{"id":28918,"date":"2020-11-27T09:15:15","date_gmt":"2020-11-27T09:15:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=28918"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:04:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:04:10","slug":"15-dificuldades-em-ser-a-pessoa-mais-direta-entre-os-seus-amigos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/15-dificuldades-em-ser-a-pessoa-mais-direta-entre-os-seus-amigos\/","title":{"rendered":"15 dificuldades em ser a pessoa mais direta entre os seus amigos"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ser uma pessoa direta significa que \u00e9 real e que n\u00e3o tem tempo para quem n\u00e3o o \u00e9. N\u00e3o significa que sejas rude, nem que sejas mau.<\/p>\n<p>It just means that you are comfortable enough with yourself to be honest with those around you, hoping they\u2019ll return the favor.<\/p>\n<p>But often it turns out that you have to mince words and watch out not to hurt somebody\u2019s feelings by your sincerity that is in no way meant to insult anyone.<\/p>\n<p><i>There is nothing wrong with being genuine. It only means you don\u2019t have time for games. You say it like it is. You don\u2019t sugarcoat anything, and you <\/i><b><i>nunca<\/i><\/b><i> n\u00e3o significa nada que possa parecer rude.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s the people who choose to see this as something negative, whereas they should be thankful to have a person in their life who will always tell them the truth and not say nice things just for the sake of them feeling good about themselves.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s not friendship if you have to watch what you say at all times, anyway.<\/p>\n<p>You wish people would start appreciating your transparency no matter the situation because it\u2019s not always easy being the only one who has to say things that other people think but are too afraid to say out loud.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, there are people in this world who aren\u2019t aware of the distinction between being blunt and being rude, so here are some struggles that I\u2019m sure all us blunt people can identify with on a daily basis.<\/p>\n<p><strong>1.<\/strong> People ask you for advice on basically anything, even if you know nothing about the topic, because they know you won\u2019t mince words.<\/p>\n<p>But when you give them your honest opinion, they get offended if it\u2019s not to their liking.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2.<\/strong> Small talk bores you! You are so annoyed when you\u2019re in a situation when you have to talk about trivial stuff, like weather, clothes, other people\u2026 it\u2019s not how you like to spend your time.<\/p>\n<p>You prefer talking about important and interesting stuff, something of substance. Gossip and such don\u2019t interest you.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125166\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man.jpg\" alt=\"jovem mulher indiana a falar com um homem\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/young-indian-woman-talking-with-man-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>3.<\/strong> Por vezes, at\u00e9 os seus amigos brincam consigo por causa do seu comportamento direto, insinuando subtilmente que talvez devesse baixar um pouco o tom.<\/p>\n<p>But all you\u2019re being is <b><i>honesto<\/i><\/b>, and it\u2019s so annoying how people can perceive it as anything but. You refuse to be fake, and that\u2019s that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4.<\/strong> When there\u2019s someone new hanging out with you and your crew, you are usually introduced as someone who \u201cdoesn\u2019t bite\u2019\u2019 and honestly, it\u2019s just plain disrespectful.<\/p>\n<p>People get the wrong idea about you from the get-go, and it\u2019s not okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5.<\/strong> Sente-se muito desconfort\u00e1vel ao p\u00e9 de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/the-5-main-differences-between-highly-sensitive-people-and-empaths\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">pessoas muito sens\u00edveis<\/a> porque sentimos que temos de ter muito cuidado com eles.<\/p>\n<p>And you don\u2019t like having to walk on eggshells around anyone. So, it\u2019s just plain awkward.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6.<\/strong> You can\u2019t even count how many times you\u2019ve had to say, \u201cRelax, I\u2019m just joking!\u2019\u2019 to your friends and basically anyone!<\/p>\n<p>Conseguem sempre, de alguma forma, transformar um sentimento inofensivo e honesto da nossa parte em algo pelo qual nos devemos desculpar.<\/p>\n<p>They can get sooo easily offended, and it\u2019s like they don\u2019t know you at all.<\/p>\n<p><strong>7.<\/strong> Since you\u2019re the only one who will always say what you mean without sugarcoating it, you\u2019re often forced to go shopping with your friends\u2014and a lot!<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the only one who won\u2019t be afraid of telling your friend that her new pants look like something a cat threw up.<\/p>\n<p><strong>8.<\/strong> Se um dos seus amigos se embebedou na noite anterior e fez algo embara\u00e7oso ou irritante, ningu\u00e9m dir\u00e1 nada, mas sim olhar\u00e1 para si, insinuando que deve ser voc\u00ea a dizer-lhes que foram uma porcaria e a repreend\u00ea-los.<\/p>\n<p><strong>9.<\/strong> You always get set up with people who they deem \u201cjust as mean\u2019\u2019 no matter how many times you\u2019ve told them how harsh that is and that opposites attract.<\/p>\n<p><strong>10.<\/strong> Agimos de forma diferente com pessoas de quem gostamos e com pessoas de quem n\u00e3o gostamos.<\/p>\n<p>Usually, when you like someone you will be very relaxed, sarcastic and totally open around them, but when you\u2019re in the company of someone you don\u2019t like, you\u2019ll be more reserved, quiet and extra careful not to say something that could potentially offend them.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125165\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone.jpg\" alt=\"mulher louca sentada sozinha\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1067\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mad-woman-sitting-alone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>11.<\/strong> People usually make fun of and joke about how you\u2019re mean, but they don\u2019t seem to understand the idea of honesty.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 sempre necess\u00e1rio <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/4-lutas-que-a-vida-acaba-por-tornar-mais-fortes\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">luta<\/a> with the feeling of constantly being misunderstood and being introduced to people as someone you\u2019re really not.<\/p>\n<p>You just really hope that people can start appreciating you for the genuine person you are because if you stopped being who you are, they wouldn\u2019t have anyone in the friend group who would be able to tell them <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/a-dura-verdade-sobre-estar-apaixonado-pela-pessoa-errada\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">a dura verdade<\/a> quando realmente precisam.<\/p>\n<p><strong>12.<\/strong> You find it so unnecessary and rude when your friends call you out in front of new people when you\u2019re being polite.<\/p>\n<p>Parece que se esquecem de que s\u00f3 \u00e9s brusco com eles e que tentas sempre ser atencioso quando h\u00e1 pessoas novas \u00e0 tua volta.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re never blunt for the sake of being mean! And you really wish people would get that already.<\/p>\n<p><strong>13.<\/strong> Since you\u2019re so honest about everything, people just assume you hate so many things, but that couldn\u2019t be farther from the truth!<\/p>\n<p>You just don\u2019t feel the need to say you like something just for the sake of seeming nice.<\/p>\n<p>When you like something, you\u2019re not afraid to show it, and when you don\u2019t, you make it clear. If people still don\u2019t get that, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n<p><strong>14.<\/strong> One of your biggest problems is when you actually do like something, like your friend\u2019s new dress for her sister\u2019s wedding, or her new car that she just bought.<\/p>\n<p>You have to be overly enthusiastic in order for them not to think that you\u2019re being sarcastic or saying it to make them feel good!<\/p>\n<p>You always have to be careful regardless of how much you actually like something. It\u2019s like a vicious cycle, and it\u2019s sooo tiring.<\/p>\n<p><strong>15.<\/strong> The word \u2018blunt\u2019 has such negative connotations, and you prefer to be called \u2018honest\u2019 instead. Because in all honesty \u2013 that\u2019s exactly what you are!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125162\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/15-Struggles-Of-Being-The-Blunt-Person-Among-Your-Friends-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"15 dificuldades em ser a pessoa mais direta entre os seus amigos\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/15-Struggles-Of-Being-The-Blunt-Person-Among-Your-Friends-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/15-Struggles-Of-Being-The-Blunt-Person-Among-Your-Friends-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/15-Struggles-Of-Being-The-Blunt-Person-Among-Your-Friends-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/15-Struggles-Of-Being-The-Blunt-Person-Among-Your-Friends-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/15-Struggles-Of-Being-The-Blunt-Person-Among-Your-Friends-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Being a blunt person means you\u2019re real, and you don\u2019t have time for anyone who isn\u2019t. It doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re rude, nor does it make you mean. It just means that you are comfortable enough with yourself to be honest with those around you, hoping they\u2019ll return the favor. But often it turns out that&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":125163,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29624],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-28918","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends-and-family"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29624,"label":"friends&amp;family"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/15-Struggles-Of-Being-The-Blunt-Person-Among-Your-Friends-1024x683.jpg",1024,683,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29624,"name":"friends&amp;family","slug":"friends-and-family","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29624,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? 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