{"id":24626,"date":"2020-09-28T07:58:20","date_gmt":"2020-09-28T07:58:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=24626"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:15:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:15:30","slug":"e-um-cuidador-emocional-na-sua-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/e-um-cuidador-emocional-na-sua-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 um \"cuidador emocional\" na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Est\u00e1 a p\u00f4r as necessidades dos outros \u00e0 frente das suas? \u00c9 sempre o \u00fanico que d\u00e1 mais, tenta mais e faz mais numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 demasiado emp\u00e1tico? Tem tend\u00eancia para sacrificar as suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades, planos e sonhos para satisfazer os de outra pessoa?<\/p>\n

If the answer to most of these questions is, \u201cYes,\u201d odds are you are an emotional caretaker. You are so used to taking care of others that you forget that you\u2019re in need of care for yourself.<\/em><\/p>\n

Tem boas inten\u00e7\u00f5es, mas est\u00e1 a fazer muito mal a si pr\u00f3prio. Est\u00e1 a colocar todos os outros \u00e0 sua frente. Est\u00e1 a esfor\u00e7ar-se por fazer coisas para os outros e isso acontece-lhe naturalmente.<\/p>\n

You do it without even giving it a second thought. It\u2019s only later that you realize you are doing all the heavy lifting and you resent them later when you realize that all that giving has left you empty.<\/p>\n

A coisa mais perigosa de ser um cuidador emocional \u00e9 que pode facilmente tornar-se uma v\u00edtima de narcisistas<\/a>, manipuladores emocionais<\/a>e outros pessoas t\u00f3xicas<\/a> porque temos muito para dar e eles est\u00e3o habituados a receber.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

Aqui est\u00e3o 6 sinais que deve procurar em si pr\u00f3prio para verificar se \u00e9 de facto um cuidador emocional:<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a abdicar de muita coisa para estar nessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a abdicar do que mais lhe interessa sem sequer se aperceber. Existe um grande fosso entre si e os seus amigos ou mesmo a sua fam\u00edlia.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a afastar-se dos seus interesses e objectivos e a ignorar as suas actividades habituais.<\/p>\n

You have basically lost yourself in him and you don\u2019t recognize the person staring back at you in the mirror.<\/p>\n

You redirected your focus and energy solely onto him. Maybe he wanted it that way or maybe it\u2019s your natural urge to take care of the one you love and you overdo it.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a ir contra o seu bom senso<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sabes que essa pessoa n\u00e3o te est\u00e1 a tratar bem. Tudo o que ela faz \u00e9 tirar, tirar, tirar, sem nunca parar para validar os seus esfor\u00e7os, muito menos para dar algo em troca.<\/p>\n

Os seus padr\u00f5es de comportamento variam, mas fazer-nos sentir pequenos, insultar-nos ou ofender as nossas cren\u00e7as \u00e9 o que se sobrep\u00f5e a tudo o resto.<\/p>\n

Se for um cuidador emocional, encontrar\u00e1 todo o tipo de formas de os defender e de arranjar desculpas para as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es indesculp\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

Sente-se pouco apreciado<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It\u2019s almost like your partner doesn\u2019t see you or doesn\u2019t want to see you. No matter what you do or how hard you try, it all goes unnoticed. You are taken for granted.<\/p>\n

You are forgetting one crucial component of every good relationship\u2014reciprocity. You need someone who will make as much effort as you do.<\/p>\n

Precisam de algu\u00e9m que corresponda aos vossos investimentos. Algu\u00e9m que seja seu igual, n\u00e3o algu\u00e9m que esteja a tentar fazer com que esteja sempre contente e feliz.<\/p>\n

Guarda segredos dos seus entes queridos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t share what\u2019s happening to you and you keep bottling it all up inside.<\/p>\n

All your loved ones know is that you are different, you\u2019ve changed, and they keep telling you that.<\/p>\n

Tem vergonha da sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o atual, odeia o facto de n\u00e3o ser valorizado ou de ser mal tratado na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o e tem dificuldade em admiti-lo aos outros \u00e0 sua volta.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s also one of the reasons why you pull away from your friends and family; you don\u2019t like to see them concerned and you don\u2019t like them asking too many questions so it\u2019s easier to keep your distance.<\/p>\n

Sente-se impotente<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel, as decis\u00f5es s\u00e3o tomadas em conjunto. Ningu\u00e9m assume o papel de chefe.<\/p>\n

In your relationship, that\u2019s not the case, as your partner has a say in everything you do or want to do.<\/p>\n

Encontra-se numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que tem de pedir a aprova\u00e7\u00e3o dele. Sente que tem de lutar pelo seu direito b\u00e1sico de viver a sua vida \u00e0 sua maneira.<\/p>\n

They make you feel like you are not good enough and feelings of helplessness consume you. You feel like you are in a situation that you can\u2019t escape from.<\/p>\n

Se \u00e9 este o cen\u00e1rio em que vive, n\u00e3o \u00e9 apenas um cuidador emocional, \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m uma v\u00edtima de abuso emocional<\/a> e tens de deixar essa rela\u00e7\u00e3o o mais depressa poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Ressente-se por se esfor\u00e7ar demasiado<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Quer que as coisas mudem para melhor na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o e est\u00e1 a esfor\u00e7ar-se demasiado para que isso aconte\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Nunca desiste porque est\u00e1 em modo de cuidador, certificando-se de que o seu parceiro \u00e9 t\u00e3o feliz quanto poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Ao fazer isso, n\u00e3o est\u00e1 a conseguir nada. Tudo fica na mesma, independentemente do que se fa\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it\u2019s the perfect time to do the opposite. Stop trying. Redirect your focus from him onto yourself. Give him and yourself some space to determine if he is at all invested in you.<\/p>\n

Uma outra coisa que pode fazer se se reconhecer como um cuidador emocional \u00e9 aprender a exigir.<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

You also need the love and care you are giving your partner, so maybe it\u2019s time to ask for that back.<\/p>\n

Valorizar-se, respeitar-se e estimar-se. Trabalhe constantemente sobre si pr\u00f3prio e para melhorar a sua confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the only way you will stop being an emotional caretaker and be in a healthy and strong relationship where both of you take care of each other equally.<\/p>\n

\"\u00c9<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Are you putting others\u2019 needs before your own? Are you always the one who gives more, tries more and does more in a relationship? Are you overly empathic? Do you have the tendency to sacrifice your own needs, plans, and dreams to accommodate somebody else? If the answer to most of these questions is, \u201cYes,\u201d…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":115007,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-24626","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/Are-You-An-\u2018Emotional-Caretaker-In-Your-Relationship-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24626","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=24626"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24626\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/115007"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=24626"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=24626"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=24626"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}