{"id":27052,"date":"2020-03-01T11:46:20","date_gmt":"2020-03-01T11:46:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=27052"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:30:36","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:30:36","slug":"sou-emocionalmente-abusivo-10-sinais-de-que-e-o-parceiro-abusivo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sou-emocionalmente-abusivo-10-sinais-de-que-e-o-parceiro-abusivo\/","title":{"rendered":"Sou emocionalmente abusivo? 10 sinais de que voc\u00ea \u00e9 o parceiro abusivo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Embora muitas pessoas pensem que os abusos sexuais e f\u00edsicos s\u00e3o as \u00fanicas formas de abuso, a verdade \u00e9 bem diferente.<\/p>\n<p>O abuso tem v\u00e1rias faces e a viol\u00eancia dom\u00e9stica, o abuso emocional e verbal s\u00e3o apenas algumas delas.<\/p>\n<p>H\u00e1 muitas maneiras de o ajudar a perceber que \u00e9 v\u00edtima de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/12-obvious-signs-emotional-abuse\/\">abuso emocional<\/a> but have you ever asked yourself: \u201cAm I the emotionally abusive one?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t act so surprised because turning into an emotional abuser is easier than you might think and it can happen to literally anyone.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 por isso que lhe apresentamos um conjunto de afirma\u00e7\u00f5es e perguntas que pode fazer a si pr\u00f3prio ou marcar como verdadeiras ou falsas para determinar se \u00e9 o parceiro abusivo na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ela faz tudo para te agradar<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85586\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-talking-to-man.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a falar com homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-talking-to-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-talking-to-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-talking-to-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>One of the first signs that you might be emotionally abusive is the fact that lately, you\u2019ve noticed that your romantic partner does everything to please you.<\/p>\n<p>Sei que v\u00eas isto como um sinal do amor dela por ti, mas porque \u00e9 que ela o faz realmente?<\/p>\n<p>Is she scared that you\u2019ll leave her if not everything goes your way? Does she nod her head to everything you say because she is afraid of confronting you or speaking her mind?<\/p>\n<p>Se a resposta for sim, ent\u00e3o ela \u00e9, sem d\u00favida, uma v\u00edtima do seu abuso emocional, mesmo que nenhum de voc\u00eas tenha consci\u00eancia disso.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ela tem problemas de autoestima<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85588\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste a pensar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-thinking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-thinking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/sad-woman-thinking-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A baixa autoestima pode dever-se a numerosos factores que nem sempre est\u00e3o relacionados com a rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica.<\/p>\n<p>And even though I am not telling you to take all the responsibility for your girlfriend\u2019s self-confidence issues, you should definitely wonder if you are the one making it worse.<\/p>\n<p>Elogia-a e incentiva-a a avan\u00e7ar para que ela se sinta melhor consigo pr\u00f3pria? Ou alimenta constantemente as suas inseguran\u00e7as e quebra o seu esp\u00edrito?<\/p>\n<p>Uma das coisas que todos os abusadores emocionais fazem \u00e9 levar a v\u00edtima a pensar que nada do que faz \u00e9 suficiente e faz\u00ea-la <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/o-odio-feito-maravilha-nao-era-suficiente\/\">perguntam-se porque n\u00e3o s\u00e3o suficientes<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>E se isto \u00e9 algo que tamb\u00e9m faz, tudo est\u00e1 claro.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ela queixa-se da vossa vida sexual<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85590\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-complains-to-man.jpg\" alt=\"a mulher queixa-se ao homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-complains-to-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-complains-to-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-complains-to-man-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A sua vida sexual s\u00f3 \u00e9 considerada \u00f3ptima quando ambos os parceiros a desfrutam com a mesma intensidade.<\/p>\n<p>Mas as coisas s\u00e3o diferentes na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Your girlfriend has been accusing you of being too selfish in bed and when you come to think of it, the truth is that you don\u2019t try too hard to please her.<\/p>\n<p>And even though you probably don\u2019t know it, this is also a form of emotional abuse.<\/p>\n<p>O seu parceiro nunca deve sentir-se usado na cama e voc\u00ea n\u00e3o \u00e9 o \u00fanico que se deve divertir.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Evita discuss\u00f5es produtivas<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85592\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-pointing-finger-at-man.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a apontar o dedo a um homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-pointing-finger-at-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-pointing-finger-at-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/woman-pointing-finger-at-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A forma como age quando se trata de discuss\u00f5es diz muito sobre o seu papel na rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Um dos sinais de que se trata de um agressor emocional \u00e9 o facto de evitar completamente as discuss\u00f5es.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez de falar sobre o assunto, a pessoa em quest\u00e3o trata a outra metade com sil\u00eancio ou age de forma passivo-agressiva.<\/p>\n<p>Or maybe you exaggerate while arguing? You don\u2019t aspire to resolve the problem. Instead, you take everything to a personal level.<\/p>\n<p>You just can\u2019t control yourself and when you and your girlfriend argue, you keep insulting and humiliating her.<\/p>\n<p>Qualquer uma destas duas abordagens \u00e9 uma forma de abuso emocional numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Remember\u2014it is the two of you against the problem and not against each other.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You\u2019ve been accused of \u2018gaslighting\u2019<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85593\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-arguing-in-the-living-room-2.jpg\" alt=\"casal a discutir na sala de estar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-arguing-in-the-living-room-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-arguing-in-the-living-room-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-arguing-in-the-living-room-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Has your girlfriend ever accused you of gaslighting her? Or have you been trying on purpose to make her believe some things that aren\u2019t really true?<\/p>\n<p>J\u00e1 alguma vez se apanhou a distorcer a verdade ou a tentar convencer o seu parceiro de que alguns acontecimentos se desenrolaram de forma diferente?<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever tried to assure her that she did or said some things that she actually didn\u2019t?<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve answered positively to all or some of these questions, it is a clear sign of your emotional abuse.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Gosta de estar no controlo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85595\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-drinking-coffee-and-talking.jpg\" alt=\"casal a beber caf\u00e9 e a conversar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-drinking-coffee-and-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-drinking-coffee-and-talking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-drinking-coffee-and-talking-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Todos <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/licoes-aprendidas-relacao-abusiva\/\">rela\u00e7\u00f5es abusivas<\/a> t\u00eam uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de poder distorcida porque o abuso emocional n\u00e3o \u00e9 mais do que uma tentativa de controlar outro ser humano.<\/p>\n<p>When you come to think of it, this is exactly what you\u2019ve been trying to do with your girlfriend.<\/p>\n<p>Tem um desejo oculto de controlar todos os aspectos da vida dela.<\/p>\n<p>Quer mandar na carreira e nas finan\u00e7as dela, nas pessoas com quem ela anda, na forma como se veste e at\u00e9 nas suas atitudes e opini\u00f5es sobre a vida.<\/p>\n<p>Estas s\u00e3o caracter\u00edsticas comuns a todos os agressores, quer estejamos a falar de viol\u00eancia emocional ou f\u00edsica.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Tem dificuldade em pedir desculpa<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85596\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-sitting-on-the-couch-in-fight.jpg\" alt=\"casal sentado no sof\u00e1 a discutir\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-sitting-on-the-couch-in-fight.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-sitting-on-the-couch-in-fight-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-sitting-on-the-couch-in-fight-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Another thing common to most abusers is that they don\u2019t have the ability to apologize.<\/p>\n<p>Even when an abuser knows that he did something wrong, he\u2019ll never state that he is indeed sorry for his words or actions.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you are an emotional abuser, you\u2019ll constantly put your partner in a position where she needs to apologize and feel sorry for literally everything.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Evita a responsabilidade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85600\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/serious-man-listening-to-woman.jpg\" alt=\"homem s\u00e9rio a ouvir a mulher\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/serious-man-listening-to-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/serious-man-listening-to-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/serious-man-listening-to-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A incapacidade de pedir desculpa anda quase sempre de m\u00e3os dadas com a fuga \u00e0 responsabilidade.<\/p>\n<p>Um dos sinais do seu comportamento abusivo \u00e9 o facto de nunca se considerar culpado por nada do que acontece na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Mesmo quando admite que o seu comportamento foi uma rea\u00e7\u00e3o exagerada, justifica-se dizendo que foi provocado e que o que fez ou disse foi apenas uma rea\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Acusa-a de ser demasiado sens\u00edvel<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85602\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/man-arguing-with-sad-woman.jpg\" alt=\"homem a discutir com uma mulher triste\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/man-arguing-with-sad-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/man-arguing-with-sad-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/man-arguing-with-sad-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sempre que a maltrata ou a insulta, ou sempre que usa uma das suas t\u00e1cticas para a deitar abaixo, a sua namorada pensa nisso como o fim do mundo.<\/p>\n<p>She starts crying and she wants you to know how much pain you\u2019ve caused her.<\/p>\n<p>Tudo isto faz-nos pensar que ela est\u00e1 apenas a ser um beb\u00e9 chor\u00e3o excessivamente dram\u00e1tico. Mas a verdade \u00e9 bem diferente.<\/p>\n<p>A verdade \u00e9 que ela est\u00e1 apenas a reagir ao facto de voc\u00ea estar a abusar dela mental, emocional e psicologicamente.<\/p>\n<p>She is not being too sensitive\u2013you are being too aggressive.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Comporta-se de forma diferente em p\u00fablico<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85604\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/friends-having-lunch-together.jpg\" alt=\"amigos a almo\u00e7ar juntos\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/friends-having-lunch-together.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/friends-having-lunch-together-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/friends-having-lunch-together-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>As pessoas \u00e0 sua volta t\u00eam normalmente uma imagem completamente diferente dos abusadores.<\/p>\n<p>Pensam neles como namorados, maridos e pais carinhosos e atenciosos.<\/p>\n<p>E isto porque a maioria dos abusadores finge ser algo que n\u00e3o \u00e9 quando est\u00e1 em p\u00fablico e trata o seu parceiro rom\u00e2ntico de forma completamente diferente quando est\u00e1 sozinho.<\/p>\n<p>Have you ever caught yourself being completely different in public to how you are behind closed doors? If you have, it\u2019s time to rethink your behavior.<\/p>\n<p>Remember, if you don\u2019t consider your behavior to be abusive, then you won\u2019t change it in front of other people because there is nothing you should be ashamed of.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85607\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Am-I-Emotionally-Abusive-10-Signs-You-Are-The-Abusive-Partner-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Sou emocionalmente abusivo 10 sinais de que \u00e9 o parceiro abusivo\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Am-I-Emotionally-Abusive-10-Signs-You-Are-The-Abusive-Partner-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Am-I-Emotionally-Abusive-10-Signs-You-Are-The-Abusive-Partner-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Am-I-Emotionally-Abusive-10-Signs-You-Are-The-Abusive-Partner-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Am-I-Emotionally-Abusive-10-Signs-You-Are-The-Abusive-Partner-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Even though many people think of sexual and physical abuse as the only forms of abuse, the truth is quite different. Abuse has numerous faces and domestic violence, emotional and verbal abuse are just some of them. There are many ways to help you realize that you are the victim of emotional abuse but have&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":85606,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-27052","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/Am-I-Emotionally-Abusive-10-Signs-You-Are-The-Abusive-Partner.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27052","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=27052"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/27052\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/85606"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=27052"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=27052"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=27052"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}