{"id":26433,"date":"2018-10-22T08:31:46","date_gmt":"2018-10-22T08:31:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=26433"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:54:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:54:47","slug":"3-principais-estilos-de-vinculacao-e-como-afectam-a-sua-relacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/3-principais-estilos-de-vinculacao-e-como-afectam-a-sua-relacao\/","title":{"rendered":"3 principais \"estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o\" e como eles afectam a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

J\u00e1 alguma vez sentiu que est\u00e1 sempre a repetir ou a reviver o mesmo cen\u00e1rio no que diz respeito \u00e0 sua vida amorosa? Aquela que vai por \u00e1gua abaixo. Aquela em que tem os mesmos padr\u00f5es de comportamento. A principal causa disso pode ser o seu estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Attachment style is something we develop in our early childhood and it affects our further adult life immensely. It\u2019s caused by the relationship we have with our parents or caregivers.<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que \u00e9 importante para si e para a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o conhecer o seu estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o? <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Identificar o seu estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ajuda-o a determinar se \u00e9 verdadeiramente compat\u00edvel com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, o seu estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o determina a forma como escolhe o seu parceiro e a forma como a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o evolui.<\/p>\n

The bad thing is that you can\u2019t know your partner’s attachment style until you are in a relationship with them.<\/p>\n

For instance, a lot of toxic manipulators will be charming at the beginning of the relationship and you won\u2019t discover their true nature until it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n

Para podermos compreender melhor este conceito, vamos analisar os tr\u00eas principais estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o e os efeitos que t\u00eam na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

1. Fixa\u00e7\u00e3o segura<\/h2>\n

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Comportamento relacional:<\/b><\/p>\n

People who belong to this attachment style are able to fully trust their partner. They don\u2019t show any sinais de ci\u00fame<\/span><\/a> ou possessividade em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao parceiro.<\/p>\n

They and their partner are sure of each other and in their relationship. They don\u2019t have to text or call when they are out with friends. They have their own, which is a great thing.<\/p>\n

But what\u2019s even better is that they also have the life they share together, things to do alone and mutual friends to hang out with.<\/p>\n

Their relationship is healthy. It\u2019s not suffocating in any way. They love in such a way that makes them feel free but nevertheless strongly bonded.<\/p>\n

Influ\u00eancia da inf\u00e2ncia:<\/b><\/p>\n

Cresceram num ambiente seguro e carinhoso. Os pais ou as pessoas que cuidam deles ensinaram-lhes que estariam sempre presentes sempre que voltassem para eles.<\/p>\n

Subconscientemente, aplicam este comportamento \u00e0 sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o. N\u00e3o importa quanto tempo passem a fazer algo sem o seu parceiro, podem sempre contar com o seu regresso.<\/p>\n

2. Liga\u00e7\u00e3o ansiosa<\/h2>\n

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Comportamento relacional:<\/b><\/p>\n

Este estilo \u00e9 caracterizado por pessoas cheias de inseguran\u00e7as e falta de confian\u00e7a, primeiro em si pr\u00f3prias e depois na rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Querer\u00e3o passar todo o tempo no seu apartamento e, sempre que o parceiro n\u00e3o estiver com eles, ser\u00e3o dominados pelo sentimento de ci\u00fame. S\u00e3o possessivos e controladores.<\/p>\n

They fear that they will lose their loved one if they are out of sight, that\u2019s why they don\u2019t leave them be. They are on their case at every given moment.<\/p>\n

They text and they call when you are hanging out with someone else. They don\u2019t really understand why you need other people besides them in your life.<\/p>\n

Nos piores casos, este estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o pode resultar em comportamentos t\u00f3xicos e abusivos e pode tornar-se muito perigoso para a sua sa\u00fade mental e f\u00edsica.<\/p>\n

Influ\u00eancia da inf\u00e2ncia:<\/b><\/p>\n

As pessoas que est\u00e3o ligadas a este estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o tiveram uma inf\u00e2ncia um pouco dif\u00edcil. Nunca conseguiu obter o que precisava dos seus pais ou cuidadores.<\/p>\n

They didn\u2019t feel safe or heard. They lacked attention and most probably affection. They are scared that their romantic relationship won\u2019t give them what they need either.<\/p>\n

3. Liga\u00e7\u00e3o evitante<\/h2>\n

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Comportamento relacional:<\/b><\/p>\n

Como o nome indica, as pessoas que t\u00eam este estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitam as rela\u00e7\u00f5es. Evitam aproximar-se demasiado de algu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

Even if they enter into a relationship, it took a lot from them to surpass their fears and take a leap of faith. But usually, due to their deeply rooted trust issues, those relationships don\u2019t last long.<\/p>\n

They enter a relationship believing or fearing that it will fail and it usually happens that way. It\u2019s like a self-fulfilling prophecy. They attract what they believe in.<\/p>\n

So in a way, they are sabotaging their own relationships. They are not sure of themselves and deep down they just think they are not good enough. That\u2019s why they are often pegajoso<\/a> ou necessitados.<\/p>\n

Influ\u00eancia da inf\u00e2ncia:<\/b><\/p>\n

Por alguma raz\u00e3o, as pessoas deste estilo estavam de facto desligadas dos seus pais ou cuidadores. Pode ser tanto f\u00edsica como emocionalmente.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t have to be that their parents abandoned them exactly\u2014they might have spent a lot of time in a hospital or somewhere where they couldn\u2019t see their parents as much as they needed.<\/p>\n

They might have been living in the same house but had parents who were workaholics or even addicts and didn\u2019t pay enough attention to them.<\/p>\n

O que fazer? <\/b><\/p>\n

Just because your attachment style is anxious or avoidant, that doesn\u2019t mean it cannot be helped. You can still be in a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship even though it\u2019s not going to be easy.<\/p>\n

A melhor coisa a fazer \u00e9 procurar aconselhamento profissional, confiar no processo e ser paciente. Quanto mais extrema for a liga\u00e7\u00e3o, mais tempo ser\u00e1 necess\u00e1rio para sarar.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s really hard to do anything on your own but the sole fact that you know your attachment style is taking you one step closer to solving your issues.<\/p>\n

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