Stonewalling is not the same as the silent treatment, but they go hand in hand. Where there is one, there is the other. The silent treatment is usually very common in every person\u2019s life.<\/p>\n
You\u2019ve seen it in your family, and you\u2019ve had it with your friends. Usually, it\u2019s not that destructive, and people use it when they are angry about something.<\/p>\n
But giving the silent treatment doesn\u2019t last forever, and in the end, the person who is angry gives in and decides to talk the problem through. Which brings us to the term \u201cstonewalling\u2019.<\/p>\n
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<\/h2>\nIt\u2019s the same as the silent treatment, but if it\u2019s used by a toxic person, then it\u2019s called stonewalling.<\/p>\n
A pequena, mas ao mesmo tempo enorme, diferen\u00e7a \u00e9 que a pessoa que o est\u00e1 a bloquear est\u00e1 a dar-lhe o tratamento de sil\u00eancio de prop\u00f3sito.<\/p>\n
They are doing it just to hurt and manipulate you. They are not ignoring you because they are angry, and you\u2019ve hurt their feelings. Stonewalling is just another method narcissists use to destroy their victims.<\/p>\n
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When you need to talk about something, a narcissist won\u2019t shut you down and ignore you completely, but they will avoid giving you the answer to your question.<\/p>\n
Eles v\u00e3o mexer com a sua cabe\u00e7a, dando respostas vagas e invalidantes.<\/p>\n
This is terribly dangerous for any relationship. Even if it\u2019s not toxic, after some time, it will definitely grow toxic.<\/p>\n
Quando um dos parceiros n\u00e3o est\u00e1 interessado em conversar, o outro parceiro, que faz as perguntas, fica frustrado e exige as respostas.<\/p>\n
Ora, os narcisistas fazem isto de prop\u00f3sito, porque o resultado final desta situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 uma ansiedade e uma depress\u00e3o crescentes que se apresentam na mente do parceiro que precisa de respostas mas n\u00e3o as est\u00e1 a obter.<\/p>\n
That partner has the feeling that they are being played and manipulated, but they can\u2019t do anything about it.<\/p>\n
Nesse sentido, os narcisistas s\u00e3o brilhantes. Conseguem fazer qualquer pessoa de parva.<\/p>\n
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Let\u2019s say that you\u2019re sentir-se negligenciado pelo seu parceiro<\/a>. Por isso, naturalmente, quer falar com ele sobre o assunto. Quer confront\u00e1-lo e tentar descobrir qual \u00e9 o problema.<\/p>\n But all you\u2019re getting in return is dead silence followed by the statement that you\u2019re making a big deal out of it.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll convince you that you\u2019re making a big fuss out of nothing. His tactic is to gaslight you and make you believe in lies which work in his favor.<\/p>\n This upsets you, and you foolishly fall into his trap and try to explain yourself, but he doesn\u2019t want to hear it, so he rejects you.<\/p>\n You feel sad and upset at the same time because you were tricked into thinking that you did something wrong, but you didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n Usually, he leaves the house at this point on purpose to add some guilt to the guilt you\u2019re already feeling.<\/p>\n Mas o sen\u00e3o da sua t\u00e1tica de lavagem cerebral \u00e9 o comportamento que apresenta no dia seguinte. Ele age como se nada tivesse acontecido.<\/p>\n He acts like you\u2019re the happiest couple alive. If you bring up the subject again, he coldly answers that you have problems which you need to deal with yourself.<\/p>\n O que \u00e9 que aconteceu aqui?<\/em><\/p>\n Ele bloqueou-te. Interrompeu a conversa antes mesmo de ela ter tido lugar.<\/p>\n Ele ignorou os seus sentimentos e redireccionou a conversa para a dire\u00e7\u00e3o que lhe convinha.<\/p>\n Com as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es, ele f\u00ea-la sentir-se tensa e traumatizada. Numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o normal, isto poderia ter acabado de uma forma completamente diferente. Podiam ter resolvido o problema se ele aceitasse falar sobre o assunto.<\/p>\n Ignorar um narcisista<\/a> is a very hard thing to do. Their manipulative tactics don\u2019t leave you any choice but to react to their provocations.<\/p>\n That is actually their main goal\u2014to get a reaction out of you, preferably a negative one, so they can feed their egos and feel good about themselves.<\/p>\n A obstru\u00e7\u00e3o e o tratamento de sil\u00eancio s\u00e3o os seus m\u00e9todos de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o favoritos quando querem castig\u00e1-lo por alguma raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\n You haven\u2019t been acting the way they wanted you to. Maybe you\u2019ve come to your senses and sobered up for a moment.<\/p>\n That scared them. They get scared that if you realize you deserve so much better, you\u2019ll leave them, thus endangering the source of their narcissistic supply. You won\u2019t give them what they need to keep on going.<\/p>\n Por isso, precisam de o castigar e de o destruir emocionalmente para o manter no seu lugar.<\/p>\n Their purpose is to diminish you and regain their control over you. They want to know what you\u2019re doing and why.<\/p>\n They want to make you invisible. They want you to feel insignificant, as if it doesn\u2019t make any difference if you live or die. <\/b><\/p>\n They are playing with your mind to get your confidence very low, so you\u2019re easily controlled.<\/b><\/p>\n What happens next is that you don\u2019t want to be invisible. You\u2019re fighting it, so you come back to them and ask for their approval and attention.<\/p>\n You ask to be visible once again. That was their plan all along\u2014to destroy you by stonewalling and make you beg him to notice you once again. That\u2019s when you\u2019re easily controlled, and that\u2019s when he has restored his peace.<\/p>\n Quando \u00e9 que os narcisistas usam a obstru\u00e7\u00e3o e o tratamento de sil\u00eancio?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n If you\u2019ve ever wondered como acabar com um narcisista<\/a>, just follow their lead, see what they do, and you\u2019ll be perfectly fine.<\/p>\n After a breakup, it is extremely hard to go \u2018no contact\u2019 with the person you\u2019ve been with.<\/p>\n Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade se estiveram juntos durante muito tempo ou se foram casados e t\u00eam filhos.<\/p>\n A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que cortar algu\u00e9m da nossa vida n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma coisa f\u00e1cil de fazer.<\/p>\n Mas quando se trata de narcisistas e das suas v\u00edtimas, cortar o contacto \u00e9 extremamente dif\u00edcil para as v\u00edtimas.<\/p>\n They have been dependent on the narcissists for so long that they don\u2019t know how to live their lives without the narcissists in it.<\/p>\n So, they want to go back to something that\u2019s known to them. This is when the narcissist makes his move and shuts you down.<\/p>\n Ignoram-no a si e \u00e0s suas chamadas completamente, fazendo-o desejar a sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Normalmente, o narcisista regressa como um her\u00f3i, provando que a sua vers\u00e3o da hist\u00f3ria esteve sempre correcta, colocando-o numa posi\u00e7\u00e3o ingrata. Agora ele pode control\u00e1-lo ainda mais do que antes.<\/p>\n Quando uma reserva narc\u00edsica se esgota, os narcisistas sentem-se amea\u00e7ados. Sentem-se vulner\u00e1veis e t\u00eam medo que algu\u00e9m os magoe.<\/p>\n When we\u2019re talking about empathy for others, they have none, but for themselves they have plenty.<\/p>\n Quando sentem uma ferida narc\u00edsica, fazem-lhe o tratamento do sil\u00eancio para o magoar por lhes ter cortado o fornecimento.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have no idea what is going on. You\u2019ll ask him dozens of questions, and you\u2019ll get short, vague answers which still won\u2019t give a real answer to your question.<\/p>\n This leads you to think it\u2019s your fault and that you did something wrong.<\/p>\n Your insecurities will kick in, and if you show any kind of reaction to his stonewalling, you\u2019re done.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll pin you to the corner and release his anger. He\u2019ll guilt trip you and basically make you feel like you\u2019re small and insignificant.<\/p>\n Ele quer que tu te desmorones emocionalmente e que dependas apenas dele.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll give you the silent treatment and leave the house. Then, you\u2019ll try to call, and he won\u2019t answer, and in the eyes of other people, you are the bad guy.<\/p>\n You\u2019re the controlling bitch that won\u2019t leave him alone. You\u2019re the one who calls him nonstop and yells about \u2018unimportant\u2019 stuff.<\/p>\n Quando algo te acontece, quando mais precisas do seu apoio, ele ser\u00e1 frio como o gelo.<\/p>\n Um narcisista ignora-o<\/a> and shut you out of his life completely. You\u2019re going through hell and you need someone by your side, but he pulls away.<\/p>\n If you try to talk to him about it, he pulls away even further. He is even more distant from you than ever. He won\u2019t stay quiet for long.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll break and blame you for neglecting him. He\u2019ll attack you for being depressed about something and not being able to see how he feels. He will put himself first.<\/p>\n And the truth is, he is hurt, but not because you\u2019re sad\u2014because you\u2019re not providing him with the narcissistic supply he needs. You\u2019re not giving him enough attention.<\/p>\n Por isso, precisam de uma rea\u00e7\u00e3o da sua parte e impedem-no de o fazer para obterem uma nova fonte de narcisismo.<\/p>\n Relacionadas: 18 sinais de alerta de um namorado controlador<\/a><\/p>\n Est\u00e1 cientificamente provado que os danos emocionais podem provocar dores f\u00edsicas reais.<\/p>\n After the constant emotional neglect and trauma a narcissist\u2019s victim goes through, they begin to feel sick. Their emotional injuries have manifested into physical ones.<\/p>\n Stonewalling can happen even in normal relationships, but when it\u2019s chronic, when it lasts a long time, only then it can damage you.<\/p>\n O tratamento silencioso nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es normais pode mesmo resultar numa mudan\u00e7a para melhor numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Quando os parceiros precisam de uma pausa um do outro, submetem-se a um tratamento de sil\u00eancio, mas, passado algum tempo, conversam e resolvem os seus problemas.<\/p>\n Mas a obstru\u00e7\u00e3o nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas \u00e9 usada apenas como uma forma de prolongar o abuso e provocar uma dor emocional intensa.<\/em><\/p>\n It\u2019s not your fault! Don\u2019t feel guilty; don\u2019t choose your words carefully because you\u2019re scared you\u2019re going to say something that\u2019ll trigger him.<\/p>\n Stop walking on eggshells around your toxic partner. Stop trying to help him because it\u2019s all a trap.<\/p>\n He\u2019s luring you in to give him enough narcissistic supply. He\u2019s sucking you dry by provoking reactions, and he will never change.<\/p>\n More importantly, he doesn’t want to change. His communication with you is stuck on a toxic level because he wants it that way.<\/p>\n Ele quer que reajas. Quer que se sinta emocionalmente esgotado. As suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o cuidadosamente concebidas para o diminuir, para fazer sente-se in\u00fatil.<\/a><\/p>\n Instead of trying hard to make him notice you (which is exactly what he wants), reconsider if the relationship you\u2019re in is really worth saving.<\/p>\n Quantas vezes \u00e9 que isto j\u00e1 lhe aconteceu? Quantas vezes \u00e9 que ele te bloqueou da vida dele e te enganou para voltares a rastejar, implorando pela sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/em><\/p>\n Acontece vezes sem conta, sempre que ele quer.<\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso aproveitar o tempo de sil\u00eancio e us\u00e1-lo para se curar. Pensa apenas em ti e no que precisas.<\/p>\n Concentre-se em tornar-se melhor e n\u00e3o em faz\u00ea-lo feliz. A \u00fanica forma de o fazer \u00e9 desligar-se verdadeiramente de um narcisista.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t decide when to do it, but you\u2019ll know when the time is right.<\/p>\n That will be the hardest decision you\u2019ve ever made in your life. Going n\u00e3o ter contacto com um narcisista<\/a> ser\u00e1 um processo excruciantemente doloroso e longo.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll want to go back. You\u2019ll feel that you need him. After that much emotional abuse, neglect, confusion and a feeling of being worthless, it takes guts to find the courage and strength to pick yourself up and preserve your common sense.<\/p>\nPor que \u00e9 que os narcisistas usam a obstru\u00e7\u00e3o e o tratamento de sil\u00eancio?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. Depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. Todos os dias<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Quando mais precisas dele<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nConsequ\u00eancias psicol\u00f3gicas do Stonewalling e do Tratamento Silencioso<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nO que fazer se for v\u00edtima de uma obstru\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nComo \u00e9 que se pode curar?<\/h2>\n
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