{"id":28311,"date":"2020-03-23T10:08:02","date_gmt":"2020-03-23T10:08:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=28311"},"modified":"2022-01-05T15:19:01","modified_gmt":"2022-01-05T15:19:01","slug":"uma-carta-de-despedida-para-o-homem-que-nao-quero-deixar-ir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-de-despedida-para-o-homem-que-nao-quero-deixar-ir\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta de despedida para o homem que n\u00e3o quero deixar ir"},"content":{"rendered":"

Durante toda a minha vida, fui uma rapariga forte e corajosa, mas quando se trata de amor, perco totalmente o meu poder.<\/p>\n

Transformo-me numa rapariga que s\u00f3 quer rastejar para um buraco e deixar que outra pessoa fa\u00e7a o trabalho duro por ela.<\/p>\n

And I am not doing that because I am a coward but because I can\u2019t stand watching people while I am telling them things they don\u2019t want to hear.<\/p>\n

And that is why I am doing this right now. That is the reason I am writing this letter. I can\u2019t look you in the eye and tell you that I am leaving.<\/p>\n

Sei que ficarias desiludido, destro\u00e7ado e que te desmoronarias. Sei que me implorarias para ficar contigo, dizendo-me que mudarias.<\/p>\n

Sei que me vais voltar a dizer as mesmas velhas mentiras e o pior \u00e9 que eu vou acreditar em ti e aceitar-te de novo.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I am writing this break-up letter far away from you. I want to calm my thoughts and to think straight.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to hurt you, especially after so many things that we went through together. But I don\u2019t want you in my life anymore.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t stand putting you first while you never do that for me.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t stand fighting for your attention while you easily give it to the first girl you meet.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t convince you that you should sometimes listen to what I have to say because, hey, I know what is best for you.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want you to decide instead of me. I don\u2019t want you to think that I would be incapable of doing big things without you.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want you to tell me what I should and shouldn\u2019t do. I am big enough to know what can benefit me and what is not so good for me.<\/p>\n

And that is what you did throughout the whole relationship. You didn\u2019t behave like we are equals. You didn\u2019t behave like I was an adult.<\/p>\n

Sempre tiveste uma estranha vontade de ser o dominador, aquele que decide e que tem a decis\u00e3o final.<\/p>\n

E sabes que mais?<\/p>\n

I am sick and tired of that! I don\u2019t want to be with someone who doesn\u2019t even think I am worthy.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want a man who will mold me into someone he would like to fall in love with.<\/p>\n

I want you to fall in love with the real me. I want you to accept the real me and not ever having it cross your mind to change anything about me\u2014not even a single bit.<\/p>\n

Estarei a pedir demasiado? Estarei a pedir o imposs\u00edvel?<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think so, especially after everything I did for you. I\u2019m not asking too much because if it was real love, you would have known my wishes by just looking at me.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Mas nunca foste capaz de o fazer.<\/p>\n

Nunca viste para al\u00e9m do meu corpo. Nunca quiseste conhecer-me melhor.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 queria algu\u00e9m que fosse bom para o seu ego, algu\u00e9m que ouvisse os seus desejos e algu\u00e9m com quem se divertisse.<\/p>\n

E eu tornei-me tudo o que tu querias. Perdi-me durante demasiado tempo s\u00f3 para te fazer feliz.<\/p>\n

And I came to the breaking point where I couldn\u2019t even recognize myself anymore.<\/p>\n

I changed so much just so you would like me more that I forgot to love myself. The girl I see in the mirror isn\u2019t that happy and positive girl anymore.<\/p>\n

She is far from happy because she doesn\u2019t listen to her heart. Instead, she listens to someone else who isn\u2019t even good for her.<\/p>\n

Ela ouve o homem que pensa ser o seu felizes para sempre <\/a>. Mas n\u00e3o o \u00e9. E nunca o ser\u00e1.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why this rutura<\/a> A carta \u00e9 t\u00e3o dolorosa para mim. E sei que seria mais doloroso se estivesse a contar-vos tudo isto pessoalmente.<\/p>\n

I know that I wouldn\u2019t be so strong and that you would convince me to go back to you. And that is the last thing I want to do.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Hoje \u00e9 o dia em que te deixo ir, quer queiras quer n\u00e3o. H\u00e1 muito tempo que ou\u00e7o os teus desejos e agora \u00e9 a minha vez.<\/p>\n

Preciso que respeites o meu \u00fanico desejo, aquele que estou a escrever nesta carta. Quero que respeites a minha decis\u00e3o como eu sempre respeitei a tua.<\/p>\n

I want you to finally let me go because this is not love anymore; it is just a bad compromise. And I can\u2019t live like this any longer.<\/p>\n

If you are wondering if there is another man behind this whole story, just know that there isn\u2019t. I am still madly in love with you, but you are ruining me like nobody did before.<\/p>\n

You are hurting me even if I love you, and you don\u2019t want to change.<\/p>\n

Quebras as tuas promessas como se elas n\u00e3o significassem nada para ti e repetes as mesmas coisas vezes sem conta.<\/p>\n

And I am smart enough to see that by doing all that, you don\u2019t really love me.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 gostas da ideia de mim. Adoras ter algu\u00e9m com quem beber o teu caf\u00e9 matinal, algu\u00e9m que te manter\u00e1 quente nas noites frias de inverno e algu\u00e9m com quem te podes exibir.<\/p>\n

Sadly, I was that person but not anymore. So please don\u2019t call me and beg me to give you another chance because I gave you too many of them.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t text me and don\u2019t try to find me.<\/p>\n

Mesmo que eu esteja a acabar contigo, n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma coisa f\u00e1cil de fazer. Passei demasiado tempo contigo para te poder esquecer num prazo t\u00e3o curto.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t reach out. Don\u2019t make it harder for both of us.<\/p>\n

Sab\u00edamos que algo assim aconteceria mais cedo ou mais tarde. E \u00e9 melhor que tenha acontecido agora, porque ainda podemos encontrar o nosso verdadeiro par.<\/p>\n

In the end, I just want you to know that I don\u2019t hate you. I guess heaven sent you into my life for some reason.<\/p>\n

Maybe to make me stronger, to teach me that real love can\u2019t be found on every corner and to show me that sometimes it is better to be alone than in a bad company.<\/p>\n

E \u00e9 isso que vou fazer agora mesmo. Vou ficar sozinha, livre de ti e totalmente concentrada em mim.<\/p>\n

Maybe in losing you, I will find what I have always been seeking \u2013 maybe I will find myself.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Christine is the author of \u2018 Encarando os olhos da ansiedade e da depress\u00e3o <\/a>\u2019 , a book that will change the way you fight anxiety and depression.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>\n

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