{"id":25635,"date":"2018-10-12T11:40:28","date_gmt":"2018-10-12T11:40:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=25635"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:06:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:06:30","slug":"5-coisas-cruciais-que-aprendi-com-uma-relacao-destrutiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-coisas-cruciais-que-aprendi-com-uma-relacao-destrutiva\/","title":{"rendered":"5 coisas cruciais que aprendi com uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o destrutiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Roughly a year ago, I was a completely different person. I wasn\u2019t aware of it at the time but I didn\u2019t know how to love myself. I never knew my worth. I was so used to not being good enough and yelled at for every little thing I did wrong (according to You), that I believed it to be normal. I didn\u2019t know what it meant to be loved or appreciated, and it was all because of You.<\/p>\n

You made me feel like I should be thankful for the pathetic fragments of the so-called \u2018\u2019love\u2019 I was receiving from You.<\/p>\n

Hoje, sou uma nova pessoa.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am finally brave enough to stand up for myself and to not be ashamed of wanting something better. It took me a long time but now I know what I deserve and I am smart enough to not let You treat me like I\u2019m a commodity who is only deserving of love and attention at Your convenience. Here are all the ways Your shitty self made me stronger and greater:<\/p>\n

1. Finalmente sei o meu valor<\/h2>\n

During our relationship, I was always self-conscious about voicing my opinion, or God forbid, not agreeing with You on something. That was not allowed. Well now, after enduring so many years of suppressed emotions, I can happily say I don\u2019t give a crap about what You think I deserve. Eu sou MUITO mais<\/span><\/a> do que o Teu rabo de merda me fez sentir. Eu sou mais do que Tu alguma vez saber\u00e1s e, agora que sei isso, nunca me deixarei maltratar por ningu\u00e9m, seja de que forma for. Por isso, obrigado.<\/p>\n

2. Aprendi que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 problema em dizer n\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

Fui sempre obrigada a concordar com tudo o que decidias e nunca me foi permitido ter uma opini\u00e3o. Sempre fizeste parecer que estavas a fazer tudo para meu bem e que eu n\u00e3o era capaz de tomar uma decis\u00e3o sobre qualquer coisa que nos dissesse respeito ou mesmo sobre mim.<\/p>\n

Esses dias acabaram.<\/b><\/p>\n

When I freed myself of You, I realized how much I was being denied and how much more in control I can and SHOULD be of my life. After all, it is MY life, and who are You to tell me what I can or cannot do? Luckily, I am done with that, and today, I enjoy saying, \u2018\u2019No,\u2019\u2019 immensely. Whenever and to whomever.<\/p>\n

3. I don’t need to justify myself to anyone<\/h2>\n

Se eu quiser sair com as minhas amigas e dan\u00e7ar a noite toda (sem ter de falar com o meu parceiro de 30 em 30 minutos!), \u00e9 exatamente isso que vou fazer! Ningu\u00e9m \u00e9 dono de mim ou do meu corpo, e eu vou divertir-me sem me sentir culpada por isso! Mere\u00e7o divertir-me e n\u00e3o preciso de o justificar a ningu\u00e9m. N\u00e3o mais!<\/p>\n

4. Eu mere\u00e7o todo o amor do mundo<\/h2>\n

Sim, Tu ouviste-me. A natureza possessiva da Tua vis\u00e3o doentia e distorcida do amor h\u00e1 muito que desapareceu e foi esquecida e, gra\u00e7as a Deus, finalmente percebi como era doentio e insalubre estar contigo. Estava t\u00e3o agradecida quando me davas aten\u00e7\u00e3o que me esqueci do que era amar e ser amada. O tipo de amor puro, genu\u00edno e altru\u00edsta, com defeitos e tudo. Fico doente por me ter deixado pensar que n\u00e3o o merecia. Estou grata por ter aprendido a abrir os olhos e a fechar a porta (de uma vez por todas) aos Teus modos manipuladores.<\/p>\n

5. Eu escolho com quem passo a minha vida<\/h2>\n

S\u00f3 porque manipulaste o teu caminho at\u00e9 ao meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e disfar\u00e7aste as tuas verdadeiras inten\u00e7\u00f5es at\u00e9 o conquistares, n\u00e3o significa que eu deva a minha felicidade a ti. A pessoa por quem me apaixonei n\u00e3o \u00e9 a pessoa que acabaste por ser. \u00c9 nojento como me enganaste para pensar que te amava e me fizeste sentir como se fosses a minha \u00fanica op\u00e7\u00e3o. NUNCA FOSTE e agora que finalmente sei isso, estou farta de ti. Eu mere\u00e7o encontrar algu\u00e9m que me aprecie e me ame pelo que sou, mesmo que isso signifique estar sozinha entretanto.<\/p>\n

See, I\u2019ve finally realized something. I would much rather spend the following years of my life alone (read: single) than to spend a minute more with a <\/b>mestre manipulador<\/b><\/a> como o V\u00f3s.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am no longer the naive, self-conscious young girl You once knew. You\u2019d be surprised to see how much I\u2019ve learned since finding the courage to leave You. I have never felt more alive and I cannot wait to see what life has planned for me. One thing is for sure… YOU made me who I am today, and for that, I thank You.
\nEspero que tenhas tudo o que mereces e muito mais.<\/p>\n

Xoxo,
\nAquele que fugiu<\/p>\n

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