{"id":29370,"date":"2020-09-14T14:26:01","date_gmt":"2020-09-14T14:26:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=29370"},"modified":"2021-12-20T18:12:34","modified_gmt":"2021-12-20T18:12:34","slug":"se-tens-de-te-esforcar-para-estar-com-ele-ele-nao-e-o-homem-certo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/se-tens-de-te-esforcar-para-estar-com-ele-ele-nao-e-o-homem-certo\/","title":{"rendered":"Se tens de te curvar para tr\u00e1s para estar com ele, ele n\u00e3o \u00e9 a pessoa certa"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00c9 t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil ser sempre aquele que est\u00e1 a fazer todo o esfor\u00e7o enquanto o outro lado n\u00e3o faz absolutamente nada.<\/p>\n

You bend over backward for someone, you do the impossible to make things between the two of you work even though you know deep down it\u2019s pointless but you can\u2019t seem to help yourself.<\/p>\n

Gostamos tanto deles que continuamos a tentar na esperan\u00e7a de que eles nos encontrem a meio caminho. Infelizmente, quase nunca o fazem.<\/p>\n

Your emotions shouldn\u2019t exhaust you. <\/b><\/p>\n

Sure, relationships demand investments but they have to go from both sides. They re about give and take and you can\u2019t just keep on giving without getting anything in return.<\/p>\n

Esgotar\u00e1s cada \u00e1tomo da tua for\u00e7a. Sentir\u00e1s falta do calor. Sentir\u00e1s falta de ter algu\u00e9m em quem te apoiar. Sentir\u00e1s falta de tudo o que continuas a dar de forma t\u00e3o desinteressada.<\/p>\n

Vais ter saudades tuas porque, sem dares por isso, estar\u00e1s emocionalmente esgotado <\/a> sem nada para dar, nem a si nem aos outros.<\/p>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t take the role of a martyr in your relationship. True love doesn\u2019t need sacrifices to that extent.<\/p>\n

Deste tanto a ele que n\u00e3o tens mais nada para dar a ti pr\u00f3pria. <\/b><\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t behave like he is entitled to your heart. He shouldn\u2019t expect your call or text when he hasn\u2019t reached out for hours or even days. He shouldn\u2019t rely on you to make plans and go above and beyond so you guys could meet.<\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t take for granted the fact that you are always there for him when he needs you. He shouldn\u2019t come and go from your life and assume that you can flip the switch on your heart.<\/p>\n

You might be used to all of that but that\u2019s not how things should work. <\/b><\/p>\n

You will probably come to a point where everything starts to feel normal even though it\u2019s far from it. You are just used to things being bad that you have made peace with it.<\/p>\n

This is your wake up call. It\u2019s time to stop fighting for someone who isn\u2019t right for you. It\u2019s time to stop being a doormat he walks on.<\/p>\n

Deves ser a luz do seu mundo e n\u00e3o algo que ele possa pisar.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Tens de tomar consci\u00eancia de que mereces mais. Merece o amor que continua a dar. Mereces algu\u00e9m em quem possas confiar.<\/p>\n

Someone you can call or wake up in the middle of the night because you just had a nightmare you can\u2019t snap out of. Someone who makes you laugh and enjoys your smiling face.<\/p>\n

Algu\u00e9m que te respeite. Algu\u00e9m que faz todas aquelas pequenas grandes coisas como enviar mensagens de texto regularmente (em vez de ignorar as suas mensagens<\/a>) e planear os encontros com anteced\u00eancia. Algu\u00e9m que esteja envolvido e investido na rela\u00e7\u00e3o tanto quanto voc\u00ea.<\/p>\n

Everything else is too little. Everything else is just crumbs. Everything else is forcing a relationship that isn\u2019t meant to be.<\/p>\n

The bad shouldn\u2019t outweigh the good. <\/b><\/p>\n

Your emotions shouldn\u2019t jump up and down from happiness to sadness based on his mood of that day. Sure everyone has their bad days but that doesn\u2019t mean you can take it off out another person or treat her like crap.<\/p>\n

O amor \u00e9 gentil e nunca nos deve magoar. Nunca deve fazer-nos sentir pequenos e n\u00e3o apreciados. Nunca deve fazer-te sentir-se sozinho <\/a> .<\/p>\n

True love doesn\u2019t tolerate onesidedness.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

It needs balance. It needs equal investments. It needs to flow from one person to the other. It needs reciprocity. Without it, it can\u2019t survive.<\/p>\n

You know that well. Just peak into your heart and see that it isn\u2019t full anymore. It lacks affection and attention and, more importantly, it lacks self-love.<\/p>\n

If he truly was the one you wouldn\u2019t have to bend over backward to be with him. <\/b><\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t have to work so hard to keep him in your life. You shouldn\u2019t go to all the lengths to make him treat you properly. You shouldn\u2019t read his mixed signals and be the one who always tries and gives more.<\/p>\n

He should be there, too. He should give back all that he is taking. He should be there through thick or thin. He should be in this relationship with you. And that’s the only truth.<\/p>\n

No final do dia, o amor \u00e9 feito para dois. Duas pessoas que gostam muito uma da outra e que fariam tudo para ficarem juntas.<\/p>\n

\"Se<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s so hard to always be the one who\u2019s putting in all the effort while the other side does absolutely nothing. You bend over backward for someone, you do the impossible to make things between the two of you work even though you know deep down it\u2019s pointless but you can\u2019t seem to help yourself….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":117449,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-29370","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/If-You-Have-To-Bend-Over-Backward-To-Be-With-Him-Hes-Not-The-One-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. ","parent":29643,"count":442,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29648,"category_count":442,"category_description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. ","cat_name":"dating tips","category_nicename":"dating-tips","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29370","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=29370"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29370\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/117449"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=29370"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=29370"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=29370"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}