{"id":2471,"date":"2020-06-11T07:15:31","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T07:15:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2471"},"modified":"2022-01-10T00:50:14","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T00:50:14","slug":"para-a-rapariga-que-esta-sempre-a-afastar-as-pessoas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/para-a-rapariga-que-esta-sempre-a-afastar-as-pessoas\/","title":{"rendered":"Porque \u00e9 que afasto as pessoas: A verdade por tr\u00e1s dos seus medos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Afasta as pessoas - \u00e9 o seu estilo, n\u00e3o \u00e9?<\/p>\n

Despite this, you keep asking yourself why you can\u2019t let people in, and yet, whenever somebody gets near you, you do the same thing again. You shut everything down, and you push them even further away.<\/p>\n

Ergue-se de novo o muro e essa pessoa fica sem si.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t even bother explaining because you often catch yourself not knowing why you do it in the first place. So it\u2019s easier just leaving without a trace than explaining something you\u2019re not sure of.<\/p>\n

Voc\u00ea <\/b>afastar<\/b><\/a> anybody who could care for you\u2014why is that?<\/b><\/p>\n

\u201cYou can\u2019t always be pushing people away. Someday, nobody will come back.\u201d- The Dear One<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m pode ser t\u00e3o duro connosco como n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios. Ningu\u00e9m pode ser t\u00e3o duro contigo como tu o \u00e9s contigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been through way too much. Nobody can possibly fathom the trauma and loss you had to endure in your young life.<\/p>\n

Nobody knows those things because you don\u2019t let anyone see what you are lidar com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Nunca permites que ningu\u00e9m esteja t\u00e3o perto de ti<\/a>. The minute somebody steps too close, you take a step back. Always creating a gap between you two, aren\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

Regardless of what you\u2019ve passou por<\/a> na vida, tentamos ver o lado bom das pessoas.<\/b> Fazemos o nosso melhor para acreditar que dias melhores est\u00e3o para vir, mas nunca damos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios espa\u00e7o suficiente para que esses dias bons cheguem.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, it\u2019s just not possible to look brightly on the things that are coming towards you. There is always a dose of scepticism and doubt inside you.<\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019re the type of person that thinks about everyone but herself. You\u2019re always the last person on your priority list.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the type of person who\u2019s there for everyone in the blink of an eye, and the first one to make the rest of the world happy, even if they don\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n

You weren\u2019t suficientemente bom<\/a> pelas pessoas que amaste enquanto crescias.<\/p>\n

There was always that \u2018something\u2019 they expected of you, and no matter what you did, it just wasn\u2019t enough. Nobody told you that all this is not your fault.<\/p>\n

Continuaste a pensar (e continuas a pensar) que mereces a dor que recebes na vida.<\/b><\/p>\n

You somehow feel you caused it for yourself\u2014you must have done something wrong, so now God is \u2018returning the favor\u2019, and you never dare question it.<\/p>\n

You feel like you need to pay the price for something, but you just can\u2019t wrap your mind around what that is.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Assim, quando acabamos por ficar sozinhos com a nossa escurid\u00e3o, continuamos a acenar com a cabe\u00e7a quando essa escurid\u00e3o vem abra\u00e7ar-nos, e abra\u00e7amo-la com tristeza nos olhos.<\/p>\n

You just don\u2019t let people see it.<\/p>\n

Recusa-se a ser a v\u00edtima.<\/b> Decidiste n\u00e3o deixar que ningu\u00e9m te visse de joelhos. Por isso, seja o que for que a vida te atire, tu aguentas sozinho.<\/p>\n

Nunca ningu\u00e9m ver\u00e1 as vossas l\u00e1grimas<\/a> porque continuas a acreditar que, se mostrares uma coisa, nada te impedir\u00e1 de te despires.<\/p>\n

If you let it all out, you are frightened you\u2019ll never be able to stop, and it will only push people away even more\u2026 and that\u2019s what scares you the most.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to scare people away. You can\u2019t live with that. You\u2019d rather push them away. That\u2019s something you can live with.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It\u2019s never the right time.<\/b><\/p>\n

There is always something more important than relationships, from bonding with people. You always have so much on your plate, and you just can\u2019t handle anything else. It\u2019s better to wait.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s always that one little thing that prevents you from letting anyone in.<\/b><\/p>\n

There is always a small flaw or an imperfection, and because of that flaw, you simply can\u2019t let that person into your life. It just creates a wall between the two of you that is insurmountable.<\/p>\n

The real truth is you\u2019re scared.<\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019re just too scared to admit it or you\u2019re just too scared to let people in. You keep finding these stupid excuses to comfort yourself with.<\/p>\n

Desculpas que fazem com que afastar toda a gente pare\u00e7a melhor. S\u00f3 que isso nunca acontece.<\/p>\n

\"A<\/p>\n

You keep rationalizing your actions when in fact, they have nothing to do with reason. It\u2019s all about your heart, and your heart is scared.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to be like that. You don\u2019t want to be scared, and you don\u2019t want to push people away. It\u2019s just way less painful to push them away <\/b>primeiro<\/i><\/b> do que deix\u00e1-los entrar e v\u00ea-los ir embora sozinhos.<\/b><\/p>\n

The thing is, and you wouldn\u2019t admit it for anything in this world, you just want someone to tell you it\u2019s OK.<\/p>\n

And it is OK. For real, it\u2019s fine.<\/b><\/p>\n

Algu\u00e9m h\u00e1-de vir e provar que est\u00e1s errado, est\u00e1 bem?<\/p>\n

Somebody who will show you that the world isn\u2019t as dark and twisted as you make it seem in your head.<\/p>\n

Existem tantas oportunidades fant\u00e1sticas para si, mas recusa-se a v\u00ea-las. H\u00e1 tantas pessoas por a\u00ed que s\u00e3o bom para si<\/a> and your soul\u2014you just need to open your eyes to see them.<\/p>\n

\"tr\u00eas<\/p>\n

There will come a person who\u2019ll be able to see your worth and who\u2019ll let you see how worthy you are.<\/b><\/p>\n

He\u2019s going to be the one to prove to you that there are people out there who deserve you, and people who can make you happy. There is someone out there who won\u2019t hurt you, you know.<\/b><\/p>\n

S\u00f3 temos de aguentar mais um bocadinho.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll know when the \u2018right\u2019 person enters your life\u2014just don\u2019t push this one away.<\/p>\n

Quando essa pessoa chegar, vai fazer com que tudo pare\u00e7a melhor. Ele ter\u00e1 uma maneira de a fazer sentir-se forte, poderosa e bonita.<\/p>\n

E quando essa pessoa entrar na sua vida, d\u00ea a si mesmo o privil\u00e9gio de ser amado da forma que merece ser amado.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t push this one away because he is going to be the one who finally makes everything seem worthwhile.<\/i><\/p>\n

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\"Porque<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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