{"id":27431,"date":"2018-11-08T08:21:57","date_gmt":"2018-11-08T08:21:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=27431"},"modified":"2022-02-28T11:03:06","modified_gmt":"2022-02-28T11:03:06","slug":"pensava-que-a-nossa-separacao-tinha-sido-ma-mas-o-rescaldo-foi-excruciante","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/pensava-que-a-nossa-separacao-tinha-sido-ma-mas-o-rescaldo-foi-excruciante\/","title":{"rendered":"Pensava que a nossa separa\u00e7\u00e3o tinha sido m\u00e1 - mas o rescaldo foi excruciante"},"content":{"rendered":"

For months, I knew I had to break up with you. We had our issues and things became much too difficult on a regular basis that loving you just didn\u2019t feel enough anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

I went through an array of excuses as to why we should keep going and I held onto my profound love for you for as long as I could bear. But all this made me tired. I started feeling like life was leaking out of my body and the thing that was once as easy as breathing had become the most draining thing in my life…<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know how we got there… but I knew I was done compromising my sanity.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, acabei com ele. Com um <\/span>cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/span><\/a> and tears streaming down my swollen face from spending the night crying myself to sleep, knowing what the next day would bring. Sadness, sorrow and not knowing how to go on by myself. I was unhappy with you\u2026 but being without you made my gut churn and my mind go crazy.<\/span><\/p>\n

I thought the break-up in itself could not be anymore devastating but I was so wrong\u2026 everything that came after was like an emotional roller coaster I just couldn\u2019t get out of. And I wanted to, so badly\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

I realized that there is no such thing as an easy way out. Even though I was the one leaving you\u2026 there was still so much pain attached. The fact that I was breaking it off with you in no way signified the end of my love! No. The love is still there\u2026 I don\u2019t see it leaving that quickly… but when you realize that love alone isn\u2019t enough to hold a relationship together, that is when you have to make this devastating decision.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

The feeling of emptiness never left my side. There was a palpable void in my life. I had to find new ways to fill those gaps I suddenly had in my day. Instead of seeing you after work and spending the night curled up together, watching movies and cuddling\u2026 I had to find something new to preoccupy me<\/span>. S\u00f3 de pensar no que tinha perdido, apetecia-me solu\u00e7ar incontrolavelmente.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

A coisa de que me apercebi que sentia mais falta eram todas aquelas coisas que pareciam t\u00e3o pequenas e sem import\u00e2ncia na altura, e que facilmente <\/span>dado por adquirido<\/span><\/a>. Lying in bed and talking about our days, feeling safe and protected. Having our morning coffee together, you reading your favorite sports sections and getting annoyed when the Knicks didn\u2019t get it done and me scrolling through my Instagram, looking at all the cute outfits I wanted to buy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now I have no one to laugh at for getting overly dramatic over a basketball game that has no significance on your life whatsoever. But what I wouldn\u2019t give to experience that one more time and laugh at your dramatic reactions, after which I would <\/span>beijar-vos<\/span><\/a> e dizer, a brincar, que a \u00fanica coisa pela qual podias ser t\u00e3o apaixonado era por mim!<\/span><\/p>\n

Tenho imensas saudades tuas.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Comecei a ficar zangado comigo mesmo por te ter deixado partir. <\/span>Ser\u00e1 que fiz a coisa certa? <\/i><\/b>Or did I mess up my life even more by leaving? I really wasn\u2019t sure anymore. There were times I was so desperate to get in touch with you that I had to fight with my common sense on a daily basis. My mind was telling me I did the right thing but my heart was yearning for your closeness! It was unbearable and I felt like I was the only one to blame.<\/span><\/p>\n

Depois de alguns meses excruciantes em que n\u00e3o conseguia lidar com a perda da minha coisa favorita no mundo, comecei a dizer a mim pr\u00f3pria todas as raz\u00f5es pelas quais tinha de ser feito. Sempre que come\u00e7ava a sentir a tua falta, ordenava-me a pensar em pelo menos 3 coisas v\u00e1lidas raz\u00f5es pelas quais me fui embora<\/a>. Com o tempo, comecei a acreditar em mim e aprendi a lidar um pouco melhor com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Foi sem d\u00favida uma das coisas mais dif\u00edceis que alguma vez tive de ultrapassar e, embora ainda esteja a aprender a aceit\u00e1-la totalmente, tamb\u00e9m estou a aprender que, por vezes, temos de ouvir o nosso bom senso em vez de seguirmos cegamente o nosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Sure, the love was divine\u2026 but when you sense that it no longer can sustain a healthy relationship all by itself, you start realizing that maybe, <\/span>talvez<\/span><\/i>H\u00e1 algo melhor para si l\u00e1 fora.<\/span><\/p>\n

And then, you do the unthinkable. You break it off\u2026 you endure those painfully hard few months ahead and when the feelings are finally less intense, you start seeing the possibility of a fabulous life without him. It finally seems feasible and you are never letting yourself go back to anything that made you that unhappy ever again.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

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