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<\/p>\nLiving with a narcissist is painful and exhausting. It\u2019s a situation in which you\u2019ve entangled yourself, and no matter how bad you want out, it\u2019s not that easy to just leave.<\/p>\n
But after you\u2019ve hit rock bottom, after you were robbed of your self-esteem and self-love, you realize you have nothing else to lose. He has taken everything from you.<\/p>\n
Por isso, decide ir-se embora. Decide voltar a tomar a sua vida nas suas pr\u00f3prias m\u00e3os e fazer dela o que quiser. Que bom para ti!<\/p>\n
But the battle doesn\u2019t end there, not for you. <\/i><\/p>\n
This is an exciting time for you. You\u2019ve made a big decision.<\/p>\n
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You\u2019ve made the right decision. But the road ahead of you is full of bumps. You have to be ready to take them.<\/p>\n
\u00c9 preciso estar mental e emocionalmente preparado para o processo de cura que est\u00e1 prestes a acontecer.<\/p>\n
Breakups are awful, but breaking up with a narcissist is especially hard. You\u2019re going to have mixed feelings, and your mood will change rapidly.<\/p>\n
In order to face the changes that are going to happen, it\u2019s better if you know what to expect and what is waiting for you.<\/p>\n
Here are some of the things you\u2019re going to experience after breaking up with a narcissist.<\/p>\n
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Breaking up with a narcissist doesn\u2019t have a happy end. Either he is going to discard you or you\u2019re going to leave him, but he will keep coming back, using all kinds of t\u00e1tica do aspirador <\/a> s para o trazer de volta.<\/p>\n Either way, it\u2019s not going to be pretty.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not going to be okay. Breakups are bad, especially this one.<\/p>\n You know you won\u2019t get any closure ever, and you get nervous because you know he won\u2019t leave you alone.<\/p>\n You know he will disturb you in some way\u2014it doesn\u2019t even have to include contact.<\/p>\n Isto enlouquece-o e obriga-o a viver ansioso, com medo do que vai acontecer a seguir.<\/p>\n O que fazer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Make sure that it\u2019s really over. Try to go no contact with him.<\/p>\n If it doesn\u2019t work, just be as unappealing as you possibly can. Even if he is bothering you, once he realizes that you\u2019re no longer interested, he\u2019ll leave you alone.<\/p>\n Assim que puser as coisas nos seus devidos lugares, a ansiedade tamb\u00e9m vai diminuir. Basta dar algum tempo.<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como fazer um narcisista sentir a sua falta: 9 maneiras secretas<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n You won\u2019t let go that easily. There are a million questions you want to know the answer to.<\/p>\n Queres saber se ele alguma vez te amou de verdade? Preocupou-se contigo, nem que fosse um pouco? Como \u00e9 que ele te p\u00f4de fazer isto? Como p\u00f4de esquecer-te t\u00e3o depressa?<\/p>\n The ghost of your diciest relationship will haunt you because you didn\u2019t get closure and you never will.<\/p>\n You will hang on to the bits of the relationship you have left because you aren\u2019t still at ease with what happened.<\/p>\n O que fazer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to find answers to the questions that are bothering you, but eventually, you\u2019ll let go because you\u2019ll never understand what happened.<\/p>\n You are not a psycho like he is. You can\u2019t understand how his mind works and why he did what he did.<\/p>\n To be able to accept what has happened to you, you\u2019ll try to rationalize his behavior.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to find excuses for the name-calling, for the jogos mentais <\/a> and the abuse you\u2019ve experienced while you were with him.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll try to give yourself a good enough reason why you stayed with him, and that\u2019s why you\u2019re going to make excuses for his behavior\u2014to make that experience a less painful one.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll come to the point when you start missing him, so you\u2019ll start doing the same thing all over again.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll defend him and think that maybe he wasn\u2019t so bad after all. Don\u2019t fall for this. It\u2019s just your reason, trying to make it hurt a bit less.<\/p>\n O que fazer? <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t fall for the tricks your mind plays on you. The truth is, you don\u2019t miss him; you never did.<\/p>\n Foste capturado pelo seu feiti\u00e7o durante tanto tempo que te habituaste ao ambiente t\u00f3xico. Pensaste que era um ambiente normal para se viver.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why you crave it. Ignore those feelings, and just remember all the horrible things he has done to you. If you take him back, he will do it again.<\/p>\n When you are with a narcissist, you\u2019re used to all the drama happening around you.<\/p>\n H\u00e1 sempre qualquer coisa a acontecer e, agora que est\u00e1 finalmente em paz, sente falta de alguma coisa.<\/p>\n It\u2019s a cruel thing to say, but actually, you miss your narcissist. You don\u2019t miss him for the love or the way he treated you.<\/p>\n You miss him because now that he\u2019s gone, there is no more craziness around you.<\/p>\n It\u2019s all too quiet, and after dating a narcissist this may come as a surprise: You\u2019re not used to having things in order.<\/p>\n O que fazer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Encontrar algo para fazer. Encontre um passatempo. Encontre a paix\u00e3o que est\u00e1 a faltar na sua vida.<\/p>\n Start doing anything that makes you happy, even if it\u2019s the most trivial thing. It\u2019s one step further to actually being happy.<\/p>\n What happened to you is not that common. It\u2019s not like a regular breakup.<\/p>\n A lot of people who have just gone through a regular breakup can relate to each other, but there aren\u2019t a lot of people who\u2019ve escaped narcissistic claws, so you don\u2019t have a lot of people to relate to.<\/p>\n That makes you lonely like you\u2019re the only one out there. That makes you ask questions such as: Why me? But, you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n There are so many people around you who\u2019ve been through the same as you and are quiet, the same as you.<\/p>\n O que fazer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Join support groups, and talk about your problem. Don\u2019t keep things to yourself because you\u2019ll crack open.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t keep those emotions inside and deal with them alone.<\/p>\n Fale com os seus amigos ou grupos de apoio, talvez um terapeuta. Seja o que for, escolha algo porque precisa de apoio neste momento.<\/p>\n You were gaslighted in your relationship with a narcissist. You were told you\u2019re crazy; you\u2019re making things up.<\/p>\n Disseram-lhe que exagera e que \u00e9 a causa de todos os problemas, ou mesmo a principal raz\u00e3o pela qual a rela\u00e7\u00e3o se desfez.<\/p>\n Por isso, quando nos encontramos em momentos de solid\u00e3o, isso leva-nos a pensar. Passamos a duvidar de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios. Come\u00e7amos a pensar que talvez o nosso narcisista tivesse raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Maybe you really overreacted to some things. Maybe you should have been more understanding. Maybe it\u2019s your fault you broke up.<\/p>\n O que fazer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Can\u2019t you see? He is still manipulating you in your mind even though you broke up. This is just the result of all the abuse and mind games you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n A mentalidade que ele plantou em ti continua a dar pontap\u00e9s de vez em quando e alimenta-te com os pensamentos rid\u00edculos que andam na tua cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n Agora que finalmente v\u00ea claramente a pessoa terr\u00edvel que ele era, agora que v\u00ea todas as coisas horr\u00edveis que ele lhe fez, sente-se envergonhada por n\u00e3o o ter deixado mais cedo.<\/p>\n You feel like a fool because you didn\u2019t leave a long time ago, but no one who was in your situation left right away.<\/p>\n Todos n\u00f3s pensamos que podemos ajudar algu\u00e9m, que podemos mudar a pessoa porque, no fundo do nosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o, acreditamos que h\u00e1 algo de bom em toda a gente.<\/p>\n Infelizmente, n\u00e3o \u00e9 esse o caso das pessoas que t\u00eam um dist\u00farbio de personalidade. Elas n\u00e3o podem ser curadas.<\/p>\n They cannot be convinced to do anything different than what they\u2019ve imagined.<\/p>\n O que fazer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Just let go. It\u2019s not your fault. His manipulations were designed to completely obliviate you.<\/p>\n O seu objetivo era fazer com que a sua v\u00edtima ficasse o m\u00e1ximo de tempo poss\u00edvel com a impress\u00e3o de que as coisas iam melhorar.<\/p>\n Passado algum tempo, a tristeza e o sofrimento come\u00e7am a desvanecer-se, e tudo se transforma em ressentimento e \u00f3dio. Canalizas a tua dor para o \u00f3dio.<\/p>\n You couldn\u2019t do this while you were in a relationship, so you\u2019re doing it now when you\u2019re finally free to think by yourself and act the way you feel.<\/p>\n O que fazer?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Be angry. Let it all out because you will feel better. After some time, you\u2019ll realize that hatred is not going to get you anywhere, and you\u2019ll calm down.<\/p>\n Mas tem de ter muito cuidado para n\u00e3o te vingares.<\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso saber que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 maneira de vencer um narcisista<\/a>. A \u00fanica maneira de magoar um homem narcisista<\/a> \u00e9 cortar-lhe o abastecimento.<\/p>\n Ignore-o completamente e torne-se indispon\u00edvel.<\/p>\n Just don\u2019t do something stupid in the attempt to hurt him because he will use it against you, and you\u2019ll end up being the hurt one.<\/p>\n Living with a narcissist is painful and exhausting. It\u2019s a situation in which you\u2019ve entangled yourself, and no matter how bad you want out, it\u2019s not that easy to just leave. But after you\u2019ve hit rock bottom, after you were robbed of your self-esteem and self-love, you realize you have nothing else to lose. 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<\/p>\nYou\u2019re defending him<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nYou don\u2019t feel the excitement<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEst\u00e1s s\u00f3<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nTem d\u00favidas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nTem vergonha<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nYou\u2019re angry<\/h2>\n
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