{"id":24800,"date":"2020-05-02T07:22:49","date_gmt":"2020-05-02T07:22:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=24800"},"modified":"2022-03-01T22:54:08","modified_gmt":"2022-03-01T22:54:08","slug":"como-lidar-com-o-facto-de-se-descobrir-que-se-e-a-outra-mulher","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-lidar-com-o-facto-de-se-descobrir-que-se-e-a-outra-mulher\/","title":{"rendered":"Como lidar com a descoberta de que \u00e9 a outra mulher"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>No in\u00edcio, tudo parece id\u00edlico. Ele parece demasiado bom para ser verdade. As coisas parecem prometedoras, passam muito tempo juntos, conhecem-se e at\u00e9 conhecem os amigos dele! Est\u00e1 nas nuvens. Depois, uma mensagem depois da meia-noite rebenta a tua bolha de felicidade e manda-te de volta \u00e0 terra. Despenhar-se.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>O texto em quest\u00e3o, como provavelmente adivinham, era de ningu\u00e9m menos que a sua MULHER. Pois \u00e9. No in\u00edcio, pensei que fosse uma partida dos amigos dele.<\/p>\n<p>Eles pareciam ser o tipo de pessoas que fariam isso, por isso eu ignorei-os e disse-lhes para pararem de se meter comigo, n\u00e3o tinha piada nenhuma.<\/p>\n<p>Then, I get a picture. And it gets worse. Not only is he married, but he has a child. (The picture was the three of them, in case you didn\u2019t guess).<\/p>\n<p>Sentia-me mal do est\u00f4mago. N\u00e3o podia acreditar no que estava a ver! J\u00e1 para n\u00e3o falar das mensagens de texto que estava sempre a receber dela.<\/p>\n<p>Ela pensava que eu sabia da exist\u00eancia deles! Mal sabia ela que eu estava completa e totalmente chocada e que n\u00e3o fazia a m\u00ednima ideia! Quero dizer, como \u00e9 que eu podia adivinhar uma coisa destas? Como \u00e9 que algu\u00e9m poderia?<\/p>\n<p><b>Os sentimentos que nos passam pela cabe\u00e7a nesse momento s\u00e3o imposs\u00edveis de descrever.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-94187\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/close-up-photo-of-woman-holding-palms-on-her-face.jpg\" alt=\"fotografia em grande plano de uma mulher com as palmas das m\u00e3os no rosto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/close-up-photo-of-woman-holding-palms-on-her-face.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/close-up-photo-of-woman-holding-palms-on-her-face-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/close-up-photo-of-woman-holding-palms-on-her-face-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Pensamos que temos uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o perfeita com uma pessoa e que a CONHECEMOS, mas a realidade n\u00e3o podia ser mais diferente. Eu era <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/accept-second-one\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">a outra mulher<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Foi a pior sensa\u00e7\u00e3o e fiquei absolutamente furiosa por ele me ter colocado naquela situa\u00e7\u00e3o horr\u00edvel! Eu n\u00e3o fazia a m\u00ednima ideia, fui enganada e mentiram-me, mas eu (estupidamente) senti que tamb\u00e9m era culpada e isso deixou-me t\u00e3o zangada.<\/p>\n<p>Eu nunca faria uma coisa t\u00e3o horr\u00edvel a outra mulher e para algu\u00e9m DECIDIR fazer outra pessoa <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/jovem-esposa-amante-de-longa-duracao\/\">uma amante<\/a> era irritante.<\/p>\n<p>Os seus telefonemas incessantes (durante semanas!) n\u00e3o tornaram as coisas mais f\u00e1ceis. N\u00e3o bastava ter ficado com o cora\u00e7\u00e3o despeda\u00e7ado, mas tamb\u00e9m tinha de me sentir mal comigo pr\u00f3pria? Isso era uma porcaria e era dif\u00edcil de aceitar.<\/p>\n<p>Terminei tudo com ele imediatamente, mas ele tornou isso muito mais dif\u00edcil. Tive de aprender a esquecer que o conhecia e deixar de me sentir mal comigo mesma por algo que desconhecia completamente!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-94189\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-depressed-facial-expression-sitting-and-holding-her-phone.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com express\u00e3o facial deprimida, sentada e a segurar o telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-depressed-facial-expression-sitting-and-holding-her-phone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-depressed-facial-expression-sitting-and-holding-her-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/woman-with-depressed-facial-expression-sitting-and-holding-her-phone-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Era uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o que, sinceramente, n\u00e3o conseguia acreditar que estava a viver.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez de sentir pena de mim pr\u00f3pria e de ficar chateada com ele, decidi pelo menos tentar preocupar-me com outras coisas, para n\u00e3o pensar nisso.<\/p>\n<p>I had to tell myself it was NOT my fault, it was something that was done TO me, and that\u2019s a fact. I was fooled, and I would never let myself be so trusting again.<\/p>\n<p>There were times where I would feel so sad and mad, sometimes even tempted to text him. To ask him how he could do that to me (and his wife!). But luckily, I didn\u2019t. He was NOT worth my time.<\/p>\n<p>Quem \u00e9 capaz de enganar algu\u00e9m assim n\u00e3o vale um \u00fanico pensamento!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-94192\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/girl-alone-at-home-sitting-in-living-room-1.jpg\" alt=\"rapariga sozinha em casa, sentada na sala de estar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/girl-alone-at-home-sitting-in-living-room-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/girl-alone-at-home-sitting-in-living-room-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/girl-alone-at-home-sitting-in-living-room-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Por isso, ensinei-me a deixar ir. Nem sequer era saud\u00e1vel pensar nisso. Demorou algum tempo a aceitar toda esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o e a ficar bem comigo pr\u00f3pria, mas consegui ultrapass\u00e1-la e agora estou em paz comigo pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\n<p>Eu sei quem sou e ningu\u00e9m pode mudar isso. \u00c9 importante n\u00e3o deixar que ningu\u00e9m nos fa\u00e7a sentir que somos menos do que somos.<\/p>\n<p>So, for anyone who might be going through a similar thing \u2013 it is NOT your fault and do not let some jerk make you feel less about yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Estava fora do seu controlo e a \u00fanica coisa que pode fazer agora \u00e9 seguir em frente e aprender a confiar novamente.<\/p>\n<p>Sei que parece dif\u00edcil, mas acabar\u00e1 por conhecer algu\u00e9m que a far\u00e1 esquecer tudo isto e lhe devolver\u00e1 a f\u00e9 no amor e nos homens!<\/p>\n<p><em>As coisas boas levam tempo.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-94182 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/How-To-Handle-Finding-Out-Youre-The-Other-Woman-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Como lidar com a descoberta de que \u00e9 a outra mulher\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/How-To-Handle-Finding-Out-Youre-The-Other-Woman-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/How-To-Handle-Finding-Out-Youre-The-Other-Woman-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/How-To-Handle-Finding-Out-Youre-The-Other-Woman-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/How-To-Handle-Finding-Out-Youre-The-Other-Woman-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/How-To-Handle-Finding-Out-Youre-The-Other-Woman-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/How-To-Handle-Finding-Out-Youre-The-Other-Woman-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>At first, everything seems idyllic. He seems too good to be true. Things are really looking promising, you spend so much time together, getting to know each other, you even meet his friends! You are on cloud nine. Then one text after midnight bursts your happy bubble and sends you back to earth. Crashing. The&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":94184,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29626],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-24800","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-affair"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29626,"label":"affair"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/How-To-Handle-Finding-Out-Youre-The-Other-Woman.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29626,"name":"affair","slug":"affair","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29626,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","parent":29620,"count":132,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29626,"category_count":132,"category_description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","cat_name":"affair","category_nicename":"affair","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24800","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=24800"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24800\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/94184"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=24800"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=24800"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=24800"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}