{"id":30223,"date":"2018-12-17T11:31:54","date_gmt":"2018-12-17T11:31:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=30223"},"modified":"2021-11-29T21:41:45","modified_gmt":"2021-11-29T21:41:45","slug":"a-lista-definitiva-de-conselhos-para-homens-no-primeiro-encontro","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-lista-definitiva-de-conselhos-para-homens-no-primeiro-encontro\/","title":{"rendered":"A lista definitiva de conselhos para homens no primeiro encontro"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>So, you\u2019re about to go out with the girl you\u2019re crazy about and you have no idea how to behave or what to talk about on your first date. Or you\u2019ve been on lots of first dates already and somehow you\u2019ve managed to ruin every single one of them.<\/p>\n<p>No worries, it\u2019s not your fault. It\u2019s totally normal to screw things up from time to time because we\u2019re only human, aren\u2019t we? It doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019ve made mistakes before, what does matter is that you are willing to not repeat them anymore.<\/p>\n<p>So, I assume that you want to be sure of making a great first impression and you want to be prepared so that she doesn\u2019t see you confused or that you\u2019re just wasting her time. And you\u2019re absolutely right!<\/p>\n<p>But the first thing that you need to do is relax. You don\u2019t want to appear visibly nervous, fidgeting all the time. If you do this, she will see you as someone who lacks confidence and this is a huge turn-off.<\/p>\n<p>So, first make sure that you\u2019re totally chill about your first date (as much as you can be) and then you can think about other things. Just remember, whatever you do or say, do it with a lot of confidence and she will not even notice if you make a mistake.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s the beauty of being confident. Even if you\u2019re not sure if she will like what you\u2019re doing or saying at that moment, you don\u2019t have to worry if you\u2019re confident about it. Use this as your ace up your sleeve and you\u2019ll be more than ready to rock that first date and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-conquistar-uma-rapariga\/\">arranjar uma namorada<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, preste aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 seguinte lista de conselhos para o primeiro encontro e garanto-lhe que ela nunca questionar\u00e1 a possibilidade de ir a um segundo encontro consigo.<\/p>\n<h2>A lista definitiva de conselhos para homens no primeiro encontro<\/h2>\n<h2>1. Reduzir ao m\u00ednimo os contactos<\/h2>\n<p>Quando se trata do primeiro encontro, lembre-se de que a regra n\u00famero um \u00e9 manter os toques no m\u00ednimo. Sei que quer mostrar-lhe afeto, mas tocar-lhe ou obrig\u00e1-la a beij\u00e1-lo n\u00e3o lhe trar\u00e1 nada de bom.<\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t give her space, she will feel trapped, get scared and you\u2019ll never hear from her again. Your first date will be your last date with her. This doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re not allowed to hold her hand or touch her to show a friendly gesture.<\/p>\n<p>O que deve ser evitado \u00e9 o toque sexual.<\/p>\n<p>Avoid any kind of sexual touch because you don\u2019t want to scare her off. Instead, you want her to feel really special spending time with you and you want her to be relaxed and comfortable in your company.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s nothing worse than acting like a<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/se-o-seu-homem-faz-estas-10-coisas-ele-e-um-verdadeiro-cavalheiro\/\"> verdadeiro cavalheiro<\/a> the whole date and then screwing things up at the end of the night when you start touching her and not letting her breathe. Remember this and you\u2019ll be good.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Don\u2019t be silent<\/h2>\n<p>There\u2019s nothing worse than a guy who has initiated a date in the first place only to remain silent. It\u2019s one thing not to be sure about what to talk about but it\u2019s completely different to refuse to say a word and let her do all the talking.<\/p>\n<p>If you stay silent, she will not think that you\u2019re playing hard to get with her. She will think that you don\u2019t want to open up to her or that you have some emotional issues with yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Also, she will think that you\u2019re not interested in talking to her and she will be confused, wondering why you even invited her in the first place. I\u2019m sure you have some interesting things going on in your life and you should never be scared of talking about them.<\/p>\n<p>O sil\u00eancio \u00e9 o assassino silencioso de um potencial romance, de outro encontro e do afeto dela por si. Por isso, certifique-se de que fala alto e ela ver\u00e1 como \u00e9 confiante e eloquente.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Don\u2019t be cheap<\/h2>\n<p>By being cheap, I mean limiting her choice of food when you\u2019re in a restaurant or somewhere else where you take her on a date. Limiting her money-wise when ordering a dessert or similar is a true act of disrespect toward her and you don\u2019t want to give her a bad impression of yourself.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re not that well-off financially, think of some other activities that may save you some money but not influence the quality of time spent with her. Think forward and plan your date in accordance with your budget to avoid any unnecessary or awkward situations.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Escuta-a<\/h2>\n<p>Please, just listen to her and don\u2019t even try to dominate the conversation because that will cause some irreparable damage. On the first date, you don\u2019t want to appear too quiet or too dominating either.<\/p>\n<p>You need to find a balance, where you are listening to her and asking her questions so that she gets the feeling that you\u2019re as engaged in the conversation as much as she is. Women loved to be listened to and once you realize this, you will be unstoppable (trust me on this one).<\/p>\n<p>Also, when you\u2019re not sure of what to say, it is always better to remain silent than to take risks and make a fool out of yourself. The <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/conselhos-de-namoro-para-homens\/\">melhor conselho<\/a> I can give you is if you need to think twice about something you want to say, don\u2019t say it. Period.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Don\u2019t drink too much<\/h2>\n<p>If there\u2019s one thing that you would want to avoid at all costs is drinking too much alcohol. It\u2019s okay to have a glass or two, or maybe three, but it is completely another thing to not be able to get up from your chair without her help.<\/p>\n<p>I understand that you\u2019re nervous about your first date with her but that is not a valid excuse to knock yourself out with excessive drinking. That way, you\u2019ll appear selfish and less confident (and you don\u2019t want that for sure).<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to make her feel like she needs to fight for your attention.<\/p>\n<p>When you drink too much, you start babbling the most unnecessary things one could talk about and because of that, she may feel alienated. So, please, don\u2019t drink too much and you will appear like someone who knows how to control himself.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s nothing sexier than a man who knows how to control himself because that means he\u2019s in control of his emotions as well and that\u2019s a great thing to have. Be in control of the situation and you will rock your first date like a boss.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Don\u2019t talk about your past relationships<\/h2>\n<p>The golden rule goes like this: Don\u2019t ever, ever talk about your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/5-sinais-de-que-ainda-esta-agarrado-a-uma-relacao-que-precisa-de-deixar-para-tras\/\">rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas<\/a> no vosso primeiro encontro, a n\u00e3o ser que ela te pergunte sobre eles.<\/p>\n<p>Talking about your past relationships is completely unnecessary because you don\u2019t want to bring up the details of your past to someone you barely know yet. It\u2019s rude and it\u2019s disrespectful.<\/p>\n<p>And if you had some issues in your past relationship, you don\u2019t want her to be your counselor because she is not. She\u2019s your date and you have to act like that.<\/p>\n<p>And even if she asks you about your past and you\u2019re not sure of what to say, you can always say that you would rather skip that theme and leave it for some other time and I\u2019m sure she will understand.<\/p>\n<p>Furthermore, if you decide to share with her your past relationships and all of the details, make sure that you\u2019re talking about them in a positive manner. Don\u2019t make a scene out of it because it will ruin your dating atmosphere and your date will turn into a discussion about your past relationships.<\/p>\n<h2>7. Ser um cavalheiro<\/h2>\n<p>If you don\u2019t see yourself as a gentleman, you should start practicing it today. Being a gentleman will bring you enormous benefits regarding dating and once you master it, you will own the whole concept of dating. You will be the king of dating and you will learn the art of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-conquistar-uma-rapariga\/\">arranjar uma namorada<\/a> de certeza.<\/p>\n<p>Agora, o que \u00e9 que significa ser um cavalheiro? Bem, significa abrir-lhe a porta, chegar a horas, ouvi-la, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/6-coisas-surpreendentes-que-fazem-um-homem-perder-o-respeito-por-si\/\">respeitando-a<\/a> and the people around you, making sure that she\u2019s feeling comfortable and protecting her. You see, being a gentleman encompasses many things and not just opening the door.<\/p>\n<p>Today, gentlemen are considered to be an endangered species and if you show her that you\u2019re one of them, she will fall for you within seconds. There is nothing more attractive than a man who knows how to behave and who is confident in his actions.<\/p>\n<h2>8. Don\u2019t curse<\/h2>\n<p>If you\u2019re used to cursing a lot when hanging out with your buddies, you will have some serious issues on your first date (and I\u2019m not even exaggerating). Train yourself a few days before a date to at least reduce the number of F-bombs and other curse words.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re wondering why you should do so, the reason is simple; women don\u2019t feel comfortable around guys who curse (a lot). It makes them feel uneasy and if she\u2019s feeling uneasy, be sure that she will not be relaxed.<\/p>\n<p>And if she\u2019s not relaxed, you can consider your first date a fail. Also, cursing is an indicator of a lack of vocabulary and you certainly don\u2019t want to appear illiterate in front of someone you\u2019re crazy about. Meditate or visit some pages on the Internet regarding how to stop cursing and you\u2019ll be just fine.<\/p>\n<h2>9. Ser humilde<\/h2>\n<p>This one is closely related to being a gentleman but it\u2019s good to look back on the things already said. The whole wisdom about being humble is to stay away from bragging about yourself.<\/p>\n<p>This includes your job, your family, your friends, your achievements and everything else that can be linked to bragging. You don\u2019t want her to get the impression of you being full of yourself and only waiting for an occasion to amaze her with your skills.<\/p>\n<p>Staying humble means being a person with a big heart. It means you\u2019re satisfied with your life and you don\u2019t feel like you need to show it off to others. It is a treat of a real gentleman with a great personality.<\/p>\n<h2>10. Deixar algumas coisas por dizer<\/h2>\n<p>Eu sei que lhe queres contar tudo sobre ti. Queres que ela saiba quantos quil\u00f3metros consegues correr sem parar, queres que ela saiba se \u00e9s bom no teu trabalho, queres que ela saiba o que gostas e o que n\u00e3o gostas.<\/p>\n<p>You even want her to know how many beers you can drink in an hour. And that\u2019s totally normal. You want to amaze her and show her that you\u2019re the right guy for her but, please, don\u2019t do that.<\/p>\n<p>Deixar algumas coisas por dizer \u00e9 sempre a melhor op\u00e7\u00e3o do que sufoc\u00e1-la com excessivas prega\u00e7\u00f5es sobre a sua vida.<\/p>\n<p>After all, if you tell her everything about yourself, you won\u2019t be interesting anymore. You will turn your first date into a real boring one and you don\u2019t want to do that. You want to give her everything bit by bit and make her beg for more.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-30228\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/homemadebirthday-cake-3-200x300.png\" alt=\"A lista definitiva de conselhos para homens no primeiro encontro\" width=\"700\" height=\"1049\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/homemadebirthday-cake-3-200x300.png 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/homemadebirthday-cake-3-683x1024.png 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/homemadebirthday-cake-3.png 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So, you\u2019re about to go out with the girl you\u2019re crazy about and you have no idea how to behave or what to talk about on your first date. Or you\u2019ve been on lots of first dates already and somehow you\u2019ve managed to ruin every single one of them. No worries, it\u2019s not your fault&#8230;.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":39,"featured_media":30227,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29641],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30223","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips-for-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29641,"label":"dating tips for him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/istock-649573144.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Owen Scott","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/hase\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29641,"name":"dating tips for him","slug":"dating-tips-for-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29641,"taxonomy":"category","description":"These are not just any dating tips. 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