{"id":28320,"date":"2020-06-23T13:33:03","date_gmt":"2020-06-23T13:33:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=28320"},"modified":"2022-02-07T10:46:06","modified_gmt":"2022-02-07T10:46:06","slug":"como-ultrapassar-um-narcisista-10-passos-para-o-sucesso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-ultrapassar-um-narcisista-10-passos-para-o-sucesso\/","title":{"rendered":"Como superar um narcisista (10 passos para o sucesso)"},"content":{"rendered":"

A coisa mais dif\u00edcil de ultrapassar quando se acaba com um narcisista \u00e9 voltar ao s\u00edtio onde se estava antes.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s almost impossible to quickly shift your mind and your heart from being abused and dwelling in pain to enjoy breathing the fresh air of freedom.<\/p>\n

There is nothing wrong going on with you if you don\u2019t know how to make the shift.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not crazy for still hanging on to the person who almost destroyed you. You\u2019re not the first nor the last to go through that much pain.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not stupid because you fell for his tricks, and most importantly, it\u2019s not your fault.<\/p>\n

The irresistible urge you have to come back to him every time he treats you like shit or thinking you\u2019re not good enough for anyone else\u2014so it\u2019s better to be with him than alone\u2014is all part of his mind games.<\/p>\n

Era suposto sentires-te assim. Significa que ele cumpriu todos os seus passos como planeado.<\/p>\n

But when you leave, when he goes one step too far\u2014and believe me narcissists will always try and go a bit further to get as much energy from you as possible up to the moment you reach your breaking point…<\/p>\n

Por isso, quando se vai embora, acaba por ficar confusa e perguntar como \u00e9 que tudo aconteceu? Pensavas que a tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o tinha significado; pensavas que ele te amava realmente. <\/b><\/p>\n

You try to find reasons why he changed all of a sudden. Well, it didn\u2019t happen overnight.<\/p>\n

Os narcisistas s\u00e3o pessoas que t\u00eam um dist\u00farbio de personalidade, o que significa que s\u00e3o assim a toda a hora.<\/p>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t change<\/a> their behavior because something triggers their disorder. They\u2019ve been born like that, and they are like that from the moment you meet them. The fact you don\u2019t see it is because they hide it until they\u2019ve got you in their grip.<\/p>\n

Quando nos apercebemos que o nosso parceiro tem um problema, a empatia entra em a\u00e7\u00e3o e sentimos pena dele.<\/p>\n

Quer ajud\u00e1-lo, sendo compreensivo e compassivo. Isso funciona apenas durante um curto per\u00edodo de tempo.<\/em><\/p>\n

Soon enough you\u2019ll see that the abuse is still going on if not even getting worse.<\/p>\n

You keep giving him second chances because you believe he can change. You think it\u2019s not his fault. He just needs to learn to think before he speaks or to control himself.<\/p>\n

So you finally open your eyes, and you decide it\u2019s time to get away. But that is not as easy as it sounds.<\/p>\n

It seems like you\u2019re going around in circles. Whatever you do, you\u2019re not able to break the cycle.<\/p>\n

But healing takes a long time. It\u2019s excruciating and devastating. But every good deed you do for yourself, every act of kindness, takes you one step closer to being okay.<\/b><\/p>\n

Foi isto que me aconteceu. Dei passos de beb\u00e9. Fiz pequenas coisas insignificantes para mim e, passado algum tempo, decidi que gostava desta nova sensa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Decidi que queria ser feliz. Assim, lentamente, deixei de ser infeliz e regressei ao meu antigo estado de felicidade.<\/p>\n

Foi assim que ultrapassei o meu ex narcisista:<\/p>\n

Accept he\u2019s a narcissist<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He suffers from a Narcissistic Personality Disorder which basically means that your whole life with him was one big fat lie because he is a lie. Everything he has ever said to you or done wasn\u2019t at all honest.<\/p>\n

It was all carefully designed to capture you and use you as his narcissistic supply. He isn\u2019t that charming boy you think you know.<\/p>\n

That was all just love-bombing\u2014the enormous amount of love he showers you with before he starts abusing you and finally discarding you.<\/p>\n

Estabelecer limites<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Saia do ambiente que o est\u00e1 a fazer sentir mal.<\/p>\n

Get rid of everything that reminds you of him. But, if it\u2019s impossible to get away from him physically, then try something called the \u201cGrey Rock Method\u201d.<\/p>\n

The idea of the \u201cGrey Rock Method\u201d is making yourself the least appealing to your narcissist as you can.<\/p>\n

You have to be boring as hell\u2014unattractive physically and mentally. If they don\u2019t find you interesting, they won\u2019t feed off of you.<\/p>\n

But the most important boundary you must learn to set is how to say \u2018no\u2019. you have to reject things you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso aprender a defender-se, afastando pessoas e recusando coisas que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o boas para si.<\/p>\n

Ficar mentalmente mais saud\u00e1vel<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Depois de tanto tempo passado com um narcisista, a sua sa\u00fade mental deteriora-se. O seu comportamento pode destruir uma pessoa, especialmente se a pessoa tiver tra\u00e7os de empatia<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Empaths tend to understand destructive people and put themselves in their shoes just to see how they\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

Isto faz com que um emp\u00e1tico tente compreender um narcisista, o que acaba por destruir a pessoa que est\u00e1 apenas a tentar ajudar.<\/p>\n

Tente libertar esses sentimentos t\u00f3xicos do seu sistema. Tente fazer algo relaxante para n\u00e3o pensar nele e nos maus tratos que sofreu durante todo esse tempo.<\/p>\n

A mente \u00e9 uma coisa milagrosa. Cuide dela, seja gentil com ela, e em breve ela voltar\u00e1 ao est\u00e1gio em que nenhum desses pensamentos e sentimentos t\u00f3xicos existia.<\/p>\n

Deixe-se ficar zangado e desiludido durante o tempo que for necess\u00e1rio<\/h2>\n

\"cabelo<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll want to destroy his life. You\u2019ll want to make him suffer and get even for every little thing he did to you.<\/p>\n

But you\u2019ll also be scared which will thankfully prevent you from taking any action.<\/p>\n

If you did, it would backfire on you, and he would attack you with everything he\u2019s got.<\/p>\n

But, it\u2019s better that you don\u2019t do anything. Leave the self-destruction up to them. It\u2019s what they do best anyway.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to get closure<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o vale a pena tentar faz\u00ea-los compreender o que sente.<\/p>\n

Eles n\u00e3o s\u00e3o capazes de compreender esse tipo de emo\u00e7\u00f5es. T\u00eam a maturidade emocional de uma crian\u00e7a de cinco anos.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t even bother. You\u2019ll end up getting even more annoyed, and for some reason, he\u2019ll probably see your need for closure as a cry to get back together.<\/p>\n

Perdoar a si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Learn the truth, and accept it. You\u2019ve been lied to. You\u2019ve been manipulated and tricked.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not your fault for any of the things a narcissist did to you. So don\u2019t blame yourself for going to hell and back.<\/p>\n

Perdoa-te a ti pr\u00f3prio porque uma coisa destas pode acontecer a qualquer pessoa.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve fallen into a narcissistic trap, and he used every one of your positive traits as a weapon of destruction against you. It\u2019s not your fault.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o estabelecer contacto<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 f\u00e1cil livrar-se dos narcisistas. \u00c9 poss\u00edvel bloque\u00e1-los nas redes sociais.<\/p>\n

You can try to avoid them, but you won\u2019t succeed on the first try because they will keep bombarding you with their abuso narc\u00edsico<\/a> t\u00e9cnicas.<\/p>\n

They will haunt you by using your common friends. They\u2019ll try to find out information about you via your friends.<\/p>\n

They will spread rumors. Don\u2019t be surprised if you \u201caccidentally\u201d bump into them on the road. All those encounters were planned to happen.<\/p>\n

They will make sure you know every happy detail about their life. They need you to know that they moved on the second you left. That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to them to keep in contact with you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s their final try to lure you back in by destroying you a bit more, by trying to prove they are the mature ones and you\u2019re acting like a child.<\/p>\n

Nenhum contacto<\/b><\/a> \u00e9 a \u00fanica sa\u00edda.<\/b> You\u2019ll have to at least try to keep it. No matter what anyone says about you, you know that you\u2019re not the crazy ones.<\/p>\n

Esses ainda s\u00e3o restos dos seus jogos mentais, e tu sabes disso.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t answer your phone. Don\u2019t answer your emails, and discard anyone who tries to blame you for narcissistic behavior. At this point, you can only trust yourself.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let the past get to you<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

O passado tentar\u00e1 vir atr\u00e1s de si. Isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 nada mais do que um sinal de que you\u2019re not over him yet<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It means that you\u2019re halfway there, but not quite there yet. Just keep on doing what you\u2019re doing because you\u2019re doing a good job.<\/p>\n

D\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio um sentido de objetivo na vida e concentre-se em tornar os seus sonhos realidade.<\/p>\n

Concentre-se no seu futuro e n\u00e3o no seu passado. Pensar no futuro e estabelecer objectivos para si pr\u00f3prio ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 definitivamente a ultrapassar o passado mais cedo.<\/p>\n

Seja paciente com os seus amigos<\/h2>\n

\"Dois<\/p>\n

D\u00e1 algum tempo a esses amigos. Eles h\u00e3o-de mudar de ideias.<\/p>\n

Perceber\u00e3o que tamb\u00e9m foram v\u00edtimas de abuso narc\u00edsico<\/a>. The narcissist\u2019s mask will fall sooner or later, and by that time, everyone will know that you aren\u2019t the person that man presented you to be.<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a um favor a si pr\u00f3prio e abandone todas as pessoas que est\u00e3o do lado dele.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s an act of kindness to yourself. You really want to clean your life out of toxic people.<\/p>\n

S\u00ea feliz!<\/h2>\n

\"Rapariga<\/p>\n

You\u2019re finally free! You\u2019re finally able to do whatever you want to do, and meanwhile, that narcissist of yours is repeating the same thing he did with you\u2014only this time he is hiding under a new mask.<\/p>\n

He is ruining someone\u2019s life, but that person will see right through him and get out of that relationship the same way you did. In the end, that person is also going to be happy.<\/p>\n

E ele? Continuar\u00e1 a ser o mesmo peda\u00e7o de merda vazio que tem sido durante toda a sua vida.<\/p>\n

Maria Parker \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m a autora do livro Her Way \u201cOn Getting Over A Narcissist\u201d<\/a><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

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