{"id":2537,"date":"2017-07-14T11:09:04","date_gmt":"2017-07-14T11:09:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2537"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:40:17","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:40:17","slug":"porque-e-que-e-tao-dificil-para-mim-deixa-lo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-e-tao-dificil-para-mim-deixa-lo\/","title":{"rendered":"Porque \u00e9 que \u00e9 t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil para mim deix\u00e1-lo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Deixar algu\u00e9m vem sempre acompanhado de uma montanha russa de emo\u00e7\u00f5es. Estive numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o longa e percebi que estava na altura de seguir em frente, mas dar esse \u00faltimo passo foi uma experi\u00eancia dolorosa.<\/p>\n<p>I was asking myself: \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/hard-leave-one-love\/\">Como \u00e9 que posso deixar algu\u00e9m que amo?<\/a> How can I escape from all those emotions that are constantly following me? Is there a secret formula to get over a breakup?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A lot of people would like to know an answer to this question but in the end, there isn&#8217;t any clever solution. For me, the only solution was to listen to my heart. I wasn&#8217;t satisfied in the relationship and I decided it was better to move on. The worst thing I could do to myself was stay in a toxic relationship. I wouldn&#8217;t love my partner and he wouldn&#8217;t love me.<\/p>\n<p>So, what&#8217;s the point? Is it so hard to say goodbye and try to find your own way?<\/p>\n<p>I was asking myself the same question a year ago. When things weren&#8217;t the same anymore. When <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/reality-check-5-signs-falling-love\/\">ele deixou de se preocupar comigo.<\/a> E depois apercebi-me de que, mesmo que seja dif\u00edcil come\u00e7ar de novo, acabar\u00e1 por compensar. Provavelmente, todos tiveram algumas experi\u00eancias agridoces na vossa vida e tomar a decis\u00e3o certa no momento certo pode salvar-vos das l\u00e1grimas.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/9-things-breakup-pick-move\/\">9 coisas que deves fazer depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o para te recompores e seguires em frente<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Provavelmente ficar\u00e1s destro\u00e7ado e o teu mundo desmoronar-se-\u00e1, tal como o meu. Passar\u00e1s dias no teu quarto a pensar em todos os momentos engra\u00e7ados que voc\u00eas tiveram. Vais pensar que ele te est\u00e1 a ligar sempre que ouvires o teu telefone a tocar. E, sinceramente, isso \u00e9 uma treta! \u00c9 engra\u00e7ado como ficamos viciados em certas pessoas na nossa vida. Eu sei que eu fiquei.<\/p>\n<p>Passar todos os dias com eles n\u00e3o \u00e9 apenas algo que fazemos, torna-se o nosso estilo de vida e, minha querida, \u00e9 muito dif\u00edcil livrarmo-nos de velhos h\u00e1bitos. Mas, se olharmos por outro \u00e2ngulo, veremos que \u00e9 melhor fazer algo tarde do que nunca.<\/p>\n<p>Pessoas <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/4-razoes-pelas-quais-as-mulheres-mantem-maus-relacionamentos\/\">passar muito tempo em m\u00e1s rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a> and it is not because they want to\u2014it is because they don&#8217;t have guts to say the game is over. For them, it is easier to go with the flow. Why be with someone you feel like a piece of shit with? There are millions of other opportunities for you and yet you are stuck in the middle and can&#8217;t get out.<\/p>\n<p>Well, do something about it. Be energetic about your life. Do things that make you happy. If you know how to please yourself, you will know how to please others as well. Only a fulfilled person is a happy person. Please don&#8217;t forget that.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2539 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher a olhar por cima do ombro\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247-180x120.jpg 180w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/stefan-stefancik-120247-262x175.jpg 262w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Era mau quando era solteira, mas depois lembrei-me que \u00e0s vezes <a href=\"http:\/\/elitedaily.com\/life\/culture\/spending-time-alone-better-wasting-wrong-company\/820483\/\" rel=\"noopener\">\u00e9 melhor estar sozinho do que em m\u00e1 companhia<\/a>. I knew my heart will tell me who the right person is for me. Maybe I was waiting a little bit longer but I wasn&#8217;t worried that I won&#8217;t get what I want. I had to wait because I deserved better!<\/p>\n<p>So, if you ever feel that you are not YOU anymore, try to talk with your partner. Go over the problems you have. Talk and listen! Don&#8217;t be selfish and don&#8217;t think about your feelings only. Try to figure out who is guilty in this relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Who lost interest? Why isn&#8217;t there your old spark that was moving things forward? While talking, you will figure out whether the two of you want the same things.<\/p>\n<p>Se sim, isso \u00e9 \u00f3timo e se n\u00e3o, n\u00e3o \u00e9 o fim do mundo. Nunca chorar sobre o leite derramado!<br \/>\nThe bottom line is that you don&#8217;t need to change yourself because of your partner. Make a change in your life when you feel the right moment for that. And never let anyone convince you of the opposite! That&#8217;s what I did.<\/p>\n<p>I was honest to myself and to my partner and accepted the fact that we weren&#8217;t meant to have our story in this time and place. Just remember that destiny will never close one door until another one gets opened!<br \/>\n(It&#8217;s not so bitchy after all!)<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Leaving someone always comes with a roller coaster of emotions. I had been in a long relationship and I had realized it was time to move on, but doing that last step was a painful experience. I was asking myself: \u201cHow can I leave someone I love? How can I escape from all those emotions&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":2538,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2537","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/love-2381378_1920.jpg",800,470,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2537","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2537"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2537\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2538"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2537"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2537"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2537"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}