{"id":2962,"date":"2017-07-31T08:29:31","date_gmt":"2017-07-31T08:29:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=2962"},"modified":"2022-01-10T21:39:43","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T21:39:43","slug":"nao-e-obsessao-amorosa-nao-e-saudavel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-e-obsessao-amorosa-nao-e-saudavel\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o \u00e9 amor, \u00e9 obsess\u00e3o (e n\u00e3o \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel)"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve been taught that there is no love without a little drama and we live by this mantra. We continue entering and (even worse) staying in relationships, deceiving ourselves that it\u2019s love<\/a> e que tu deve<\/b> aceitar alguns compromissos para que tudo funcione.<\/p>\n

What nobody told us is that compromises are bullsh*t. You agree on something neither of you really wants or you just go with the flow and decide to obey your partner, thinking that\u2019s something you just tem de<\/b> do because it\u2019s love. But it isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Here are some ways to tell if your relationship is love or if it’s obsession. If it’s obsession or jealousy, you want to get out ASAP. Keep reading to get tuned in.<\/p>\n

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M\u00cdDIAS SOCIAIS<\/b><\/h2>\n

He doesn\u2019t like you posting your selfies on Instagram. He hates when some random people comment on your pictures and if he could, he\u2019d shut down all of your profiles and you\u2019d continue your communication via messages.<\/p>\n

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A FORMA COMO SE VESTE<\/b><\/h2>\n

He has issues with the way you dress. Although you were dressing that way before the two of you got together, all of the sudden he\u2019s bugged with your tight shirt, he doesn\u2019t like the length of your dress, and that makeup is just too much.<\/p>\n

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OS SEUS AMIGOS<\/b><\/h2>\n

They are an issue. Why do you need to spend so much time with them and how come you have so many \u2018boy friends\u2019? It\u2019s not that he doesn\u2019t trust you, but he doesn\u2019t trust them. He\u2019s also a man\u2014he knows how men think and that they only want one thing from a girl\u2014it\u2019s impossible to have boy friends.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong> Isto \u00e9 o que precisas de ser capaz de fazer se quiseres estar no comando da minha vida<\/p>\n

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\u2018YOU\u2019 TIME<\/b><\/h2>\n

He doesn\u2019t understand that you really need some tu <\/i> time and so you\u2019re denied it. You can chill with him, there is no need for you to isolate, don\u2019t you love spending time with him?<\/p>\n

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SER GENTIL<\/b><\/h2>\n

Why do you have to be kind to everybody? Why do you have to greet every person you know and meet on the streets? It\u2019s just not understandable to him why you have to be so nice. He hates you talking to other people in the streets regardless of their gender.<\/p>\n

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\u2018MAY I SEE YOUR PHONE\u2019 SYNDROM<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

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He\u2019s asking to check your phone and he has the audacity to read your messages. Even if you\u2019re not writing with another guy, he\u2019ll read all the messages you have with your friends and go through your gallery to find something suspicious.<\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019M COMING WITH, TOO\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

No matter where you\u2019re going, he\u2019s coming with. He feels invited everywhere and he feels like he gets to be with you while you\u2019re hanging around with your friends or cousins etc.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s all over the place and he\u2019s completely stuck to you\u2014you just can\u2019t get rid of him. Your friends will most likely start avoiding you two because they haven\u2019t signed up to hang with him, too.<\/p>\n

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Your partner\u2019s behavior can\u2019t be justified by \u2018it\u2019s love\u2019 because it isn\u2019t.<\/b> He got clingy and he got into every single pore of your life. You can\u2019t breathe in the air without him wanting to be a part of it. The moment you ask for space you get a drama outburst and you\u2019re being accused that your feelings are cooling off and how you don\u2019t love him anymore. Because if you did, you\u2019d spend every minute of your day with him. <\/i><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 7 grandes sinais vermelhos que nunca deve ignorar no seu parceiro<\/a><\/p>\n

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He has a fixation on you and it won\u2019t lead you anywhere. You\u2019ll forget how to be independent. You\u2019ll forget what you like, and it\u2019ll switch to what \u2018we\u2019 like.  <\/b><\/p>\n

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Jealousy isn\u2019t healthy<\/a>. Obsession isn\u2019t love. <\/b> As pessoas que acabam por se envolver neste tipo de rela\u00e7\u00f5es obsessivas acabam muitas vezes por ficar emocionalmente danificadas. These two qualities may seem to spice up your relationship, but if this is what \u2018heats up\u2019 your relationship, then you\u2019re in a wrong one.<\/b><\/p>\n

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Love isn\u2019t meant to be a struggle. <\/b> You don\u2019t really have to give up on who you are in order to make it work. The right partner will accept you the way you are\u2014he won\u2019t try and tailor you to his design. That\u2019d make you his doll, not his girlfriend. Nasceste humano e n\u00e3o um brinquedo. Lembra-te disso da pr\u00f3xima vez que obedeceres aos desejos dele.  <\/b><\/p>\n

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We\u2019ve been taught that there is no love without a little drama and we live by this mantra. We continue entering and (even worse) staying in relationships, deceiving ourselves that it\u2019s love and that you must accept a few compromises in order to make it work. What nobody told us is that compromises are bullsh*t….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":2963,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2962","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/lesly-b-juarez-230709.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2962","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2962"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2962\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2963"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2962"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2962"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2962"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}