{"id":26041,"date":"2019-10-17T07:18:04","date_gmt":"2019-10-17T07:18:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=26041"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:50:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:50:49","slug":"17-coisas-que-senti-depois-de-um-narcisista-me-ter-quebrado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/17-coisas-que-senti-depois-de-um-narcisista-me-ter-quebrado\/","title":{"rendered":"17 coisas que senti depois que um narcisista me quebrou"},"content":{"rendered":"

1. Medo.<\/b> Estava a temer pela minha vida. Onde quer que eu fosse, estava paranoico que ele me estivesse a seguir.<\/p>\n

Espreitei pelas janelas e escondi-me atr\u00e1s das \u00e1rvores. Tinha muito medo que ele voltasse.<\/p>\n

2. Like I\u2019m never going to be the same again. A minha dor emocional transformou-se numa dor real.<\/b> O meu peito do\u00eda-me; o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o saltava de ritmo.<\/p>\n

It physically hurt me. I couldn\u2019t get up a flight of stairs. I ran out of breath. His abuse made me physically ill.<\/p>\n

3. A minha autoestima foi esmagada.<\/b> It didn\u2019t exist. I was so insecure, I was afraid of everything, and I listened to everyone except myself.<\/p>\n

I resented myself for letting him break me. I couldn\u2019t trust myself for a long time.<\/p>\n

4. Perdi a minha dignidade, e Perdi-me<\/b>.<\/span> Precisava de encontrar o caminho para voltar a viver a vida que outrora conheci, mas o caminho era pouco claro.<\/p>\n

I saw it in the distance, but no matter how hard I tried, I couldn\u2019t get to it.<\/p>\n

5. Tive pesadelos<\/b> que parecia uma realidade cruel e dura. Eu acordava a meio da noite a gritar o seu nome e a implorar-lhe que parasse.<\/p>\n

I was crying in my sleep because of the things he had done to me. My dreams became the projection of the fear that I lived with\u2014him coming back.<\/p>\n

6. I was vulnerable. Everything upset me. I couldn\u2019t hold in my tears for the slightest thing that happened. At that time, parecia insuport\u00e1vel<\/b>.<\/p>\n

It seemed like it would never go away because my heart and my soul couldn\u2019t bear more problems, more pain. I was like a delicate flower left to the mercy of a cold winter wind\u2014just one blow could tear me apart.<\/p>\n

7. Every person I met was a potential threat. Not only that I couldn\u2019t trust myself, I couldn\u2019t trust others either<\/b>. I scared away some good people from my life because I wasn\u2019t ready to let anyone into my life.<\/p>\n

Life seemed too hard and too shitty then, and every person I met was a part of it. That\u2019s how I looked at it.<\/p>\n

8. Tentei esconder a dor e o desprezo, a raiva e a c\u00f3lera que cresciam cada vez mais todos os dias. Tentei agir normalmente.<\/p>\n

Tentei ser feliz. E assim foi, Pus um sorriso falso<\/b>mas os meus olhos contaram-vos a verdadeira hist\u00f3ria. Os meus olhos guardavam a verdade.<\/p>\n

9. I didn\u2019t know what happiness felt like.<\/b> H\u00e1 muito tempo que n\u00e3o me ria com sinceridade. H\u00e1 muito tempo que n\u00e3o era verdadeiramente eu pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

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10. Tornei-me cauteloso.<\/b> I couldn\u2019t let anyone get close to me and beat me to the ground. He broke me and brought me to the rock bottom.<\/p>\n

He put me in complete darkness, and now that I\u2019d finally seen the light, just a hint of hope, I wouldn\u2019t let anyone compromise it. I built walls no one was able to tear down.<\/p>\n

11. I couldn\u2019t get out of bed. I didn\u2019t want to. I felt safe there, away from everyone. Bloqueei as pessoas que me amam<\/b>e a ansiedade tornou-se a minha melhor amiga.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1vamos sempre juntos. Era apenas mais um passo em dire\u00e7\u00e3o a um estado emocionalmente avassalador. A ansiedade fez-me prisioneiro dela<\/span><\/a> durante muito tempo.<\/p>\n

12. People who loved me stayed anyway. They didn\u2019t turn their backs on me. I\u2019ve discarded them because I wanted to be alone.<\/p>\n

Eles sabiam que eu precisava de algum tempo,<\/b> and they never left. They knew I couldn\u2019t just get over it that easily. They bore with me; they gave me time.<\/p>\n

13. Senti-me julgado.<\/b> Sentia as pessoas a olharem para mim por cima do ombro e a comentarem em sil\u00eancio a minha vida.<\/p>\n

I felt guilty for needing time to heal as if I was doing something wrong. I got sick of people who hadn\u2019t got the slightest idea of who I am meddling with my life.<\/p>\n

14. I needed someone to tell me that it\u2019s all over. Precisava de ser tranquilizado<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Precisava que algu\u00e9m me dissesse que nada de mau vai acontecer. Precisava de saber que, a partir de agora, vou estar em seguran\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

15. Pedi desculpa por tudo e por nada.<\/b> I felt that everything that happened around me was my fault, so I immediately said \u2018sorry\u2019, even when I didn\u2019t have to.<\/p>\n

Habituei-me a assumir a culpa para evitar os maus tratos emocionais, para baixar a parada e acalm\u00e1-lo. A culpa era sempre minha, porque se dissesse algo diferente, acabaria por pagar. A culpa era sempre minha, porque se dissesse algo diferente disso, acabaria por pagar.<\/p>\n

16. I felt like I needed someone who\u2019ll cumprir as suas promessas<\/b> para uma mudan\u00e7a. Estava farta de mentiras e desilus\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

If someone were to lie to me, then I\u2019d rather have them gone.<\/p>\n

17. I\u2019m going to need time to sentir o amor novamente<\/b>.<\/span> I don\u2019t know when it\u2019s going to happen.<\/p>\n

Talvez amanh\u00e3, talvez daqui a um dia, talvez um ano.<\/p>\n

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1. Fear. I was scared for my life. Wherever I went, I was paranoid he was following me. I peeked through windows, and I hid behind the trees. I was dead scared of him coming back again. 2. Like I\u2019m never going to be the same again. My emotional pain turned into a real one….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":26042,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26041","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/bryaan-films-497849-unsplash.jpg",800,541,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":232,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":232,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26041","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26041"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26041\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/26042"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26041"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26041"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26041"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}