{"id":29844,"date":"2020-03-12T09:39:30","date_gmt":"2020-03-12T09:39:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=29844"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:39:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:39:58","slug":"e-por-isso-que-a-exposicao-ao-abuso-narcisico-causa-frequentemente-ansiedade","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/e-por-isso-que-a-exposicao-ao-abuso-narcisico-causa-frequentemente-ansiedade\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 por isso que a exposi\u00e7\u00e3o ao abuso narcisista causa frequentemente ansiedade"},"content":{"rendered":"

I don\u2019t know about you, but I never thought that someone else was guilty of the fact that I was<\/span> a lutar contra a minha ansiedade. <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

I always thought that the problem was in me and that I was the one with some unsolved issues and that that\u2019s why I am anxious all the time. <\/span><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t even pay attention to the people around me and how I felt because of them. And most of all, I didn\u2019t think what my partner makes me feel like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mas agora que sou mais velha, vejo que a minha ansiedade tem muito a ver com a forma como ele me tratava. Ou melhor, a forma como ele me maltratava.<\/span><\/p>\n

Demorei muito tempo a aceitar que estava a viver com um mestre manipulador, um narcisista disfar\u00e7ado, o homem que me convencia de que era a melhor coisa que me tinha acontecido, enquanto me espancava at\u00e9 \u00e0 morte emocional vezes sem conta. <\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t even realize why he was doing all those things to me when he said he loved me. <\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know why he abused me using all sorts of different tactics and tricks, so I didn\u2019t actually realize what he was doing all the time. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mas, algures no fundo, eu sabia que a minha ansiedade e os meus ataques de p\u00e2nico n\u00e3o eram uma parte normal da vida. Sabia que havia mais do que apenas alguns problemas superficiais no trabalho que me faziam sentir mal. <\/span><\/p>\n

I knew it all, but I didn\u2019t want to accept it. <\/span><\/p>\n

The whole time I was living with him, my anxiety got even worse, and every new day with him was a roller coaster of emotions and fighting to be noticed. And in all that mess, I lost the most important person\u2014I lost myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/i>E foi assim que tudo aconteceu de facto:<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Fiquei ansioso porque<\/b> que ele me estava a enganar. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Every day that I spent with him was some sort of fighting to get noticed. He was a man who did things his way or no way, and I wasn\u2019t strong enough to confront him. <\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, I loved him so much, and I didn\u2019t want to hurt him by expressing my opinion because I knew he wouldn\u2019t go along with it. <\/span><\/p>\n

And in not listening to what I had to say and obeying only his rules, my anxiety attacked me even more since I wasn\u2019t satisfied with my life. <\/span><\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t stand that the man I was doing the impossible for paid attention to someone who didn\u2019t even have to try to ask for it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fiquei ansiosa porque ele me isolou dos meus amigos e da minha fam\u00edlia. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Acho que tudo fazia parte do seu plano perverso. Ele isolou-me deliberadamente de todos os meus amigos e familiares, dizendo-me que ele \u00e9 a \u00fanica pessoa de quem preciso. <\/span><\/p>\n

By trying to satisfy him, I was left without people who were my whole world. But he didn\u2019t see my sacrifice and continued to abuse me mentally. <\/span><\/p>\n

He blamed me for all the bad things that happened to us and when that happened, I didn\u2019t have anyone to call and to ask to be there for me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Assim, fiquei cada vez mais ansiosa todos os dias. Pensava que estava a enlouquecer, enquanto ele me observava calmamente a desmoronar, sem fazer nada. Nessas situa\u00e7\u00f5es, eu via como o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o era pequeno. <\/span><\/p>\n

<\/b>I became anxious because he couldn\u2019t feel empathy towards me. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

No matter how much I tried to explain to him that he was doing me harm with his behavior, he didn\u2019t want to accept it. He would always do things his way, and he never listened to what I had to say. <\/span><\/p>\n

With him, I felt like I wasn\u2019t important and like he thought I am stupid. He never told me that he cherishes me and respects me, and all I felt while I was with him was pain. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mas, de alguma forma, eu pensava que a dor era o que eu tinha de passar para ser feliz. Esse tamb\u00e9m era um dos seus truques. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele nunca quis dizer que era culpado do meu estado mental e que fez de uma mulher completamente saud\u00e1vel uma mulher doente. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fiquei ansiosa porque ele estava a manipular-me e a explorar-me. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

All narcissists have one thing in common\u2014they know how to get what they want with negative tactics but act like they are the positive ones. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s what he did to me. He manipulated me, trying to blame me for the things I didn\u2019t do. He did that so I felt bad in my own skin. He made me completely lose my mind. <\/span><\/p>\n

He made me believe I was the crazy one. With him, I didn\u2019t feel I was worthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sentia que era eu que n\u00e3o era am\u00e1vel. E todas essas emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas acumularam-se dentro de mim. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 de admirar que eu tenha explodido e que me tenha tornado uma pessoa totalmente diferente. <\/span><\/p>\n

The one who overthinks, who isn\u2019t sure about her decisions, the one who thinks she isn\u2019t good enough. I totally lost myself over a man who didn\u2019t give a damn about me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fiquei ansiosa por causa do seu dom\u00ednio e do seu tratamento silencioso. <\/b>
\n<\/span>Ele gostava de usar o tratamento de sil\u00eancio sempre que discordava de mim. Dessa forma, ele fazia-me pensar no que eu fazia. <\/span><\/p>\n

And many times I apologized to him even if I wasn\u2019t guilty of anything. <\/span><\/p>\n

In that way, he was feeding on me. He was sucking me dry, and he didn\u2019t even pay attention to my feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele fazia sempre de mim o principal causador de problemas, enquanto ele pr\u00f3prio se fazia de v\u00edtima. <\/span><\/p>\n

And I didn\u2019t know what I would do in all that mess, so I obeyed his rules. I needed him like the air I was breathing, even if he was making a fool out of me. <\/span><\/p>\n

And no matter how much I wanted to change that, I simply couldn\u2019t. He had enormous power over me, and I felt the best thing was to just give up because I knew he would win in the end. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fiquei ansiosa porque ele fazia-me sentir que eu \u00e9 que era a maluca. <\/b>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Uma coisa que ele fazia repetidamente era fazer-me sentir que eu \u00e9 que era a louca. Enquanto estive com ele, nunca disse a minha opini\u00e3o porque tinha medo da rea\u00e7\u00e3o dele. <\/span><\/p>\n

I literally walked on eggshells trying to make him satisfied. But at that time, I didn\u2019t have any other option because if I confronted him, he would leave me alone with my kids. <\/span><\/p>\n

And I put up with all his shit because of them. I thought it is better they have some kind of father than that they don\u2019t have a father at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mas agora vejo tudo muito claro. Apercebi-me que o devia ter deixado ir h\u00e1 muito tempo. Teria sido melhor assim, tanto para os meus filhos como para mim. <\/span><\/p>\n

If I had done that earlier, I wouldn\u2019t be so anxious and depressed. I wouldn\u2019t be falling apart like I am doing right now. <\/span><\/p>\n

My life would have been so much easier if I hadn\u2019t met him. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 apenas uma parte do tipo de tortura por que passei quando estava a tentar manter o meu companheiro por perto. Agora consigo ver que a minha depress\u00e3o e ansiedade graves aconteceram por causa dele e que a \u00fanica forma de voltar a ficar melhor era mesmo desistir dele. <\/span><\/p>\n

E, gra\u00e7as a Deus, acabei por o fazer. Percebi que a \u00fanica pessoa a quem tenho de agradar sou eu e que ningu\u00e9m merece que eu me sente sozinha \u00e0 noite e me pergunte se sou suficientemente boa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m merecia as minhas l\u00e1grimas e a minha loucura. <\/span>E aquele que vale a pena nunca me faria uma coisa dessas!<\/span><\/p>\n

\"\u00c9<\/p>\n

Christine \u00e9 autora de \u2018<\/span><\/span>Encarando os olhos da ansiedade e da depress\u00e3o<\/span><\/a><\/span>\u2019<\/span>Um livro que ir\u00e1 mudar a forma como combate a ansiedade e a depress\u00e3o.<\/span><\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I don\u2019t know about you, but I never thought that someone else was guilty of the fact that I was struggling with my anxiety. I always thought that the problem was in me and that I was the one with some unsolved issues and that that\u2019s why I am anxious all the time. I didn\u2019t…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":29845,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-29844","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/StockSnap_BG7CZQ5JRN.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":233,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":233,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29844","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=29844"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29844\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/29845"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=29844"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=29844"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=29844"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}