true<\/b> and you\u2019ll keep waiting for something to happen to prove you\u2019re right. The feeling that something bad will happen any moment will follow you constantly, but you need to understand he\u2019s not waiting for a \u2018perfect storm\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\n

It might be that in your previous relationships, fights came out of nowhere, but you need to remember you\u2019ve broken free from those chains a long time ago.<\/span><\/p>\n

It might be that in your previous relationships, fights came out of nowhere, but you need to remember you\u2019ve broken free from those chains a long time ago.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, eventually, you\u2019ll start trusting your partner. <\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll start doing things you (both) enjoy.<\/b> No more doing things only for him; your day is not going to be spinning around anybody else but you.  You\u2019ll discover things you both enjoy and you\u2019ll spend time doing those things. <\/span><\/p>\n

After a fight, you won\u2019t feel like your whole world is falling apart and that you\u2019re the one to blame for it.<\/b> Your experience tells you that only toxic relationships have fights, but that\u2019s not true. <\/span><\/p>\n

Every relationship has some hiccups, but where the \u2018good\u2019 and the \u2018bad\u2019 relationships differ are the outcomes of the fights. <\/span><\/p>\n

In the \u2018right\u2019 relationship, you won\u2019t be feeling like a sh*t depois de uma luta<\/a> porque n\u00e3o foi essa a ideia inicial do seu parceiro. <\/span><\/p>\n

Voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro procurar\u00e3o uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para o problema e as pr\u00f3prias ra\u00edzes de onde tudo come\u00e7ou, de modo a poderem destru\u00ed-lo logo no in\u00edcio, em vez de colocarem toda a culpa em si.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll do everything to get over the problem because you <\/span>querer<\/b> to stay together, you don\u2019t want to break up.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

As pessoas v\u00e3o gostar de vos ver juntos <\/b>porque um uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel est\u00e1 a brilhar<\/a>\u2014and I mean literally glowing. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll walk close to each other and you\u2019ll hold hands in public. You\u2019ll smile often and the happiness and love you two feel for being together will just reflect on the outside as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

You won\u2019t be afraid to disagree<\/b> because once you accept you have a guy who\u2019s there because he loves you, not because he\u2019s afraid of being alone or because he needs somebody, anybody to function, you\u2019ll find space to speak your mind without fear. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be able to say out loud what it is that you want and don\u2019t want and what it is that you like or dislike instead of constantly compromising and doing things your partner wants.<\/span><\/p>\n

Partilhar\u00e3o uma paix\u00e3o pelo futuro<\/b>. There will be no threats to break up and you won\u2019t have this fear you could lose him any moment now. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, you\u2019ll be able to plan your future together and you\u2019ll walk together towards your destination. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll enjoy doing mundane tasks together<\/b> like grocery shopping or cooking lunch and it will be fun. You won\u2019t be the one doing all the work and not getting any recognition for it, but instead, you\u2019ll do it together and you\u2019ll be looking forward to it.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll know you can function without your partner, but you\u2019ll refuse to go through life without him. <\/b>The catch is you won\u2019t feel addicted to him nor anxious to leave him. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll choose him to walk together through your life because that\u2019s what the \u2018right\u2019 relationships make you do. They make you feel like you\u2019ve found your \u2018forever\u2019 person and you\u2019ll want to hold on to that. <\/span><\/p>\n

The difference between the toxic relationship and the \u2018right\u2019 one<\/a> refletir-se-\u00e1 na sua felicidade. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll start feeling like a decent human being<\/b> and this is something you forgot for a while. That\u2019s what toxic relationships do to us.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll enjoy your time with people you love without the fear that it might cause you problems afterwards. <\/span><\/p>\n

You won\u2019t need to justify your actions and you\u2019ll be able to make something out of your life because you won\u2019t have anybody to hold you down. You\u2019ll feel good. Like you haven\u2019t felt in a million years. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll feel loved and appreciated, you\u2019ll feel needed and you\u2019ll feel like you\u2019re in the right place and your eyes will shed tears. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quando finalmente aceitas o amor que realmente mereces em vez daquele que <\/b>pensar <\/i><\/b>you deserve, you\u2019ll see that you were only going through a lesson in life and you\u2019ll thank God for that toxic relationship because it taught you never to settle for less and to know the difference between the \u2018right\u2019 guy and the \u2018wrong\u2019 one when you meet him.<\/b><\/p>\n

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