{"id":26493,"date":"2020-04-23T08:17:32","date_gmt":"2020-04-23T08:17:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=26493"},"modified":"2022-02-14T23:40:13","modified_gmt":"2022-02-14T23:40:13","slug":"uma-carta-de-uma-rapariga-forte-para-o-seu-pai-merdoso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-de-uma-rapariga-forte-para-o-seu-pai-merdoso\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta de uma rapariga forte para o seu pai merdoso"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b><i>Ol\u00e1, tu,<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>This time, I won\u2019t call you Dad. I won\u2019t call you Father either.<\/p>\n<p>Not because I don\u2019t want to but because you don\u2019t deserve it. You don\u2019t deserve that a girl who looked up to you and admired you got her heart broken by you.<\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t even try to tell you what your mistakes were but I will just let all this pain out of me. The pain that was inside of me for a long time needs to come out.<\/p>\n<p>Because if it doesn\u2019t come out, I swear I will explode.<\/p>\n<p>Preciso de me livrar desta m\u00e1goa que tenho guardado durante tantos anos, na esperan\u00e7a de que as coisas mudem. Preciso de compreender finalmente que nunca foste o pai que eu merecia.<\/p>\n<p>You shouldn\u2019t be called that because a father figure is so important to his child\u2019s life but you weren\u2019t there for me in any situation.<\/p>\n<p>You only got rid of me when I needed you the most. You gave up on me because fixing me and helping me was too long a process and you didn\u2019t want to waste your time on me.<\/p>\n<p>While I am writing these lines, I can\u2019t believe that a father could think that he would be wasting his time if he helped his daughter. But that is what I got from you. I never felt loved by you.<\/p>\n<p>Nunca pude ver a felicidade nos teus olhos quando estavas comigo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-81549\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/father-talking-to-sad-daughter.jpg\" alt=\"pai a falar com uma filha triste\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/father-talking-to-sad-daughter.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/father-talking-to-sad-daughter-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/father-talking-to-sad-daughter-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Todas as conversas que tivemos foram muito inc\u00f3modas para ambos.<\/p>\n<p>It was bad for you because you didn\u2019t want to spend time with me and for me, it was bad because I saw in your eyes that you didn\u2019t want me too close and all I wanted was to see you walking through the door.<\/p>\n<p>I learned to live on my own while I was still pretty young and deep down I knew that things wouldn\u2019t change for the better.<\/p>\n<p>I would be lying if I said that I didn\u2019t hope that you would become the father of my dreams but frankly speaking, those dreams only helped me to get through some days.<\/p>\n<p>You know, for so long, I blamed myself for the lack of your love. I thought that I was a girl who didn\u2019t accomplish anything and that you were ashamed of me.<\/p>\n<p>I thought that all the things I did weren\u2019t good enough for you and that I needed to work harder. For so long, I thought I was the guilty one.<\/p>\n<p>E sabes qual foi a pior parte?<\/p>\n<p>You watched me break down so many times and you didn\u2019t even try to comfort me. You didn\u2019t even try to tell me a white lie that would make me feel better.<\/p>\n<p>You weren\u2019t man enough to hold your hands up to the things you did. You hid like a coward behind your mistakes, thinking they were your biggest accomplishments.<\/p>\n<p>Falhaste redondamente no teu papel mais importante, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/family\/carta-pai-ausente\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> a de um pai <\/a>. And that is something you can\u2019t change now.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-81553\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-father-yelling-at-daughter.jpg\" alt=\"pai zangado a gritar com a filha \" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-father-yelling-at-daughter.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-father-yelling-at-daughter-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-father-yelling-at-daughter-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When I realized that I didn\u2019t have a dad I could count on, I learned to stand up for myself.<\/p>\n<p>E enquanto todas as outras raparigas falavam orgulhosamente dos seus pais, eu ficava calada enquanto as l\u00e1grimas me corriam pelas faces. Estava t\u00e3o zangada contigo por n\u00e3o estares l\u00e1 para mim.<\/p>\n<p>And that hasn\u2019t changed. I still think you are a piece of a shit who couldn\u2019t be there for the only person who truly needed you.<\/p>\n<p>I still think that you don\u2019t deserve anyone to call you Dad or to act nicely toward you.<\/p>\n<p>I think that you got this role by accident and that it simply doesn\u2019t belong to you. Because only a coward leaves his daughter unprotected.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3 um cobarde desiste da sua pr\u00f3pria carne e sangue. S\u00f3 um cobarde destr\u00f3i a vida de pessoas inocentes s\u00f3 para se sentir melhor.<\/p>\n<p>And that is what you did to me. Because of you, I learned that I shouldn\u2019t bring guys into my life so easily.<\/p>\n<p>Because of the horror I went through with you, I learned that a guy won\u2019t make me feel better and only I can do it for myself.<\/p>\n<p>I learned that I can\u2019t trust strangers and that I shouldn\u2019t give chances so easily.<\/p>\n<p>Aprendi a cuidar de mim pr\u00f3pria sem a ajuda das pessoas \u00e0 minha volta. Aprendi a ser independente e forte e a nunca desistir dos meus sonhos.<\/p>\n<p>De uma rapariga pequena e assustada, transformei-me numa fera que escondia as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es debaixo do tapete.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-81556\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-the-rainy-window.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste a olhar atrav\u00e9s de uma janela chuvosa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-the-rainy-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-the-rainy-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-looking-through-the-rainy-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Because of you, I built walls around me so high that even the bravest people couldn\u2019t reach me. And in trying to shut down my emotions to prevent people from hurting me, I lost all of them.<\/p>\n<p>Tornei-me uma pessoa sem emo\u00e7\u00f5es, incapaz de sorrir com todas as pequenas coisas que antes me faziam rir tanto.<\/p>\n<p>Atrav\u00e9s desta vida contigo. Aprendi que s\u00f3 posso contar comigo e que ningu\u00e9m vai resolver os meus problemas e s\u00f3 eu o posso fazer por mim.<\/p>\n<p>Infelizmente, aprendi a defender-me porque nunca tive um pai que o fizesse em vez de mim.<\/p>\n<p>E por causa de todas as coisas m\u00e1s por que passei na minha vida sem uma figura paterna, tornei-me t\u00e3o forte.<\/p>\n<p>I transformed into a woman who isn\u2019t afraid of anything and who will chase her dreams no matter how long it will take.<\/p>\n<p>Por causa da falta de amor da vossa parte, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/recusar-pedir-desculpa-finalmente-colocar-em-primeiro-lugar\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> Finalmente coloquei-me em primeiro lugar <\/a>dando-me tudo o que eu merecia de ti. Mas, dessa forma, recebi o que mereci durante toda a minha vida.<\/p>\n<p>Now, after so much time spent thinking about you and about our lives, I don\u2019t feel bad anymore.<\/p>\n<p>Sei que tentei fazer com que as coisas funcionassem, mas tamb\u00e9m sei que desististe de mim como se eu n\u00e3o fosse nada.<\/p>\n<p>E por causa disso, agora sou mais forte.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, se alguma vez lerem esta carta, se alguma vez encontrarem tempo para a abrir e lerem o que esteve no meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o durante tanto tempo, quero que prestem aten\u00e7\u00e3o ao que estou a dizer agora:<\/p>\n<p>Mesmo que fosse <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/as-raparigas-mais-fortes-tem-pais-de-merda\/\">um pai de merda<\/a> para mim, consegui transformar-me numa pessoa de que todos os pais se orgulhariam.<\/p>\n<p>E isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 gra\u00e7as a ti, mas gra\u00e7as a mim e \u00e0 minha forte vontade de ser bem sucedido. Ao perder-te e ver-te deixar-me, sem sequer olhar para tr\u00e1s, jurei a mim mesmo que seria bem sucedido e que nunca mais pediria a tua ajuda.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Ao perder-te, encontrei finalmente a pe\u00e7a que faltava no puzzle para ser finalmente feliz. Encontrei-me a mim pr\u00f3prio!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-81562\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Uma carta de uma rapariga forte para o seu pai merdoso\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hey You, This time, I won\u2019t call you Dad. I won\u2019t call you Father either. Not because I don\u2019t want to but because you don\u2019t deserve it. You don\u2019t deserve that a girl who looked up to you and admired you got her heart broken by you. I won\u2019t even try to tell you what&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":81561,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26493","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-From-A-Strong-Girl-To-Her-Shitty-Father.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. 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